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writes:There is a guy that I like but not enough to try to go anywhere other than hanging out at his house every once in a while. I think he thinks I want a relationship but I want to get the point across that I don't want to be a date. I like his company and cuddling and stuff but there is no way I'd want to date him. How do I say that without coming across as a mean person. I can't tell if he wants the same thing. I just want company and to hook up some nights. How do I get that across. I think saying exactly that makes me sound a little crazy so I want a better way to phrase it because I think he wants the same thing but now I never know. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2015): Actually, just say it exactly the way you did here. Guys like clarity.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (25 February 2015):
If you do value the person it wont hurt to be straight forward. If you aren't clear about what you want then your actions tell a different story and someone in his position will only feel used (assuming he wants to date).
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 February 2015):
 Maybe you have to be like a Christian Grey (in fifty shades of grey). Say dinner and movies are not my thing. Until then you don't have to say anything. I think you are what many men are looking for. You haven't had sex yet, just cuddling. Maybe he is dating you in order to get access to your inner parts, and also to make you his territory so that you don't mess around with other men. You are not alone here. I think many people just want to cut to the chase, and be honest. You may be surprised how many people don't care about doing the extra stuff to feel like they are in relationships. Many are satisfied with companionship and sex alone.
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