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writes: So, I was recently dumped by my boyfriend. This hurt very badly, I still care about him so much, and I hate to admit it, but I think if we started talking again I might just fall all over again.The thing that bothers me the most is why he broke up with me and a conversation we had soon after.To me he said he simply didn't want a relationship, which I accepted. Come to find out, it's because I'm not "sociable" enough. I don't like going to parties, so what?And later that night after he broke up with me he texted me asking if I was okay, which I found odd. I said, yes I'm fine. He replied,"I just don't want you to hurt yourself."Now, I have struggled with depression in the past, but I wouldn't ever hurt myself over a break up. To me that just showed how big his freaking ego is!My main reason for writing this, how can I just get over him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): Your ex was full of crap to say the least. One thing women must learn to do is not show they care too soon and don't ask where "this" is going. People put to much emp. on a relationship rather than focusing on building love, trust and respect FIRST and these things take time. Yeah, he may have wanted a relationship, but what good is it without love, respect, honor and loyality? People get into relationships all the time, but it doesn't mean a damn thing. This is why I not hyped up about a relationship or marraige because, what matters the most to me is 1. The feelings a person has, 2. Loyality and 3. Respect. Once both parties have obtained all three things at that point, a relationship can be considered whether it be marriage or just a girlfriend or boyfriend relationship.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 This relationship is a lie. People say all the time they don't want a relationship but yet they go into it. They go into it just so they can say they don't want a relationship. I bet he didn't tell you this before you entered into this relationship. So he lied to you about wanting a relationship because he needs someone to want to have a relationship with him, without the responsibilities. Through this experience you will be able to look at guys more carefully. A little partying is okay, but get to know the guys better before you fall in love with them. You get over him by knowing that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and that pressure to be more sociable is just bullshit.
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