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writes:Ok so I'm in a little bit of a predicament. I really like this guy that works down the street from me at this food place and we do text each other and tease one another playfully when we see each other around town. Hes ridiculously shy and has told me before that he's always been that way so things haven't been moving as fast as I like them to. We haven't even hugged yet! The other day I went in there to get my usual stuff and I said that I had something to ask him.... It was supposed to be a joke and I was going to say something silly but I ended up walking out which led to him rapid fire texting me about what it was all about and that he's dying to know what I wanted to ask him. I played along with it and said Itd have to Wait till later. He then asked if I wanted to go to dinner this week so I could tell him because the anticipation is killing him he said. I agreed to go but now I'm stuck with nothing to Tell him. I really want to kiss him because it hasn't happened yet so I'm thinking when he asks me what I wanted to say I could just go for it and tell him that I liked him. I'm just nervous that he doesn't feel the same way or I'll get denied. I've never done anything like this before. What do I do? Should I use my joke as a way to move things along?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 February 2015):
 yeah if it's two months of fun and games he's just having a bit of fun and is not serious I'm pretty sure.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 February 2015):
 Only once in two months? That isn't much if you are looking to date someone, specially if you two love/work close to each other.
A whole lot of texting doesn't = getting to know a person, specially if 50% is flirting. (just saying)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's been 2 months of flirting and he's already taken me out once before.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 February 2015):
SLOW down..
Go out on the date. GET to know him before even THINKING of jumping his bones.
If he asks you what the question was, then tell him - maybe I wanted to ASK you out.
Don't try and USE joking as a cover for being nervous. It can often enough be interpreted the WRONG way.
SO chill, little lady. Go on the date, have fun and hopefully it will lead to more dated and more getting to know him.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 February 2015):
 Even if you have nothing to tell him that's fine. The suspense is what draws him to you. He would get it if that's your intention. He would just assume that the thing you wanted to ask him was to ask him out. He already asked you to dinner. He read your mind and did it for you. He would just be as nervous as you, being rejected. As to what to tell him, it's up to that moment. If it feels right I would just kiss him on the cheek.
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