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writes: well i have my6 boyfriend for 4 yrs but the thing is rite now i just feel love less i dont seem to love him any more wat can i do the sex is even different wat can i do to capture that love again i know i love him but just not as deep as i would like what to do i really need ur help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2006): well i have read all of your answers i find dem really help ful we talked it out and stuff getting back where it used to be and i know things arent all goin to be the same way always but we trying to come toa reasoning i mean we actually came up with a day in every month so that when we have a issue we can talk out with out any feedback or should i say negative feed back and we are getting back to loving trully again thanks a lot i love this website
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reader, eddie  +, writes (25 February 2006):
 Well this might have something to do with your age. don't know how old you are but if you're young maybe it's a good thing he was just a boyfriend. That's what dating is for. It could be time to move on. If you're a little older maybe it's time to break the routine. I've been married 20 years. Relationships evolve and change. The every day tasks can become more normal than those special moments. It takes work to keep things interesting. Don't forget, not every moment is ment to be a WOW moment either.
Sometimes it's important to sit back and look at the big picture. Is your life good? Are you 60, 70 80, 90 % happy with things. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Sometimes it's greenest where you water it.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (24 February 2006):
 Well I think the first thing might be to think back to what made your love so special in the first place and look for pointers there. Think about the things that make him special to you and make you special as a couple. Obviously there was a time when there was something there and things like that don't just disappear; although they sometimes get lost.
Also I was wondering if something had happened to cause you to feel this way? If so then maybe you would need to address that. I think you need to think carefully about what may have caused the relationship to lose its spark and start looking for solutions there.
If it has just become too routine then break the routine. Plan something special for the both of you to share together. Try and set some time aside regularly as you are able to do special and different things together. Maybe take turns in choosing what you do so you both get to do things together you both want to do. Hope that helps, good luck.
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