My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?
Q. My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...
A. 10 June 2008: Congrats to you and your daughter!
That's the way to go.
Bless them and always be there for them when they need you.... (read in full...)
My husband will not stop looking at porn. How can I make him understand?
Q. My husband will not stop looking at porn. i have asked him to stop but he does it behind my back. when i catch him he turns the argument around on me. i am a heavy woman and i am trying to lose weight. it hurts me because i believe he thinks i am ...
A. 5 June 2008: If you want to make him understand, talking to him is useless.
He will treat it as nagging and will ignore you .
The only way he understands is through actions.
Pack your bags and leave till he hoist the white flag of surrender .
He wil... (read in full...)
My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?
Q. My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...
A. 10 May 2008: I love my daughter unconditionally and without any judgmental views.
Whether she is right or wrong, I will stand by her.
No matter what happens, she deserved my utmost support.
I do not imposed my views or thoughts on her.
She has a rig... (read in full...)
Come on aunts and uncles stop dodging your resposibilities....
Q. I often hear the phrase 'it's not for me to judge'. If no one offers a judgement then how is right and wrong determined in society? Someone batters an old woman, 'it's not for me to judge'....Someone molests a child, 'it's not for me to judge'. Isn...
A. 10 May 2008: As far as I am concerned , there is only one judge and that is Jesus.
What makes you think that you can be a judge and that your
judgment is always correct based on the limited informations posted on here?
How can it be a fair judgment wh... (read in full...)
Page 3 model on his phone. What next? Heaps of porn?
Q. My boyfriend and I were out with his friends the other day, and my boyfriend wanted to show us something on his phone. When he flipped the phone open, there was a picture of a page 3 model which he told us he is using as a screensaver. My ...
A. 9 May 2008: It is just a phase in a man's life.
They will get over it and become more matured and in tune with your feelings.
As they grow older , the realization dawns on them.
Most guys goes through that phase in their life.
If you are unco... (read in full...)
I've been with him 10 months and he's started eyeing up women on tv and in the street. He says its normal but I've told him I dont like it!
Q. Should I leave my fiance? The other night we were watching a movie and everytime a "hot girl" was on the screen he would say something like "she has a nice body", etc. I've already told him that this bothers me, but he won't stop and says that all ...
A. 9 May 2008: Men are like wild stallions and they need to be domesticated.
If you tell him your limits and boundaries,
then he should know it and should not do it our of respect for you.
If he cannot be tamed, then you should set him free.
Wild ho... (read in full...)
I'm feeling jealous and insecure, and it's wrecking our relationship, can you help, please?
Q. I am 41 years old, single, with four children under the age of 14. I have been seeing a wonderful man for the past twelve months. He is caring gets on great with my kids as I do his. We have a great time together and are a great team. The one pr...
A. 8 May 2008: DALE CARNEGIE’S SIX RULES FOR WINNING
1. Be genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile. A man without a smiling face must not open shop.
3. Remember that a man’s name is to him the
sweetest and most important sound in the langu... (read in full...)
Two years...and he still hasn't introduced me to his family!
Q. Hi! I have a relationship problem. My boyfriend is 12 years older than me. He is currently working and i am still in Varsity. The problem is, he was married and has a child from a previous relationship. He doesn't call or give me any attentio...
A. 8 May 2008: It looks like you love him more than he loves you.
He loves his job more than he loves you.
He thinks that you need him more than he needs you.
Are you willing to settle for this status quo ?
Do you want to put your life on 'Hold!'
T... (read in full...)
"If I am 16 and have relations with a consenting 15 year-old girl, is that rape?"
Q. Hi! I'm studing law in history, and one of the questions is, "If i am 16 and have relations with a consenting 15 year-old girl, is that rape?" Please help me answer this question...Thanks....
A. 8 May 2008: In Canada,if the accused person is between the ages of 12
and 16 and the victim is less than two years younger than
the accused and consented to the activity, it is not considered a crime.
From
http://encarta.msn.com/encycl... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with him, how do I tell him without destroying our friendship?
Q. I have been in a sexual relationship with a friend for about a year and a half. About six months into the relationship i fell in love with him. He makes me so happy and i really think that he could be the one for me. How do i tell him this with...
