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I enjoy travel and learning new things. Different cultures interest me and what makes them tick. I think there is always a reason for the way certain cultures do things and many times we are too quick to judge things that we find odd.
The more places I go and the more people I meet, the more I see that we are so similar. Everybody is trying to enjoy life but we are all influenced along the way by the stuff that "happens". The trick is to learn from the lessons and carry on. I have a short fuse for infedility and take marriage very seriously. It's not from personal experiences either. I just don't understand why people don't seem to fix the problems in their marriages before they create more. I see lots of questions on this site pertaining to this topic, that's why I added this part. |
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26 September 2007: Why is it that people get involved in love triangles and feel rejected when they don't work out? Why do so many agony aunts treat the third member of the triangle as a victim? I'm tired of hearing people reccommend.... "distance yourself from hi...
Fidelity and marriage
This question has 12 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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8 May 2007: Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
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If I ask him out, is he going to think I'm too forward?
Q. From a guy's perspective, is it off-putting if a woman initiates asking for a first date? ... This is someone who I've known for for quite a while but only see and speak to briefly. Obviously I'd like to get to know them better and have thought ...
A. 18 February 2006: Ask him! Any man would see it as somewhat of a compliment. Don't forget, it feels good to be noticed for men too.... (read in full...)
My wife has no idea about my attraction to the woman from work. What do I do?
Q. I have been happily married with a family now for four years, but about six months ago I met this smashing young lady at work. Since then I have not been able to get her out of my mind. We had been very friendly and flirty and had got on very wel...
A. 17 February 2006: If you're happily maried, why are you carring on like this? What is missing in your relationship with your wife? Do you realize how much you would hurt the woman you are "happily" married to? You've already done enough to damage your relationship ... (read in full...)
He loves his son to much to leave his marriage for me. What should I do?
Q. Please give me some advice. I stupidly got involved into an affair 5 mths ago and have fallen deeply in love with this man. We were away on a course together and spent every night/day together for the whole 5 mnths. We get on so well and just ...
A. 15 February 2006: It is seedy! And you're the sower of the seeds, as well as the guy. You have a lot of nerve feeling sorry for your sorry state of affairs. As I usually say in these situations, you only worry about yourself. Also, if you did go with him, what ... (read in full...)
Six years and 4 kids later-I feel upset because he does give me much attention. Am I wrong for asking for more love?
Q. i need a little help on this one its a bit of a story but i don't know what else to do i have been with my fiance for nearly 6 years I know he's not the most romantic person in the world but I'm crying out for just a little something just to show me ...
A. 15 February 2006: Why is he still your fiance? Does he work? Is he generous? It sounds to me that he is very selfish. Everybody wants to get a little attention from time to time. You deserve it too. You need to sit down and tell him how it is. If he won't ... (read in full...)
He stayed at his ex gf's house! I trust him so am I being too nice about all this?
Q. I have been with my boyfirnd for 6years. we have broken up once and got back together. I called it a day as we were living in different cities and wasn't sure if it was what i wanted. We were apart for almost 5months, during which time he started to ...
A. 15 February 2006: I think it was wrong of him to stay over at her place. Out of respect to you, he should have called to let you know. If a person has to hide something, there is usually a reason. The fact that she has cancer could be twisted to make you look bad. ... (read in full...)
Why would this married guy lie to his wife?
Q. Why would a married man lie to his wife about his whereabouts? I'm friends with a married couple, I've known them both for about 3 years. They have been working out of state for the last year because thier business failed. They come back once a ...
A. 14 February 2006: Don't worry about it, it's none of your business. Maybe she thinks he's attracted to you and they've discussed it. Maybe he his attracted to you and she's jealous.... (read in full...)
We want to leave our marriages, to be together but not sure what's best. What should we do?
Q. I have been married almost 18 years and have 3 children aged between 7 and 12 My husband works for himself and is very hard working and earns good money although he is out 12 hours a day 6 sometimes 7 days a week for the past 10 months i have be...
A. 14 February 2006: It's too bad, but quite common, for people to worry about this after they already crossed the line. The effort that you're putting into the new relationship is the same effort you should have been putting into the old one. You sound bored with... (read in full...)
He is married but I don't want to miss out on a relationship with him
Q. I feel a bit stupid writing in here, but I don't know what else to do. Basically I have been getting quite friendly with a married man at work (different dept. to me), very similar age and work background. I am also married. He has 2 kids, I have ...
A. 14 February 2006: The first thing you should do is look in the mirror and meet the new cheater. Then look at a picture of your husband, one from a happy time, and imagine him with a broken heart. If none of that bothers you, leave your husband because you don't ... (read in full...)
Do all married men, like their wives to act sexy?
Q. Do all married men like wives to act sexy?...
A. 13 February 2006: I think most when like their wives to be sexy. More importantly, a man feels good when he knows his wife desires him. Women usually have most of the power in the sex department but many don't use it well. A man will do anything for the lady he ... (read in full...)
