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I enjoy travel and learning new things. Different cultures interest me and what makes them tick. I think there is always a reason for the way certain cultures do things and many times we are too quick to judge things that we find odd.
The more places I go and the more people I meet, the more I see that we are so similar. Everybody is trying to enjoy life but we are all influenced along the way by the stuff that "happens". The trick is to learn from the lessons and carry on. I have a short fuse for infedility and take marriage very seriously. It's not from personal experiences either. I just don't understand why people don't seem to fix the problems in their marriages before they create more. I see lots of questions on this site pertaining to this topic, that's why I added this part. |
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Fidelity and marriage
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8 May 2007: Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
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I can't stop these crazy thoughts!
Q. I need help on how to get over thoughts. EVERYONE has crazy thoughts but some people that could have OCD obsess over the thoughts. Ok, you know how little kids do crazy sexual things when they are young. Well, i thought i raped another kid when i ...
A. 21 October 2006: If you're alreaady seeing a psychologist, bring it up. It's a piece of the puzzle that needs to come out. OCD can be treated with medication and cognitive therapy but it takes work. ... (read in full...)
Is it safe for my gf to fart during anal sex or can this cause harm?
Q. Is it safe for my gf to fart during anal sex or can this cause harm?...
A. 20 October 2006: Who knows ? It's a good you're not a little bigger below the belt, the fart might not be able to escape and she could possibly explode.... (read in full...)
Are we sex addicts?
Q. Ok i need some advice guys...! Ive been with my bf for almost a year now, the relationship is up and down, due to the fact that he doesnt seem to trust me fully and jealously issues AND we argue a ALOT!!!.. but our sex life is CRAZY, we see each...
A. 20 October 2006: If he doesn't trust you and is jealous, why are you with him? Don't you deserve to be respected by your soulmate? He's treating you like you're guilty of something. I imagine his need for sex is a reflection of his need for assurances from you ... (read in full...)
How many guys have taken back their girlfriends after finding out they cheated? If you love someone, you wouldn't cheat...right?
Q. pliz help!!! How many guys have taken back their girlfriends after finding out they cheated? my girlfriend cheated on me 6 months ago I found out 1 month ago, we are in a long distance relationship. I want her back but I'm battling with my pride, I ...
A. 20 October 2006: I agree with Iris49. It's an outright slap in the face to the person who loves you most. There is probably nothing worse you could do to your partner. To take the chance of crushing your partners heart and sol so you can have sex is sooooshallow. ... (read in full...)
After lying at first, my wife admitted to having lunch with a guy from work. Should I trust her in that nothing is going on?
Q. One day my (attractive) wife and I planned on lunch at her work's cafeteria. She cancelled. A friend of mine at her work told me she had lunch with a bigshot in the company. He asked her out to a lavish restaurant. It was odd because she only has 30 ...
A. 20 October 2006: I agree with Frank B Kermit. She's probably been approached many times. Your relationship needs work. Why did she do it in the first place. Was the guy complimenting her, making her feel alive. HAve you been doing that or have you slacked off a ... (read in full...)
He gave me the impression he was single but he is engaged!
Q. Theres a guy who is older then me, I meet him in a house party. We got along well, and spoke loads, though he did give the impression he was single at the time. I found out he is engaged a few weeks later, I asked him a direct question. I have ...
A. 19 October 2006: Take a look at the sneaky role you're embarking on and ask yourself why you would make an imoral decision to date a man who is engaged. Can't you find an honest man who's available? Wrong is wrong and you can't minimize it by telling yourself that ... (read in full...)
Everytime I want to go out with my friend he goes mad!
Q. Everytime i want to go out with the females my husband gets mad and it makes me feel like he only wants me to be friend with his best friends wives what should i do.....
A. 19 October 2006: You should tell your husband that you love him, respect him and are only interested in him. Tell him there are lots of other men in the world, about half the population, but he's your guy. Make him feel special and desired by you. But, never stop ... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't give me any love since the baby was born!