A. 8 May 2008: The point that you are still in a sexual relationship,
means that there is something more than just sex alone .
If it is only sex alone, it will not sustain this relationship this far.
Man give love to get sex.
The best time to tell h... (read in full...)
He's fighting for his kids..but then again - is he just keeping me on the side while he sees if it is going to really work with her?
Q. Well i wrote about a week ago with the problem i had with my boyfriend not being honest.. well it just got a little more complicated!! I started seeing my boyfriend about a month after he had filed for divorce.. but him and his wife had been se...
A. 8 May 2008: You should take a break.
Get away from that situation.
If you are inside, you will not be able to see the problems.
Get out of that place and your mind will be clearer and you will know the answers to your problems.
... (read in full...)
Has anyone gotten divorced due to fighting, arguing, or losing love for the person?
Q. Has anyone gotten divorced due to fighting, arguing, or losing love for the person? I am divorcing due to that, no infidelity, no spousal abuse and i'm dealing with guilt cause i dont feel its justifiable. We lived as room-mates at the end and ...
A. 8 May 2008: Thanks LonelyTwo for your compliments.
Most breakups are due to unrealistic expectations and idealism.
We should love without expecting anything in returns.
It is when our expectations are too high that we get disappointed.
A man... (read in full...)
How does someone increase their libido?
Q. Do people have a certain amount of control over their own sex drives/libidos?? Or is it something that is just the way it is? If you lead a healthy life are you more likely to have a healthy sex drive to match? If someone has a low sex drive...
A. 8 May 2008: To increase your libido , you need to exercise regularly ,
have enough sleep and eat the right kind of food.
More info here;-
http://pinksuzie.com/2007/09/16/how-to-improve-your-sex-life/... (read in full...)
What's the definition of adultery?
Q. Technical question - Are you committing adultery if you aren't the married person in the affair? If you are the girlfriend of a married man, are you still considered to be an adulteress? And would you only be his mistress if he supported you in ...
A. 8 May 2008: Technically , she is not a mistress as the term means a kept woman.
She is his lover as she does not depend on him financially.
If she slept with her lover who is a married man ,
then it is adultery.... (read in full...)
How am I going to last 6 months without him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We see eachother every weekend and only on the weekends because it's somewhat long distance (he lives in NY and I'm in NJ). I love every minute with him, but I miss him so much during the week. I ...
A. 8 May 2008: True friends are people who are there for you,
people who care about you,
and people who love you.
Wherever they are, they are forever etched in your heart.
Time and distance are important between friends.
When a friend is in... (read in full...)
Now he has a girlfriend and wants to be with me and I have a boyfriend and want to be with him!
Q. Ok i need desperate help, i dont know what to do.. i am in love with boy we've dated 3 years on and off. The problem is last month i broke up with him because i needed time i think, i was so confused i didn't know if i really loved him. So i went on ...
A. 8 May 2008: Just follow your heart tells you and ignore what other's say.
It is better that you are happy than others are happy.
It is no point being sad while others are happy.... (read in full...)
Has anyone gotten divorced due to fighting, arguing, or losing love for the person?
Q. Has anyone gotten divorced due to fighting, arguing, or losing love for the person? I am divorcing due to that, no infidelity, no spousal abuse and i'm dealing with guilt cause i dont feel its justifiable. We lived as room-mates at the end and ...
A. 8 May 2008: “I felt guilty for feeling the way I did;
he wasn’t abusive, he didn’t run around with other women,
he didn’t drink or do drugs.
He came home every night and worked hard to support our family.
Despite this, the wall grew, built with ... (read in full...)
I am driving myself insane wondering if am I a fool to think he will not repeat his past as soon as we get into problems?!?
Q. Really need some unbiased advice. Sorry this is long, feel you need enough information as possible. I can't stop worrying about whether or not my partner will cheat on me eventually. I am finding it so hard to trust him, but I can't break up w...
A. 7 May 2008: Keep Believing In Yourself..
By : Unknown
There may be days when you get up in the morning and things
aren’t the way you had hoped they would be.
That’s when you have to tell yourself that things
will get better.
There are times when ... (read in full...)
I'm so deeply hurt and desperately need some wise advice.
