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I enjoy travel and learning new things. Different cultures interest me and what makes them tick. I think there is always a reason for the way certain cultures do things and many times we are too quick to judge things that we find odd.
The more places I go and the more people I meet, the more I see that we are so similar. Everybody is trying to enjoy life but we are all influenced along the way by the stuff that "happens". The trick is to learn from the lessons and carry on. I have a short fuse for infedility and take marriage very seriously. It's not from personal experiences either. I just don't understand why people don't seem to fix the problems in their marriages before they create more. I see lots of questions on this site pertaining to this topic, that's why I added this part. |
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26 September 2007: Why is it that people get involved in love triangles and feel rejected when they don't work out? Why do so many agony aunts treat the third member of the triangle as a victim? I'm tired of hearing people reccommend.... "distance yourself from hi...
Fidelity and marriage
This question has 12 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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8 May 2007: Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
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I cheated on my boyfriend.... I think!
Q. i really need some help. i was very drunk and i think i cheated on my boyfriend who i love more than anything. i dont know why i did it, as the one thing i hate more than anything is people who cheat. sadly, i am not totally sure that i did it as i ...
A. 15 March 2006: Are you sure your boyfriend will handle the fact that you put another mans penis in your mouth. That's blunt but true. I'm sure he'll be happy to have that image painted in his mind every time he kisses you. Don't blame the drink. You made a ... (read in full...)
Met a new, male friend that I'm VERY attracted to and not sure if I should admit my feeling to my boyfriend...
Q. Hi. I'm a 36 year old woman and have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 11 years and, for the most part, we are very happy together. Marriage has been discussed, but neither of us are very anxious to make that happen (we are comfortable and ...
A. 15 March 2006: you made a big mistake and now you have to live with it. Telling your guy would only hurt his feelings and cause him pain. If you felt like kissing some dude, you should have left your boyfriend first. People allow themselves to fall inot these ... (read in full...)
Anyway, *she* is dishonest and *I* am developing stalker-like behaviour because of it...
Q. I can't trust my girlfriend #1 and I'm way jealous of her #2! Here's the deal.. I met a BEAUTIFUL girl, 10 out of 10, in the looks category. She's fun to be with, she tells me she loves me and I believe her, and we've been together since O...
A. 14 March 2006: Miss bunbury is mostly right, especially about the stalker part. You're going to drive yourself crazy. I understand how this situation makes you nervous. It could explode on you someday too. You could be right about everything. If that happens, ... (read in full...)
Found pictures of his ex.... why is he keeping them?
Q. I've been married for a year and a half. Today I was looking for some bank info and stumbled across naked photos of my husband's ex-girlfriend. I know they are old, but why is he keeping them? The worst part is, she's a lot more attractive than ...
A. 14 March 2006: You're correct. He did marry you for a reason. He loves you !! Sure, she might be physically more beautiful. So what? She probably always was and might always be. What does that tell you about your man? He picked you, right?
If you're n... (read in full...)
My husband don't mind if I find a sexual partner, is this normal??
Q. OK. Here it is. I am married with a young child. I love my husband very much and he says he loves me. But he has no sex drive whatsoever. We last had sex 2 months ago and before that it was 6 months previously. I have tried most things to g...
A. 13 March 2006: Do you want to do it? Does the idea turn you on? What about disease?... (read in full...)
I get the feeling my friend's husband is interested in me, and we have holidays planned together!
Q. I think my friend's husband is interested in me, and I'm not sure what to do. Never happened to me before! I've caught this man staring at me(ok-once or twice)in the last few weeks, and now I find out from my friend that he's unhappy in their...
A. 13 March 2006: Tell your husband. He will be happy you were able to see what this guy was up to. It will make him feel confident about your marriage. It seems a little attention feels good, especially to peopel who have been married for a while but it sounds ... (read in full...)
When I'm in a bad mood..I tend to think about her past way too much.
Q. hi, i've been seeing my girlfriend for about a year now, but need some help! im not sure if its just me...basically i love mine n my girlfrinds relationships, its gr8. but wen im in a bad mood i tend to think about her past n what i dont know...my ...
