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I enjoy travel and learning new things. Different cultures interest me and what makes them tick. I think there is always a reason for the way certain cultures do things and many times we are too quick to judge things that we find odd.
The more places I go and the more people I meet, the more I see that we are so similar. Everybody is trying to enjoy life but we are all influenced along the way by the stuff that "happens". The trick is to learn from the lessons and carry on. I have a short fuse for infedility and take marriage very seriously. It's not from personal experiences either. I just don't understand why people don't seem to fix the problems in their marriages before they create more. I see lots of questions on this site pertaining to this topic, that's why I added this part. |
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26 September 2007: Why is it that people get involved in love triangles and feel rejected when they don't work out? Why do so many agony aunts treat the third member of the triangle as a victim? I'm tired of hearing people reccommend.... "distance yourself from hi...
Fidelity and marriage
This question has 12 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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8 May 2007: Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
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Insecure boyfriend
Q. My bf really has trust issues. He wont let me do anything. i cant even go to the tanning bed because a guy that i used to mess with lives close to there. how can i get him to trust me more?...
A. 20 May 2006: Well you've found out that the truth is the way to go. You're going to have to pay this price for a while BUT, not forever. He shouldn't have been so concerned about your past life. By telling him a lie though you gave him reason to wonder. ... (read in full...)
Insecure boyfriend
Q. My bf really has trust issues. He wont let me do anything. i cant even go to the tanning bed because a guy that i used to mess with lives close to there. how can i get him to trust me more?...
A. 19 May 2006: Well, you left out the "I LIED" before part. That tells me something about you. So his insecurity is actually somewhat understandable because you gave him reason to have those feelings. Now he's stuck on it. What was the nature of the lie? How ... (read in full...)
He is not my intellectual equal
Q. so im with this great guy...problem is just(this is going to sound harsh)that he is not very intelligent. He is nice, sweet, caring, affectionate, tolerant and not jealous at all of my male friends. I am also very attracted to him physical...
A. 19 May 2006: Irf he's not for you then he's not for you. Don't knock people who don't go to university though. Many university grads are waiting tables and washing cars. There is nothing wrong with college. You'll learn that when you become more mature and ... (read in full...)
Forbidden Chemistry
Q. i have developed feelings for this guy in work. I've always liked him and we hit it off straight away when i first started, but recently over the last month or so theres just been a spark between us, like the room is just electric whenever we're ...
A. 19 May 2006: You ae thinking about wrecking someones life or you wouldn't be writing this question. That's the same reason you go drinking with him and put yourself in those positions. What you're feeling isn't physically wrong but morally, it is. At least ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend cheat on holiday?
Q. what are the signs a b/f or g/f cheated while away on vacation without you? My b/f has called me atleast 3 times a day and the times i did call him--most of the time he would pick up even if he was out at some loud bar with friends. He would go ...
A. 19 May 2006: I've been in your shoes. It's uncomfortable. Why do you insist that he must have cheated? I know the getting too friendly feeling too. It drives you crazy to picture him sitting in a bar chatting with some girl. You imagine the tone of the ... (read in full...)
Mixed race relations are banned by his father
Q. I hope someone can give me some advice on this... Basically I've just split up with my boyfriend of two years (for the second time) the reasons for our split is that his dad will not meet me or allow me to go round his house as he doesn't believe in ...
A. 19 May 2006: That isn't a mixed race relationship, it's a mixed nationality. Either way, your parents are stuck in the past. Live your life.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been hanging out with other girls
Q. Hi, My BF went to a bike rally for a week. He went out one night as did i. I call him at 2 am at the hotel and he was just getting in. He said tonight wasn't anything great. And i said you were with the guys? He said there was a group of us. But...
A. 19 May 2006: The others are correct. If you have issues, they may start with yourself. I have been there. What do you expect him to do when he is in the company of other women? Do you expect him to go and wait in the car? Do you expect him to put his ... (read in full...)
Insecure boyfriend
Q. My bf really has trust issues. He wont let me do anything. i cant even go to the tanning bed because a guy that i used to mess with lives close to there. how can i get him to trust me more?...