Q. Hi everyone, I would truly appreciate some advice/opinions on a really upsetting situation that I have recently found myself in. You won't believe the unbelievable piece of bad luck that I and my girlfriend just experienced... I'm 31, my girl...
A. 7 May 2008: If love is so wonderful to give and of course.. to receive,
why do we allow ourselves to allow outside influences to get us down?
Just go ahead and live in love!
The more you love yourself and others,
the more you allow yourself t... (read in full...)
How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home?
Q. How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home? I know if they really want to be alone chances are they’ll find a way even if parents don’t allow them but what are your views on allowing your kids ...
A. 7 May 2008: That is a recipe for disaster if you allow them to be alone in the bedroom.
If you are in a hurry to have grandchildren , then it is OK.
Sex and emotions are powerful forces even adults cannot handle, let alone teens.... (read in full...)
In my mind, she shouldn't have cheated in the first place. Any advice on what I could tell her?
Q. Ok, so I've got this girlfriend that's been married for 16 years, and just last year cheated on her husband with her boss for a little over a year. They've ended the relationship about 6 months ago. She fell in love with him and I am my wits end ...
A. 7 May 2008: WHY GOD GAVE US FRIENDS
God Knew That Everyone Needs
Companionship And Cheer,
He Knew That People Need Someone
Whose Thoughts Are Always Near.
He Knew They Need Someone Kind
To Lend A Helping Hand.
Someone To Gladly Take The Time
... (read in full...)
What would you think if you found out a friend had punched his 3 yr old?
Q. If you had a mate who always bad-mouthed his ex girlfriend who has his teenage son, and always says it's because of her that he doesn't see his son. But then you were shown a neswpaper report which says, your mate years ago punched his child at 3 ye...
A. 7 May 2008: No one is perfect and everyone make mistakes.
To err is only human.
To judge a person because of one mistake committed years ago is unfair .
Are you guys perfect and never made any mistakes in your whole life?
What concerns us is the... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife have sex with me?
Q. How do I get my wife have sex with me ...
A. 7 May 2008: Make her feel that she is the most beautiful girl on this
planet and the most important person in your life.
Praise her alot and don't criticize her.
Take alot of interest in her activities and appreciate and
value her opinions , va... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 7 May 2008: brooke5426,
Thank you for your views and your time to explain your stand on this matter.I appreciate your efforts.
Your perspective is valid from your point of view.
I would agree with you that nobody can see into the future.
It is onl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says there are hotter girls than me. How can I feel better about myself now?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch lately... I asked him if he was still with me just because of the sex (because it seems it's the time he enjoys the most when he's with me), so he said: "Look, there are hotter girls tha...
A. 6 May 2008: Sometimes a man see things differently and uses words which
may mean another thing to a female.
His intentions is good and telling you that he loves you but the way it was phrased makes you felt insecure.
His message is that he loves... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 6 May 2008: Legally speaking she has every right to press charges
against her brother but ethically and morally was she right?
If he was charged and convicted , he would be in prison for
5 years and with remission 2/3 may come out after 3 years .
H... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 6 May 2008: brooke5426
I don't know how the UK justice works.
If there is no DNA or concrete proof,
how do the courts sentence a man guilty of abuse after it happened 30 or 40 years ago?
It is easy to make allegations of child abuse but t... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 5 May 2008: I would like to share this motivational story here.
"Peeling Onions ."
Through out life a large portion of us have
experienced some type of abuse.
Be it emotional, mental,physical or sexual in nature.
Unfortunately most of us do not... (read in full...)
I invited my father to my house to support him through his recovery, only I just discovered he watches child porn! What should my next steps be??
Q. Where to start... My father had a heart attack nearly a year ago, as he was living on his own I demanded he moved in with me, my partner and our young daughter, until he made a complete recovery. He moved in, retired from his job, moved out his r...
A. 5 May 2008: I agree with happytochat's post. Talk to your husband about it and come to a mutual decision .
It would be much better if your dad stays alone and not with you.
I don't think you should call the police and send him to jail.How can you do that ... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 5 May 2008:
After doing a bit of reading on this topic , I found this information and hope they may help poster.