A. 13 March 2006: Since it's none of your business, leave it. What are you going to do if you here something you don't like, scold her? Find out why you feel threatened. It comes from inside you.... (read in full...)
He's played me for a fool but I'm still with him... Why!?
Q. I have been with my husband for 15 years, i had an affair 5 years ago after problems in our relationship and we split for a while. In which time he slept with a mutual friend of ours. we got back together after 6 months and I thought we were happy. ...
A. 13 March 2006: He probably doesn't really trust you. You can't blame hi either. Maybe he's trying to pay you back. Stop having kids with him. You might not be togsther for long. Their seems to be no respect in the relationship.... (read in full...)
I've never been round his house, met his friends, or his family, and he won't tell me where he lives!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for about 7 months. I have never been to his apartment. When we first started talking to each other, he told me that he had a bad experience with someone keying his car and was not ready to tell me where he ...
A. 13 March 2006: I can't think of a good readon why he keeps you from his house. If he's not married, he's strange. Come on, this does not make sense. If something is tha wrong at his home, he should tell you. If he doesn't tell you, he's hiding something. ... (read in full...)
We're lovers. She's married. She also had an affair with a younger man... Will she leave her husband for me?
Q. Dear Cupid, She came to work for me 4 years ago. At first nothing much happened, but after about 6 months we started to get close to each other. At first just friends and then much later a really close relationship. She is now 32 has a partner ...
A. 13 March 2006: You and her are both morally bankrupt. You deserve eachother in some sad way. Let me see, you're hurt because your cheating married lady also cheated on you. Not to mention you cheat on your wife. I can't believe you're asking for advice. Does ... (read in full...)
Anyway, *she* is dishonest and *I* am developing stalker-like behaviour because of it...
Q. I can't trust my girlfriend #1 and I'm way jealous of her #2! Here's the deal.. I met a BEAUTIFUL girl, 10 out of 10, in the looks category. She's fun to be with, she tells me she loves me and I believe her, and we've been together since O...
A. 11 March 2006: OK, let's see. How old are you guys? It seems to me she is playing games.
When was it these guys tried to kiss her.
Was it before you?
If it wasn't before you, why was she so close, I mean face to face, that they could attempt a kiss?
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I feel that a man needs a vent for peace of mind, my wife disagrees and pressured me to sell my beloved dirt-bike! Reasonable or not?
Q. Do I need a swift kick? Hello, I'd appreciate any wisdom that this community could share. I first realize that my issue is pretty small compared to many others, but I still want to do the right things in life. I am a 31-year-old business man wi...
A. 11 March 2006: I think your wife is not being reasonable. Everybody deserves and needs some type of diversion from time to time. I don't think it's the money she's worried about or the time. If she was, she would never have suggested golf. Point that out to ... (read in full...)
Anyway, *she* is dishonest and *I* am developing stalker-like behaviour because of it...
Q. I can't trust my girlfriend #1 and I'm way jealous of her #2! Here's the deal.. I met a BEAUTIFUL girl, 10 out of 10, in the looks category. She's fun to be with, she tells me she loves me and I believe her, and we've been together since O...
A. 11 March 2006: I'll revise my prvious reply. After reading your update, she's out of line. It seems she likes the attention from these guys and is putting herself in the line of fore. She might never go past that point but she is leading these guys on. They ... (read in full...)
Anyway, *she* is dishonest and *I* am developing stalker-like behaviour because of it...
Q. I can't trust my girlfriend #1 and I'm way jealous of her #2! Here's the deal.. I met a BEAUTIFUL girl, 10 out of 10, in the looks category. She's fun to be with, she tells me she loves me and I believe her, and we've been together since O...
A. 10 March 2006: I've been in your shoes before. My wife of 20 years is also a knkockout. Men ALWAYS look twice. SHe turns almost every head when she enters a room. I have always taken it as a compliment, except once. I lost my mind because some sent her a ... (read in full...)
My husband don't mind if I find a sexual partner, is this normal??