A. 18 May 2006: You can't change him. Only he can do that. What he's showing you now are signs of a future disaster. Where were you? Who was with you? Who did you talk to? etc. If you put up with this, you'll be paying a price for crimes you never committed, ... (read in full...)
Shaving fantasy
Q. Why are guys so fascinated in women shaving? My boyfriend wants me to and he's given me a few reasons i just wondered if anyone could enlighten me further. thanks...
A. 18 May 2006: To many men, it's JUST sexy. Some things don't really hae a reason or need to be explained. Why shouldn't men like a shaaved vagina? Why do you shave your armpits and legs? ( if you do) There's really no good reason. Why don't most men shave ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but there's this attractive woman at work who likes me! What should I do?
Q. Hi There. I'm in a spot of bother at the moment. I'm married,quite happily and have 2 children and darly love my wife. BUT.... there's this girl (yeah I know!!!) whom I work with. We get along great and she's really attractive. She's engaged to...
A. 18 May 2006: I agree with everyone else. This is a ridiculous question. Either you don't have a grip o reality or you're joking. After everything you said to describe your relationship at home, why ae you asking this?... (read in full...)
His nice & we have chemistry but he already has a girlfriend!
Q. iv fallen for a guy but,he has a girlfriend of 8 years!we have known each other for about 3months and we had instant chemistry. he was honest with me from the start and is always sayin he doesnt want me to get hurt. i think its to late for that.im ...
A. 18 May 2006: I don't feel sorry for you. You're really making your own problems. Actually you should be ashamed for sticking your nose where it doesn't belong. Sorry to be so blunt but some things are so obvious.... (read in full...)
Am i paranoid? or could he be cheating?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and our relaistionship has been great. We really care about eachother and have even talked about marriage. Lately, both of us have been really busy finishing graduate school and we hardly see eachother. ...
A. 18 May 2006: He may nbot be cheating but he's flirting heavily. He really shouldn't have those text messages. That's bad judgment.... (read in full...)
We've been in love but no longer feel special or happy.. is it too late?
Q. when i first met my boyfriend i was so in love with him that there wasnt a second went by i didnt think of him. but over the years it seem to have gone .now i feel like we dont share anything part from the bills he never makes me feel special ...
A. 18 May 2006: Well. the good news is you've identified a problem. It's a common one too. We all do it from time to time and to different extents. The "it" I'm referring to is taking eachother for granted.
We become complacent and fall into a routine.... (read in full...)
Is my sisters marriage more important to her relationship with me, her brother
Q. Is my sisters marriage more important to her relationship with me, her brother? I hate to sound selfish but this question has been bothering me for a while. Me and my sister were really close before she got married, but now its like I don'...
A. 13 May 2006: This doesn't sound aas much selfish as it does wierd. Are you a little too close to sis? I mean, what are you thinking about? Somesay you'll be in the same spot. I mean c'mon. "does she love him more" ? What kind of question is that?... (read in full...)
He's married, he ignores me and only comes around to see me for sex, but I love him so much.
Q. Hi, i need some help to sort my true feelings. have been in a long distance relationship with the man i luv truly. emails, phones, letters, gifts almost five years. we have had our ups n downs, but until recently i realised i need to move on becos i ...
A. 13 May 2006: Martini is correct. How can you get so deep into something you should never have had in the first place?... (read in full...)
My guy won't let me go out with out him, what can I do? I feel trapped!
Q. Hi,i am in this 11months relationship with this guy, and he asked me for engagement after 6 months that we have been together. Now i am living with him in the counrty side, away from the city and away from all my friends. He won't let me go out ...
A. 4 May 2006: Run from this man. If you think he controls you now, wait til you marry./ It will be worse. It will just make things more complicated. You can't control people in life. Youre already tired of it, why go further. Is he going tolive the rest of ... (read in full...)
Feel guilty about my collegues crush, Whats the best option??
Q. OK, so i am a married man, and work in a small shop with four other employees. Recently everyones has been meeting up outside work, and although we are good friends, i feel that i am missing out. One lady in particular i have a really good bond...
