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writes: I really need some advice. I've been wondering, is it true a guy knows almost instantly when he meets his future wife? I've heard many stories from guys I know who have said they knew...and I was wondering how true people think this is. Reply to this Question
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 February 2006):
 I think you can have an instant attraction for somebody else. But I don't think you can fall in love until you really know someone, all the quirks and idiosyncrasies that make a person's personality essentially THEM.
Love cannot begin until you know somebody, before that you can only *know their physicality or what you need them to be, and you haven't just fallen for the outside package combined with the superficiality of projecting your *beliefs and needs* onto that person. You at first fall for who you think they are. Or else it is just physical attraction and lust!!
I think you can make a lucky guess that that person could be the one you are going to marry, but I dont think you will know if that marriage is gonna be successful until you really know the person concerned.
Sorry, hard to explain myself. But just an opinion is all!!
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reader, mystify +, writes (23 February 2006):
 i believe my husband knew , even if i didnt , i still cant get my head around why he pursued me so when he let so many slip away, i like to think i was his "soulmate" and we were meant to be , which is why we married and of course its hard work at times , but "something " keeps us going and its good :0)
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reader, Andy J +, writes (21 February 2006):
 Id have to agree with you mate. I met my girlfriend/fiance 2 and a half years ago when we were both 16. We've broke up now unfortunutly were both 18 basically 19. We got engaged last year becasue i knew she was the one i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I think you just no, its like a unexplanable feeling inside. Im doing everything possible to get her back.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 February 2006):
 It happened to me and I'm married 20 years. I think it's just a fluke though. Who really knows. Since 50 % of mariages fail anyway, what difference does it make. Love takes time.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (21 February 2006):
 Maybe it is and maybe it is`nt, who is really to know.
I am sure that everyone who meets, falls in love and proposes feels they have met the one, they marry and sometimes things go wrong and they end up in the divorce courts.
I do not think it is just guys that think they know when they have met there future wife, surely it must be a mutual thing.
I have talked to couples who have been married for 40 years and more and they say that they felt there partnership was right and they worked very hard to keep the marriage together, all say that marriage is a rollercoaster and you have to take ups with the downs, respect, love, honesty and forgivness are all vital ingredients in a marriage.
I do not think men know more than women know when they have found the right partner so dont worry about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): I'd say its crap...of course they'd say that - they did it! It's not like you hear from guys who didn't get married...why would you? Isn't the whole idea of starting a relationship to see if it lasts? If it turns out I think they say that coz usually thats how you feel in the beginning of any relationship. If the rules were that you got married a month after you met someone I think they's all say that!! Its not like we get into relationships thinking..."Oh, yeah might do this for a year or two have a couple of kids then....oh, i dunno screw the whole thing up..yep sounds like a plan!!" LOL!! Thats my view on it anyways!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): Men don't know anymore than women do. "knowing at once" is something for a dreamer. Any man that says he knows right away is trying to fulfill an idea. True lasting love -- occurs as you get to know someone. Anything else is just infactuation or ideal setting.
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