My lecturer and I have really connected! How do I make a choice between him and my husband?
Q. I fancy my uni lecturer and he fancies me. But we are both married.... He gave me a lift home and we kissed, but this is serious, we have really connected. I don't want to give up my course or my husband but we have really connected....oh GOD! Ha...
A. 13 February 2006: You're losing control here. You're married !! That is first. Are you going to kiss every man you are ever attracted to? It never ends. You really knew what was going on when you accepted the ride home. That was the big mistake. How can you say ... (read in full...)
Drunkenly kissing a workmate was a big mistake... Do I have to tell my girlfriend about the indescretion?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. I love her a lot, and I know she loves me back. She's away at uni now, and I get to see her about once a month. Recently our time together has been difficult and we came close to splitting up a couple o...
A. 13 February 2006: Actually, kissing is more than "nothing" , as mister-squid said. It shows a lack of self control on your part as well as damages your girlfriends ability to trust you. How would you feel about it if she was doing it? Not very good I imagine since ... (read in full...)
Is it my husband's indifference that has attracted me to his best friend?
Q. Dear Cupid, Wow, where to begin! I'm Married (have been now for 9yrs!) I used to think it was a great marriage and I couldn't believe how lucky I was to have found my Husband. The thing is that since we had children 7yrs ago all effort to keep t...
A. 12 February 2006: Don't do it !! You will ruin many people's lives. Cheating never solves things. Have some honor and deal with your husband. Work on the relationship and see where it goes. Do you want to be known as the cheater? Also, what kind of true friend ... (read in full...)
What does: 'the worst possible way' mean?
Q. I am a female. I recently told a friend (married guy) who'd helped me out recently, that if he ever needed anything, to let me know. He said that he may need me one day in the "worst possible way". What does that mean??...
A. 12 February 2006: He was giving you something to think about. He was planting a seed. It was a comment that had more than one possible meaning. If you got angry, he could claim he was kidding and you should have known that. He could also be fishing to let you ... (read in full...)
We are both committed to others...yet there is this attraction
Q. I'm 35 and married for 8 years and have been working in a local factory for a little over a year. I have been working with the same lady (age 42)and we have become very close friends. She is in a 6+ year relationship. Over the past year our ...
A. 11 February 2006: A married man values his wife's feelings more than a co worker. You didn't. you should feel guilty because you've cheated on your wife. If you're honest with yourself, you knew the situation was heading in this direction. You got in too deep. ... (read in full...)
Should I fight for him or let him go do his single thing?
Q. I have met the most beautiful guy- but I don't know whether to fight for him or let him go!! I am a 23 year old chick who has been single for maybe 2 years!!! (I don't go out with people unless I really like them). last Christmas I met a really ...
A. 9 February 2006: If two people like each other it would be nice if they could be together. But it sounds like you are the one who likes him. You can't be the one doing all the liking. Open your eyes. He's been honest. You've basically said you're here to be the ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get him and keep him?
Q. there is this guy that i am totally in love withbut i cant tell him . he knows i have feelings and so does he but he dont want to get hurt or hurt me .we have done things that you do in a relationship like being intamate but he doesnt want it to go ...
A. 9 February 2006: Don't give him any more sex and see how friendly he is!He doesn't want to get hurt or hurt you, what a load of BS that is.... (read in full...)
In love with my cousin's husband! They've recently moved to where I live and now I can't avoid seeing him!
Q. Hi, Need some aadvice. Have been in love with a married man for almost 16 years. Problem is he is married and so am I. He knows I love him, as I went and told him. He has admitted to me that he likes me too. He is married to my cousin and they ...
A. 9 February 2006: It's too bad everything is about you. Leave him alone!! He's not yours. He already had an affair and produced a child. He must really love you, sleeping around all over the world. He's a dog and if you continue to stick your nose, or whatever, ... (read in full...)
Any way I can tell if the married man I'm dating will leave his wife, kids, for me?
Q. Why did i have to start dating a married man! It's been almost a year now, he's in his late 30s and says that, even though he loves me, he won't leave his wife because they have been together since she was 16 and they have children together and so ...
A. 9 February 2006: The only person worse than him is you! People like the two of you, homewreckers, cause alot of pain. You are very selfish and seem willing to be a catalyst in the destruction of this man's family. Poor children. Even if he leaves his wife, ... (read in full...)
My girl chats online and calls me "her flatmate" to other guys... And then there's her night away!
Q. How to find out if girlfriend is cheating without upsetting her??I worried about my girlfriend. I recnetly found out that she has been chatting to lots of men online and always refers to as a flatmate when in fact we are a couple who live together. ...