A. 2 May 2006: Don't give in to your temptations. There will always be women you are attracted to. Work on your marriage. You already made a mistake by letting it get this far. I know the compliments feel great but that is how nature programs us to seduce the ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and wants us to be a family but hes lied and cheated so much!!
Q. I recently had a little girl. Her father broke up with me when i was 7 months pregnant. He said he had another girlfriend and that he wanted to be with her. He has since come back on several different occasions and said he wanted to get back ...
A. 2 May 2006: You need to deal with yourself before you woory about him. Clearly, he doesn't deserve your love. Ask yourself why you would want to be with a guy who treats you and your child like that. If he loved you he'd be a man and do what is required of a ... (read in full...)
He was flirty and had affairs, now we have split and I am scared of making the same mistake!!
Q. I have been married for the past 26 years to one man, whom I adored. But I must admit I flirted with him back when I was 21 years of age. Needless to say I gained a flirtatious man! He ran around on with with many women through our entire ...
A. 30 April 2006: You're single, flirting is OK. The only problem is setting boundaries with those you flirt with. If a man is looking to hook up with somebody, he'll see flirting as an invitation to try harder. Rightfully so. Flirting is natures mechanism to get ... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex on the bounce. Now my most recent ex wants me back but he found out about the other and has changed his mind!1
Q. Ok so me and my bf have split up for nearly 2 wks now, so on the rebound i went and slept with this guy that i used to go out with it meant absolutely nothing and i was single and my bf at the time didnt give a crap about what i did. Recent...
A. 30 April 2006: He's hurt. It's because by going with another man so quickly, it has caused him to question just how much he (your recent boyfriend) actually meant to you. He's thinking if you actually had anything in your heart for him, you wouldn't have gone ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my friend's husband...I'm fighting it but am having a tough time. Help me!
Q. hi there.. I have recently come to the conclusion that I am attracted to my friends husband. I work with both of them and they are both lovely people. I have recently separated from my violent husband and we are proceeding to divorce. I am very ...
A. 30 April 2006: It seems you have all the right answers and have done a great job thinking this through. Wha should you do? I syggest you spend as little time as possible alone with the man. Also, think before you speak. Keep your actions in check and don't be ... (read in full...)
My guy lasts for 7 minutes in the sack! I am not satisfied...help! any advice?
Q. i really love my boyfriend..but when it comes to making love it only lasts for about 7 min..and i do not get satisfied..what can i do to change this?...
A. 28 April 2006: If you do some research, you'll probably find that 7 minutes of constant intercourse is probably on the high side of normal. It will at least be in the range of normal. Try forplay first. Take it slower. The grinding that martini mentioned is ... (read in full...)
My first love is back in the picture and the flame is still there, what do I do?
Q. Hi I am a woman who is happily married to a wonderful man. we have two great daughters. The problem is that some time ago before i met my husband (17 yrs)i was travelling and lived on a kibbutz in Israel. Whilst there i met a truly fantasti...
A. 27 April 2006: I agree with the others. You're playing with fire. Irish49 summed it all up perfectly. Think about all the good things you have now, not what you might have through this fantasy. Remember, if your love was so strong, it would have passed the ... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to compliment your man???
Q. Quick question but would love as many answers as possible, how do you give a guy a compliment without sounding girly or like you want something, whats a good "manly" compliment? I tried to say that i liked my bf's arms cos they were strong but his ...
A. 27 April 2006: Men like to know they're good lovers ( sexually ) That makes us feel manly. Let him know you desire him. Most women let that slip after the novelty of a new rrelationship dies off.... (read in full...)
How do I ask this (married) guy for his number?
Q. i work at a place that has a truck come deliever stuff to us once a week. im very attracted to this guy. but i found out that he won't be delivering anymore after next week. i want to ask him for his number but im way to shy and scared of what he ...
A. 27 April 2006: How do you ask for his number................what do you think? aybe you could go to work nude. Maybe he'll notice you. YOU DON'T ASK HIM !!!!... (read in full...)
