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writes:hi, just a question for all the guys, what do men want in a women? is it all about looks or is it something else Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): I asked myself that same question many times. There are alot of answers to this question and I have asked my male friends and all of them had different answers as 'men' in general we asume that its all to do with looks. And it is! But not the way we think. It's not about being drop dead gorgeous. There could be the most average looking woman that most would say is unattractive but,a man could look at her and think she has the cutest smile he has ever seen. Eventhough the rest of the world might not think so,to him is enough to go and get to know the woman. And then it gets deeper. In talking to her he finds warmth and sincerity in her eyes. And this could be more points to win him over. I guess what I'm saying is not one man or men can give us the 'right' answer as there really isn't one. It's what catches their eyes. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say and having more than just air in between the ears if you know what I mean
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (2 March 2006):
 I am unsure what a man looks for in a woman because people are all such individuals with individual wants and needs.
A friend of mine is looking for a Pammy lookalike and stuff the conversation, I know hugely shallow, and he has let three or four good women go past without bothering to get to know them because they *didnt have the right look*
I asked my brothers and each of them gave a different answer.
Be yourself and if you click then you are what they are looking for. Dont try to be something you are not because then you have to keep up the act for the duration of the relationship.
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reader, mystify +, writes (1 March 2006):
 i think that when a woman goes out she has all the probs that a man has to gain a bloke and that a bloke holds within them to make or end a womans sexual misery, i am ia woman and have known and seen this, there is little difference in the man and woman while pulling! and the end of the day wer,re all after someone we fancy and will reject those who we dont.
you might say its about looks but then you have to say beauty is within the eye of thebeholder and we all have separate views on looks it takes all sorts , id say me and my best friend are both equaly attractive in completely differant ways yet she fancys "big" ugly men i fancy slim "handsome" men whereas in the past we noticed men that are all over her wont look at me and vise versa! there is no set pattern , we are all individual and like whoever we like the best this is to be who you feel comfortable being and find a man who loves you all the same
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reader, eddie  +, writes (27 February 2006):
 This is a good one. I've had reasons to think about this over the past couple years. I've been maried for 20 years. Much of what a guy wants in a woman has to do with age and what stage of a relationship you're in.
I was engaged after 2 months of knowing my wife. She is a beautiful latin woman, very exotic looking. In fact I can't tell you how many times complete strangers have approached her and asked her if she was a model. They have even approached me and asked. That's not generally important but in this context it is. When I first met her it was her looks. She actually saw me first but when I realized we were looking at eachother from across the room, I was obviously struck by her looks. At 42, she still turns heads evrywhere she goes. So, in the beginning, it was her looks. It has to be because in the beginning, you know nothing about the person other than what you see.
After the initial attraction, the conversation and little things you learn about the person, attract a guy even more.
I think sex is important to most men too. I'm speaking in general terms here so for those women who disagree, please understand that. In the sex area, I do think women hold the most power. Men tend to be the hunters and women tend to decide who will catch them. Again, this is speaking generally. As proof, men, when younger, hope to "pick up" women when they go out. They are mostly at the mercy of the female. A woman can pick and choose any hour of the day or night who she'd like and for the most paart, doesn't. She would rather have a relationship, usually. A guy, if he had the same power as a woman, would use it to his advantage more often. That's why we're different. If we weren't, nothing would ever get done. We'd always be in bed. Also remember that a man likes an enthusiastic sexual partner. He feels duped when you are enthusiastic in the beginning and it tapers off as time goes by. He still wants it. He still sees you as the special girl he met many years before.
When a relationship matures, a guy wants a good partner who knows him. A good mother who is loving towards the children and towards him too. That is one of the biggest problems. Many times, and this is the root of many failed marriages, the children become the priority and the husband falls by the wayside. This is understandable but not a great idea. Many times the husband feels rejected. Always remember why you have kids in the first place. They are the result of your union. That came first and if you're lucky, will still be ther after the kids leave the nest. It's better to nurture the marriage all along than to have to recreate or rekindle something that has been dormant for 20 years. That is when peopel stray. Somebody else at the office or where ever is starting to pay attention the them and making them feel special. If you rread some of the entries on this site, you'll see that's true.
Make him feel like you hero. A man will walk through a wall of fire for the woman he loves. If you make him feel manly, he act that way. At least notice his good points. It's very easy to focus on the bad points when you've been together a while. Remember though, everybody has bad points. the grass isn't always greener.......
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