A. 9 February 2006: I think you have reason to be concerned. First of all you're not her flatmate! She's leading these guys on so they continue to contact her. Second, she made plans to meet a man and then, didn't come home! Even if she didn't spend the night with ... (read in full...)
I think the grass is always greener, but how to pick and choose?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for about 6-8months now, he is my best friend.... However I am now starting to have feelings for someone else. This is not the first time this has happened to me. - I don't want to hurt my partner, and I don't know why I am ...
A. 9 February 2006: I agree with Suorpio. There are always going to be people out there that get your attention. Are you going to go after all of them or settle down with the one you love and have a relationship? If you're young, maybe you shouldn't have a steady ... (read in full...)
He stares at me like a challenge, says things to get under my skin. What's that about?
Q. Alright, I need to get to the bottom of this guy. Im 22, he's 25. He's a friend of my friend, and we hang out on occasion. I know when a guy likes me normally, but for the life of me, I cannot figure this one out. I know guys do that thing where ...
A. 9 February 2006: Why do you think that because he has a girlfiend he can't like you too? People cheat all the time. It's wrong but it's nothing new. It sounds like he's trying to get your attention. It also sounds like you don't mind either. That's OK, it's ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like french kissing any more. Is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for some women to not enjoy open mouth kissing? (french kissing). We used to do it but my wife says she's not crazy about it. We've been married 20 years. It kind of bothers me....
A. 7 February 2006: It's not the breath. I know that for sure. I thought maybe she didn't feel very close to me.... (read in full...)
The photos on her camera were pretty devastating. I left and haven't spoken to her in 3 days. Am I overreacting?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 years now. I am going to be 30 and she is 23. We have all along talked about marriage, kids, our age difference, etc. It never really mattered. I was really careful in the 1st year ...
A. 5 February 2006: Hi there. First of all, let me say, pictures can be misleading. I've made this mistake and also seen how pictures can be misrread. I became very jealous once when I saw a picture of my wife while she was on vacation. She was in a group picture, ... (read in full...)
Met a new guy and he's amazing! So should I dump the old bf and go after this new guy?
Q. Ok I have a problem. I have been in a serious relationship for about a year and a half and I am very close with his family and lately we have been talking about getting engaged. I really felt that we were going to be together forever until I went on ...
A. 29 January 2006: If you have feelings for someone else that are stronger than for your boyfriend, the answer seems simple to me. These are the things that we work out before marriage. Too many people choose to work them out later.
If Christianty is a big part of y... (read in full...)
I'm happily married....but my heart aches for my wife's married friend! Help!
Q. I am 42 male happily married for 14 years. For the past few months I have developed strong feelings towards one of my wife's friend (she is married too). It doesnt mean that I dont love my wife any more. But my heart aches be with her friend, ...
A. 29 January 2006: Do not say anything to this woman. You will ruin the friendship for you and your wife and put everyone in a bad situation. You will also hurt your wife. What sill she think everytime you're in the company of this other woman?
Spend more tim... (read in full...)
I made a past mistake and kissed a another man..now my bf doesn't trust me. What can I do?
Q. Is there anything I can do about trust issues? My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. He has always been jealous, fights ensuing everytime I want to have "me" time with my friends. Usually I end up staying home, or driving...
A. 28 January 2006: OK, lets be honest. You really screwed up on this one. If your partner was somewhat jealous before, you have proven him to be correct in his assumptions. If he can get over this, it might take some more time. You also have to be prepared to put ... (read in full...)
So many little suspicions... I think my girlfriend is cheating on me!
Q. Hi, I was wondering if someone could give me some advice as i think my girlfriend is cheating on me. First of all she won't let me see what she is talking about in msn to one of her friends - girly talk! If I try, then she flips out. Also...
A. 20 December 2005: It sounds to me like she's cheating. It also sounds like she's not willing to tell you the truth. The message about "only two days until he picks me up" says a lot to me. If she's not willing to confess, I'd go to where she is supposed to be and ... (read in full...)
How can I forget about my wife's past?
Q. My wife has had vaginal intercourse (about 48 times with three guys, 6+12+30), anal intercourse (one time each with two guys), and/or oral sex (about twenty five times from four guys) with six men other than me. She has given manual and/or oral sex ...
A. 20 December 2005: Hi there. I agree with the others. You need to find a way of letting the past go. After all, it is the past and we can't be held responsible for decisions we made and how they might bother a future mate, meaning you. At that point in time, you ... (read in full...)
My husband tells his family every single detail of our lives... But he doesn't trust me!
Q. i have been married for almost 4 years with two children.my husband doesnot trust me at all.i feel like he is married to his family.i mean they n know everything about our life...every tiny detail thanks to him.they tell him stuff and he keeps th...
A. 16 December 2005: You need to tell your husband in no uncertain terms that he's not to share all your information with his family. It's not beneficial to your marriage and it also slants the problems to his side. This gives your in laws a bad view of you and ... (read in full...)
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