You could also read 'Breaking Free:
Help for survivors of child sexual abuse' by Carolyn
Ainscough & Kay Toon (Sheldon Press £12.99) ... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 5 May 2008:
The poster should seek a counsellor who is specially trained in helping adult survivors of sexual abuse.
No matter what happened, poster should forgive her parents and brother .
I don't know if the address below is still valid since that art... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 5 May 2008: In many countries , there is a law statute that says after a
number of years (I think 12 years )you cannot bring any
charges against a person after that time lapse.
I think I will retract this statement as I think I made a mistake.
... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 5 May 2008: brooke5426
He was at that material time only 15 and it is not absolute
and he is innocent until proven guilty.
Though under the law ,he is under criminal responsibility but you need to prove that it happened .
Proving it is another m... (read in full...)
He says since all he could offer me was grief he could only really offer me nothing-what does he mean?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for twelve years and he ended a year ago. He was adament that we remain friends and I guess I went along with it as I thought something was better than nothing. We have not had a physical relationship in that time. He sent me ...
A. 5 May 2008: There is another meaning to it .
He told you the truth that he cannot offer you what you want in life.
But if you are willing to be with him , you are welcome .
It is a man's way of saying, I like you but I cannot afford you or give you t... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 5 May 2008: I completely agree with Ask oldersister.
This is the law in UK.
Consent to sexual relationships
England and Wales
In England and Wales the same laws apply to heterosexual and
homosexual activity and offences can be committed by anyone,... (read in full...)
My husband will not stop looking at porn. How can I make him understand?
Q. My husband will not stop looking at porn. i have asked him to stop but he does it behind my back. when i catch him he turns the argument around on me. i am a heavy woman and i am trying to lose weight. it hurts me because i believe he thinks i am ...
A. 4 May 2008:
Some people are too blind .
They can only see with their eyes but not with their hearts.
And the eyes can only see the surface of things.
Do not be rash or too quick to judge a person or u could
regret for the wrong decisions. ... (read in full...)
I need sex, what do I do
Q. i feel like i am going to die without sex what should i do i am 12...
A. 4 May 2008: Hi Katie,
Your post may not be appropriate on this site but I am glad
that you felt better after getting off your chest.
You are never alone ,Jesus is always beside you .
There is not much I can say or do but all I can say is that
,y... (read in full...)
I miss my wife. I just do not know what to do!
Q. My wife has told me that she wants to separate and get a divorce. This came after many years of emotional abuse from my bipolar disorder. This is now no longer a problem due to accepting Jesus back into my heart and medication. During our last ...
A. 4 May 2008: With Faith In God
Out of the darkness and despair
You will find strength anew,
As long as you have faith in God
Within the heart of you.
Each new born day will be more bright,
You’ll find the sun shine through,
To dis... (read in full...)
How can one use somebody for sex and NOT feel guilty??
Q. How do guys (or girls) who use someone for sex, sleep at night? I mean honestly I just dont understand how they can use someone for sex and not feel guilty at all. What makes them think its OK to use someone like that? What goes on in there mind? ...
A. 4 May 2008: They are the low life sub species of the human kind ,
more akin to animals than human beings.
They get what they want by hook or crook.
... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 4 May 2008:
My advise to LonelyTwo ,do not argue with some precocious
and irrational child for you will get nowhere with her.
Better to save your energies and concentrate on helping others.
Damned or be damned with those agony aunts who don't agre... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 4 May 2008:
“The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable,
but the mouth of the wicked, what is perverse.”
Proverbs 10:32
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
and those who love it will eat its fruits.”
Proverbs 18:21
... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 3 May 2008:
Matthew 6:14 (New King James Version)
14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you."
Sorry, I do not reply to posts on my post by agony aunts.
They can take it or leave it.
... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 2 May 2008: She should not have reported it to the police because she
would only ruin his brother's name, bring shame to the
family and destroyed her relationship with her family.
You cannot prove such a case after such a long time and while he was st... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 2 May 2008: LonelyTwo;-
This is what I learned in life.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the
exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned- that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who ca... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 30 April 2008: “Life is like an onion.
You peel off one layer at a time, and sometimes you weep.”
Anger is like a splinter in your finger.
If you leave it there, it gets infected and hurts every time
you use your finger.
If you remove it, th... (read in full...)
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