My sister in law is obbsessed with my husband and now im attraced to her husband. What should I do??
Q. Hi: I am a married woman wih an 18 month old daughter. I am pretty unhappy in my marriage in large part due to my overbearing know-no-boundaries inlaws, especially my sister in law. She is obsessed with her brother, my husband. As a conseque...
A. 26 April 2006: Deal with the problem above the table. Why would you want to complicate it any more and join the "freak zone ". This way yo'll be seen as the person who did the right thing and you'll be able to hold your head up. Assuming that's important to ... (read in full...)
Is it really possible to have sex with someone by mistake? Do I believe this excuse?
Q. Okay this may seem like a stupid question but I need to hear some other peoples opinions. Is it really possible to have sex with someone by mistake? Recently I found out my girlfriend slept with my best mate 6 months ago. They both say it was a ...
A. 26 April 2006: The end result is they did something behind your back. Sex. That must hurt. What is just as bad and hurtful is what lead up to it. That evening, they must have been flirting and playing the game to get to the final point. they were not ... (read in full...)
A one-nighter is completly out of chracter for her, is there more to this than meets the eye??
Q. I am a male, 31, and have been married to my wife, 34 for 1 year. A couple of years before we met she was engaged to someone who she found out was cheating. They split up. About two weeks later she was talking with a friend, a guy, on the phone and ...
A. 24 April 2006: Actually, it's none of your business. Who knows what happened that day. Why do you care?... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him about my intoxicated kiss?
Q. I've been seeing this guy on and off for about five years. Waiting for things to click. Three months into this time around, and we've decided that we are "seeing each other" some of the same old habits are back, like not calling for 2 days at at ...
A. 24 April 2006: If it was just a kiss, why are you concerned. You're concerned because you've done something wrong and stupid. You knew it then and you know it now. Of course you liked it, why wouldn't you. The problem is you're not trustworthy. How could you ... (read in full...)
I am having an affair but he is shy!!
Q. I'm having a affair with a married man,we have only kissed and cuddled though,he has said he wants sex with me,the thing is he turns me on then just walks,whats going on is he shy as he hasnt been with many women,is he feeling guilty to his wife.or ...
A. 24 April 2006: You need to look in the mirror. You're a desperate selfish person who should find someone who is available. I can't uderstand why people like you only think of themselves.... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair??
Q. I met a man at work when he came from an agency to cover shifts, we went for a drink after work and had a kiss in his car the only thing is he's married and wants us to have an affair. Should i because i don't want anyone full time and it would su...
A. 24 April 2006: How do you think it would "suit" his wife? Do you have any morals. If all your after is sex, get it somewhere else. A woman can get sex whenever she wants so why destroy thiw other woman? Take a look in the mirror and you'll see a selfish ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my husbands best friend, What should I do?
Q. Well, i have been in love with my parnters friend really from the fist moment I set eyes on him a good 10 years ago. He is always nice to me and realises how I am feeling and that my husband could treat me better. Says things like shouldn't of ...
A. 22 April 2006: You're already on the road to cheating. In a big way. Why don't you concentrate on your marriage and fix that. If this other guy knows how you're feeling, it's only because you gave him a signal. ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married man, feel used, What should I do?
Q. I am madly in love with a married man I work with and I don't know what to do. We were having an affair for two months, and I fell in love with him and told him this. He said that he felt the same but that he would never leave his wife for me, and ...
A. 22 April 2006: I love to see people like yourself get a rude awakening! You deserve nothing less than the pain you're going through. You are selfish and creating problems for yourself and other people. If you ever fall deeply in love, like this cheaters wife ... (read in full...)
We broke up over men at my workplace but while we were apart I replied to an email and my bf found out and is mad!!!
Q. My serious boyfriend and I broke up briefly for a week, he was somewhat jealous and had a hard time with me working around other men. When we were together I had an e-mail from another guy business related. I didn't respond to the e-mail and told...
