A
female
age
41-50,
*oyis25
writes:I dated a guy (Ulises) July of 2007 to Nov. 2007. We had a really ugly break-up and did not talk to eachother. Until the middle of Feb, 2008. He apologized many times for all the things that he did and the way that we broke up. I had decided to give him a chance to see if he had changed and was really wanting to earn my trust. Now, he was the one who would call me and look for me, he would even call me at work when I was not able to answer my cell phone. There were several instances that he called and would sing me love songs. I really thought that he was wanting to change and ask if I wanted to give him a second chance. I always had my guard up and once in a while would say something sweet to him. It seemed that he really wanted to patch things up, but didn't actually say that to me, nor did he actually say he loved me still. But he tried to let me know but other ways, like complementing me, or singing me a love song. However, yesterday I sent him a text message and asked him a question about a car. 10 min. Later he called me pissed and asked me to not call him anymore because his girlfriend did not like the fact that I sent him a text message (he never had mentioned a girlfriend before), and he even had the "girlfriend" talk to me and ask me to not call him anymore. The funny thing is that the voice of the girlfriend sounded like his sister-in-law. I am soooo confused about what happened because I don't know why he acts this way. What happened yesterday was almost the same thing that happened the time we broke up in Nov. I don't know what to think or why he would suddenly act this way. Can someone please help me understand? Thanks
View related questions:
at work, broke up, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, yoyis25 +, writes (13 May 2008):
yoyis25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. I am still confused to why he would be playing stupid games, however, I will stay strong and not answer his calls. Thanks, again.
A
male
reader, PeterPan +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Placed in the same situation, I would "cut and run". Wasting another minute on this guy's probably not in your best interests. Don't be friends, don't contact him, don't take his calls... just cut him off and be done with it. Move on to greener pastures. And I agree -- there's nothing to understand here. Forget it and lead a happier life (that's the best revenge anyway).
Best wishes...
...............................
A
female
reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 I am only speculating here.
It could be that he saw or heard something negative about you
and was piqued or jealous and thus that irrational behaviour.
Rather than confronting you for the truth ,
he chose that coward's way.
When events have played out, you will know the truth sooner or later.
...............................
A
male
reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Hi,
the best way to understand it is to not understand it.
If you see what I mean.
Some people are just absolute relationship train wrecks. They appear normal in all other matters but when it comes to getting involved romantically they are emotional basketcases.
The best thing to do is not try and work it out. You can't as he is behaving irrationally. Now the worst thing you can do is try and figure out why he is behaving irrationally. This is where control freaks turn it around on you: "I'm only like this because YOU don't......(insert various put downs here). Then they get inside your head and before you know it, you have lost all your friends and you are living with a grade A prick who takes all his messed up shit out on you!
So thank your lucky stars you arent married to this man and delete his number from your phone. If he calls tell him to go away. Easy.
good luck.
...............................
|