Q. OK. Here it is. I am married with a young child. I love my husband very much and he says he loves me. But he has no sex drive whatsoever. We last had sex 2 months ago and before that it was 6 months previously. I have tried most things to g...
A. 10 March 2006: I don't think that's normal. It seems he is insterested in sex, but a different brand. His idea of fun is to watch you having fun. It's not unheard of but it seems the idea pleases him more than you. Does this interest you?... (read in full...)
I cheated in my mind, and my husband is angry and hurt...
Q. I cheated on my husband and brought him home in my mind and fucked my husband thinking of the other guy. He is extremely hurt and I destroyed his self confidence and dignity. He feels small and worthless in a sexual way. I don't want to lose him but ...
A. 9 March 2006: Everybody is correct here. Your thoughts are yours and sometimes they are what keep us sane. Teling your husband was a strange move though. WEre you trying to punish him for something.
Men like to feel like we are the "only" guy who could turn... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: I like the private email as well as the discussion board idea. The only thing about the open discussion boardsis they usually get taken over by people talking about non sense in code language.... (read in full...)
My partner wants to cum on my face but it makes me feel violated!
Q. I've been in a relationship for over four years, we love each other madly and have a child together. However, my partner wants to come on my face during sex and is unhappy (which I find unbearable to live with) when I refuse to let him. I feel vio...
A. 5 March 2006: First, don't do it ! This is one of those areas where it's good to try and satisfy your partner, within limits. I'd say this would fall outside of what many would descibe as acceptable. He should understand this. If you wanted to do it, that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still in touch with an ex-bootycall... Why?
Q. My boyfriend of one year just moved in with me 3mos ago the problem is he stays in contact with an ex fuckbuddy frequently...He says I'm jealous and he isn't giving up his friendship which is platonic now. anmy feedback?...
A. 4 March 2006: I wouldn't like that either. If the basis of the relationship was sex and there was no emotional attachment, it could happen again. Did they do this often? Was it once or twice. These are important questions. He should repect your wishes though ... (read in full...)
In love with my husband's friend... Was this "gaze" a sign?
Q. I'm married and I'm in love with my husband's friend. Last time I saw him I just couldn't take my eyes off him till he looked at me and we made a very strong, long eye contact. I had never looked into someone's eyes like that before. The gaze was ...
A. 4 March 2006: He was probably wondering why his friends wife would be so out of line to keep staring like that. He might also have felt pity for his pal, being married to a woman like you. Why would you start down this path? You're only looking for trouble and ... (read in full...)
Married, but seperated, now in love with a married man!
Q. I am a married woman, but separated from my husband. I have stupidly fallen deeply in love with a married man. We spend as much time together as possible, not sexually we just love being together. He says that he loves me and I have replied those ...
A. 4 March 2006: Why would you stick yourself into this. People create the biggest problems for themselves and then wonder what happened. Leave him with the people he should be with, his wife and daughter!!... (read in full...)
Not sure I can cut my ties to this married guy who I've been a friend and lover to all my life...
Q. I am 37 years old and have had a male friend for approx 20 years - for a number of these year we have been romantically linked and he has lived with me for a while - my sister is married to his brother. Two years ago, he left me and has married ...
A. 4 March 2006: First of all, take a look in the mirror and realize how selfish and out of line you've been. Then call Romeo over and let him take a gander too. At himself I mean. Grow up and leave him alone. What are you trying to prove? You're number two. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend *only* has female friends!
Q. My new boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month. Our relationship is great but there is one problem (it's my problem). He ONLY has female friends, which bugs me. I am the jealous type-so I asked him why he hasnt dated any of them ...
A. 4 March 2006: Unless he's giving you a solid reason to question him, leave it alone. That is, as long as he keeps a respectable distance from them and isn't flirting. Keep an eye on it though.... (read in full...)
My GF's married, male friend keeps hitting on her. She says she wants it to stop, but then lets it continue...