A. 20 April 2006: Your boyfriend is insecure and controlling. You have to be very careful with this type of guy. If you let him think he's correct in his assumptions, you'll only fuel his fire. This type of thing has to be handled in no uncertain terms. It's the ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to travel overseas to see her ex's family and two ex's. I am not happy but she insists im too controlling!!
Q. I've been engaged to my girlfriend for 6 months now. Prior to our relationship she lived overseas for a couple of years and had a relationship with someone over there. Now she insists that she wants to go back over there to see his family for a we...
A. 20 April 2006: It's true, you can't totally control somebody. BUT, there is an issue here. Why can't you go? If you're to be her husband, the man of her life, she should want you tomeet these people. If they are so close to her, they should also want to meet ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I'm too young to be out at night... And I'm twenty!
Q. Hello, Should I be concerned? I am newly turned 20 years old, my boyfriend is twenty six. We have been dating for almost two years. He has no problem with me having a social life, and having friends. But the part that concerns me is this: He says ...
A. 16 April 2006: It sounds like he is trying to control you. He assumes you are not really going to go anywhere in the day that would encourage meeting other men. He's wrong about that. You might not be in bars but you can meet men anywhere, any time. You can ... (read in full...)
My affair ended, then she married her boyfriend... and I'm miserable!
Q. I'm a middle-aged male whose 2 year affair with a woman at work has recently ended. Both of us were in other long-term relationships, mine is still good but sexually unfulfilling, hers was on and off during our affair largely because I couldn't then ...
A. 14 April 2006: Too bad for you. It sucks, doesn't it. It's like lsitening to the criminal to whine about going to jail. Poor baby.... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to give -- or receive -- oral sex! Says she doesn't like it...
Q. My girlfriend doesn't want to give me oral sex Hi, I was wondering if you could give me a tip of how to handle this situation. I have been dating my girl for a few months and she is fantastic. Our sex life is great except for the fact that she do...
A. 14 April 2006: Would you be happy knowing that every time she was giving or getting it she was bothered? I know I wouldn't be happy knowing the person I'm with was just doing something for my benefit. I like to know my partner is in it for themself too.
If you'... (read in full...)
What does he want? He knows I have a boyfriend and I'm on the verge of breaking up...
Q. I'm in uni, living in halls. There's a guy who I have got to know over the past month. Every night we lay on his bed for three hours and just talk and talk. I'm so comfortable with him. We're not touchy-feely, although he will occassio...
A. 12 April 2006: I would suggest you're fooling yourself BIGTIME. If you are trying to convince yourself that being on the bed, touching a little is what friends of the opposite sex do, you're wrong. Do you really think if he spent the night you wouldn't have let ... (read in full...)
Engaged to marry in three weeks'... but I'm not in love with my fiancee and I AM in love with someone else
Q. I am due to get married in three weeks time to my partner of 4 years, but I have fallen in love with another woman who is my soulmate and who I feel for and care for so much. We have known each other for 6 months and since then have been talking ...
A. 12 April 2006: Don't get married. By the way, you did cheat on your fiance, emotionally. That IS cheating. You've been spending time with another woman, discussing private issues and building up some type of relationship while you cried on eachothers shoulders. ... (read in full...)
I know that Texas is where I want to be, but how do I get started with immigrating?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am an 18 year old girl who is currently living in Britain. I have decided that I live in place which holds no future for me and so I am looking to move to Texas, America (where I lived for six months a few years back, and I know...
A. 11 April 2006: Go to the US government web site. Or, contact the consulate where you live. I've been through it. It's all straight forward but not easy to do. They are very selective. Maybe you could start with a visa for work.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be jealous and want to be able to cope with my boyfriend drinking without me. How do I do that?
Q. How do I handle letting my boyfriend go out and drink without me? Also, how do I get over being jealous and letting him actually look at girls? How do I change all of this if I have troubles doing so on my own?...
A. 11 April 2006: You can't control somebody. If you try, you'll chase him away. He will always find other girls attractive, just as he finds you attractive. Some will be more attractive than you. Some won't. You will find other men attracative too. All that is ... (read in full...)
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