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writes: Hi, I’m in a relationship 6yrs and recently have bought a house with my partner. I’ve always been a bit of a flirt but never took it further, but recently I’ve started to really fancy another guy. I’ve known him since my early teens but never fancied him before. A few months ago he tried to kiss me but I stopped it. The next week in the club he said sorry and to forget it, but that same night we nearly kissed again. This time I really wanted to and I think if we weren’t in a public place I would of. The next week we both said it was a mistake and to forget it for my boyfriend’s sake because he’s a friend of his. I tried and every time I seen him for weeks it was so hard to stay away but there was looks between us and I know that if we were alone something would happen, and it did a few weeks later in the club. I had a bit to drink but knew what I was doing. We were dancing and ended up on our own on the dance floor and we looked at each other and it happened, we kissed. I couldn’t hold back and it was lovely and we kissed again, but then got cautious that someone might see us and we parted. I couldn’t stop thinking about him and wanted to be with him, not my boyfriend. The next week at the club he was there and he followed me out to the toilet and said we should forget what happened he said he would for it to continue but that he didn’t want my boyfriend to find out and hoped that we could still be good friends, but I’m so confused and cant stop thinking of him. Please help.
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reader, confused person +, writes (23 February 2006):
I was in the same situation, i was with my boyfriend for 5years and this guy at college we kissed and then i told my boyfriend but all the while was trying to forget about the guy from college and work it out with my boyfriend. now the guy from col is out of the picture and i want my boyfriend back!You have got to think do you see yourself marrying your boyfriend having children etc? if so dont be stupid with this other guy, true love is hard to find and once you have got it you should hold on to it and never let it go. once you do you will regret it i have anyway. I can not tell you what to do but try and imagine your life with out your boyfriend really think about it for me now not having my boyfriend my life feels empty it feels like half of my heart is missing. i would advise you to forget about that guy completely i know its hard when you like someone and you can not stop thinking about them but just try. Secondly you should tell your boyfriend what you had done and say you have realised before its to late that you want it to work between you to. I really do hope the best for you, i hope everything works out.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (22 February 2006):
 You're opening up a can of worms. Why don't you be honest and put an end to this or move on with the guy. Does your boyfriend deserve this rotten treatment?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): Just do what you want to do, ultimately, it's your happiness - that is until you have children - by then, it's about the children's happiness. Anyway, choose what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): This is a bad situation (obviously!). Do you still like the man you're with? maybe you just feel as though the passion has gone out of your relationship, and you want something new and exciting. try doing something special with the man you're with. Maybe kicking some life into your relationship will make you realise what you've got is special, and remind you of how lucky you are to be with someone. Forget the other guy, don't let it go any further. xx
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