Q. My girlfriend has a married friend that won't stop hitting on her. He is married and he and his wife are expecting a child. He constantly sends text messages to my girlfriend; from work and several when drunk after work at the bar. This upsets my ...
A. 1 March 2006: She likes the attention. She's probably not going to act on it but is a little needy. The guy is a jerk. Make sure she knows that. This is how many people take the first step in the wrong direction.... (read in full...)
We broke up because of the fighting and incompatible sex drives. Will that help us get over the problems?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up. We are both without a doubt still in love, but we just don't have any sexual chemistry. We have been fighting,and think it stems from the uncompatible sex. I am not that much of a sexual person, but I would like to ...
A. 1 March 2006: This is one thing I have a difficult time understanding. If sex is a good thing, and let's assume it is, why do people with low sex drives not take responsability for fixing them. If you're both content with the way things are, no problem. If one ... (read in full...)
Two women! One likes sex... the other one doesn't. Who do I choose?
Q. hi ive been with my girlfriend for 10 years and we planned to buy a house and settle down together, the only problem was there was little or no sex, ive recently met someone and ive fallen for her and the sex is amazing. i could make a life with ...
A. 28 February 2006: I don't know how old you are or how much you've talked about this with your partner. Try to find a way to fix this. It's really too bad you chose the easy way out before doing the harder work of fixing things. It's sad how easily people are ... (read in full...)
I don't like my gf's new friendship with this guy! Should I be concerned?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now and we have gotten extremely close. She went off to college and has been hanging out with another guy an awful lot. He knows about me and she insists to me that I have nothing to worry about. ...
A. 28 February 2006: You've got reason to be concerned. Thre are many temptations out there and it seems your girlfriend has found somebody who would like to tempt her. I'm sure you feel powerless over this too as you're apart.
Smeedle, was correct. You can't fo... (read in full...)
What do men want in a woman?
Q. hi, just a question for all the guys, what do men want in a women? is it all about looks or is it something else...
A. 27 February 2006: This is a good one. I've had reasons to think about this over the past couple years. I've been maried for 20 years. Much of what a guy wants in a woman has to do with age and what stage of a relationship you're in.
I was engaged after 2 months... (read in full...)
My best friend is married with two kids...and I'm in love with her! Help!
Q. i fell in love with my best friend and she feel's the same the only problem is she is married with 2 young children.I want more from this relationship i want us to be together and live together. She say's she wants the same. Everytime i bring the ...
A. 27 February 2006: Mind your business. Have some decency man. ... (read in full...)
How can I recapture that love again?
Q. well i have my6 boyfriend for 4 yrs but the thing is rite now i just feel love less i dont seem to love him any more wat can i do the sex is even different wat can i do to capture that love again i know i love him but just not as deep as i would ...
A. 25 February 2006: Well this might have something to do with your age. don't know how old you are but if you're young maybe it's a good thing he was just a boyfriend. That's what dating is for. It could be time to move on. If you're a little older maybe it's time ... (read in full...)
How will he view me if we have anal sex?
Q. I am in new relationship, we are very much in love and we're happy. The sex is good, it wasn't to begin with, which we discussed and now it's good and getting better all the time. However we recently discussed Anal sex and I'm worried now that If I ...
A. 22 February 2006: Is anal sex something you want? Who's idea was it. If it's your idea and you want it, then do it. If it's something he's pushing you towards, wait for some time to see what his motives are.... (read in full...)
In a relationship for 6 years, but now I fancy someone else. We've already kissed and I can't get him out of my mind!
Q. Hi, I’m in a relationship 6yrs and recently have bought a house with my partner. I’ve always been a bit of a flirt but never took it further, but recently I’ve started to really fancy another guy. I’ve known him since my early teens but never ...
A. 22 February 2006: You're opening up a can of worms. Why don't you be honest and put an end to this or move on with the guy. Does your boyfriend deserve this rotten treatment?... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to his phone call with his ex?
Q. Hi, a week or so ago my boyfriend's ex rang him to find out how his interview went... when she rang he left the room to talk to her and an argument ensued. When he came back into the room I asked if he was ok and he responded saying "Nothing, it's ...
