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36-40,
*rixy_21
writes:Hi, I'm a single mom 3 years ago. After what happen to me to the father of my baby it happen second time around but this time i was falling inlove with a married man and they dont have child since his wife cant give him a child that he want. At first were very much comfortable to each other we have lots in common like and dislikes. We admit each other that we both like and happy each others company until we became very close that come into more intimate and we had sex already 3 times. We do lots of hug and kissess since we are just who stay in one room because he is my boss. Until one day we are almost caught by other people and we feel nervous because if that happen we will both terminated to our work. That night i was praying, i ask for forgiveness i've done of having a relationship with a married and i ask another chance to the lord that hope that the man dont see us or else we will loose our job. The other day come we talk but i get more distant to him coz i try to make what i promise to god. He try to hug and kiss me but i rejected his hug and kisses and hoping that he will understand. And he keep asking himself why i act like that until one day he never talk, smile to me and we never do some joke topics which we almost had before.I'm so sad because until now i feel rejected and used. I'm waiting for some closure from him but never heard from him. I keep on saying to my mind that i need to move on or else i will be the one who will suffer but its so hard for me to do that since i was able to see him almost everyday because he is my boss. And the worst thing is i heard lots of hearting words from him and actions he start to flirting my officemates and its really painful coz i really see it.....what should i do to lessen the pain i have right now?how do i know whats in his mind if he really loves me or not or he is just playing my feelings....hope to hear any advice soon....
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 July 2010):
You have been used. Completely. That's your closure, and this is the price of having an affair with a married man. The only real way to lesson your pain is to change jobs. Other than that, you're just going to have to go into work every day and bit your lip and say nothing.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 If you want to move on you have to accept that you fell in love with the wrong person at the wrong time. It's true that he probably loved you somehow, but nothing is going to come out of it. Him flirting with other women is already closure for you. There is no reason to feel rejected because you rejected him first. By rejecting him you are already giving him closure. It is too obvious to have state your reasons. He's only asking you why you behaved this way to see if you still have to soft spots for him. You and your other female coworkers are not victims, because you all know that he's married. You returned your affections after he flirted with you and you did that at your own discretion. Your boss is not the only man you see during the day. Start talking to other men outside of work.
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