A. 22 February 2006: He sounds evasive. You have reason to be upset. You snooped becasue you had a gut feeling. You were correct. I'd like to know why he's lying. You'll n ever get past it if you don't confront him. This will haunt you. Deal with it now. If he ... (read in full...)
How true is it that a man knows instinctively when he meets the woman he's going to marry?
Q. I really need some advice. I've been wondering, is it true a guy knows almost instantly when he meets his future wife? I've heard many stories from guys I know who have said they knew...and I was wondering how true people think this is....
A. 21 February 2006: It happened to me and I'm married 20 years. I think it's just a fluke though. Who really knows. Since 50 % of mariages fail anyway, what difference does it make. Love takes time.... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to someone else but my boyfriend and I live together now...
Q. Ok, I'm 18 and i have been with my current boyfriend for three years, we have broken up twice during this time and I saw other people when we were apart. I dumped him both of these times. Now we are living together, and i moved out of state to ...
A. 21 February 2006: First of all, you're very young. Yo've been with this guy since you were 15. There must be problems in your relationship if this could so easily get you to consider cheating. This is the way I usually see it, so you go and cheat this time. What ... (read in full...)
My gf says nothing happened but I have a feeling it did. How can I find out?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and just recently she went on a cruise with a girlfriend. They met like 5 guys that they hung out with the whole time. She called me every night when she was going to bed except for one night she said they ...
A. 20 February 2006: Well, your reason for being worried is a little extreme, concerning the phone call. The crying on her part though would be a red flag for me. What does she say when you ask her. Is she crying because you don't trust her or is she saying she ... (read in full...)
My best friend wont talk to me anymore after I met her ex!!
Q. Hay, I am really down at the moment because my best friend doesn’t want to talk to me anymore!! She says she doesn’t trust me. Let me explain … my friend met a lad in a bar and got on really well with him. A few days later they were going out, hav...
A. 20 February 2006: Do you think it was wise to make special arrangements to meet someone face to face so you could tell him you couldn't see him? I can see why she's angry. You said you liked him a little too and I suspect that's why you met him. At least, part of ... (read in full...)
I had to confess everything about my affair, but my wife says I have no right to ask about her...
Q. Quick bit of history. I dated my wife all through college and have been married for 17 years. 3 years ago I had a year long affair. My wife and I through many hours of counseling are still together and very happy. My question. For ...
A. 20 February 2006: I think you're feeling guilty about what you did and are perhaps projecting those feelings onto you wife. Do you have any reason to think she cheated on you? Maybe you just want to share the blame. I'm not sure if the answer that you had no right ... (read in full...)
In love with my co-worker for four years but I have said nothing and he has been dating someone else for three years!!
Q. I have been in love with a co-worker for four years. When I first met him, I wasn't interested in a relationship or in starting something with a co-worker. But, as time went on, I found myself having feelings for him. By the time I realized that ...
A. 20 February 2006: Leave him alone. If he likes you, he's tryng hard to fight it. That's what you're supposed to do when you're in a relationship. He seserves credit for that. Find another man. You don't need to know about "what if". In tis case it's none of ... (read in full...)
I daydream about another guy, even though I'd never cheat on my boyfriend..
Q. Are my "Crushes" something to worry about? I've been with my boyfriend for over two years and I love him more than anyone but lately I've been daydreaming about other guys, in particular, a guy from college. I only know him to see, I don't ev...
A. 18 February 2006: These are normal feelings. That is what makes us tick as humans. The fact that we stay loyal to our mates is what makes us morally good. There are certain components that attract us to others. We need these in order for the species to continue. ... (read in full...)
If I ask him out, is he going to think I'm too forward?
Q. From a guy's perspective, is it off-putting if a woman initiates asking for a first date? ... This is someone who I've known for for quite a while but only see and speak to briefly. Obviously I'd like to get to know them better and have thought ...
A. 18 February 2006: Ask him! Any man would see it as somewhat of a compliment. Don't forget, it feels good to be noticed for men too.... (read in full...)
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