Q. My partner just rubishes everything i do. No love since the baby 22 months ago. I work hard and give all my time and money to us, but I feel the one left out. she has two children to a previous relationship and one we have together. I treet them al ...
A. 19 October 2006: You need to sit down and talk to your partner. Tell her how you're feeling and let her know having a new baby is time consuming. I happen to agree with you about fathers get put at the bottom of the list. Sometimes women take more to the motherly ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the distance, and his 'new' friend better?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 9 months, and recently we both started different universities. I am having a really hard time dealing with the distance and separation, and on top of eveything he has made this really good friend at ...
A. 19 October 2006: This is a tough one that soley depends on trust and a roll of the dice. There is nothing you can do about it. You are going to meet guys too. You can't control this. How can you forbid him to be friends with someone. This will only create anger ... (read in full...)
I swallowed, but was violently sick during the night. Is this common?
Q. Hi everyone Ok, last night I swallowed with my boyfriend for the first time. I really liked it at the time (he has a healthy diet and im told that helps) but in the middle of the night I was violently sick. We both realy enjoyed it and id luv...
A. 19 October 2006: It's not poison. I don't think it is the type of thing that should make you sick hours after the fact. Many women say they gag a little when doing thsi but I think if you were goiong to vomit, it wold happen at the moment it happens.... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between my girl and her male friend?
Q. I've been dating my girl for over a year now and its a seriuos relationship, we both intend to take it to the ultimate i.e marriage one day, but there's one problem she's got this male friend that I feal is a big threat, at first I didnt think it ...
A. 19 October 2006:
It's understandable that you're threatened but it doesn't actually mean you're correct about your assumptions. How often do they go out together? Was it a one time thng and something they have always done? In what context was the "I miss you ... (read in full...)
Update on falling for my best friend's gf! She's coming on to me..what should I do now?
Q. Hello, update i asked a quetion about me falling in love with my best friends girlfriend and that it looked like they were never going 2 split up. Well know she is telling me that she thinks he's boring and all they do is argue, she is seriously ...
A. 18 October 2006: You're enjoying the atention too much. This guy is not as good a friend as you say or you would know what to do. Again, take the high road and keep your nose out of this.... (read in full...)
While hubby is in Irag, the old bf shows up on the scene and old feelings have come back. What on earth do I do now?
Q. Ok my storys kinda complicated... Before I got married to this guy Ive been with for four years, we were having problems and we started seeing different people. At the time my girlfriend had introduced me to her brother who is still currently i...
A. 17 October 2006: You say this girl made your "friends" life a living hell. Well you're on the road to doing the same thing to your husband. Let me get this straight, you don't say anything negative about your marriage and the only thing that has to happen is some ... (read in full...)
She gave birth four years ago and we haven't made love since! My confidence is pretty flat so what should I do?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner for six years. We've never had an overly exciting love-life, and my partner was a virgin when we met. four years ago we had our son, and since then we have never made love. There's been what I'd call a ...
A. 16 October 2006: If she truly believes that there is " NO" issue, she's mistaken. I thnk you need to put your foot down and nsist on a complete sex life or at least do the work as a couple to find out why she is so willing to give it up. There is wide margin of ... (read in full...)
Do I cheat on my wife to get the extra sex that we are not having??
Q. I have been married for over 25 years and I love my wife very much. Our sex life has slowed to maybe a once a week and I am not sure why this has happened. I still have the inclination but she is always too tired. Now for the complication: A woman I ...
A. 16 October 2006: As martini and Dr Pete mentioned, there are options. Counseling would be the best. Once you cheat, you're a cheater. Tell your wife how much this bothers you. Also, ask yourself if you're spending too much time with this other women. It sounds ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being needy and clingy? I constantly need reassurances. Any good tips?
Q. How do I stop being needy and clingy? I am easily hurt and easily disappointed and I constantly need reassurance and unconditional love. I know unconditional love is practically non existent but I need it. If I don't get it I start to feel depressed ...
A. 16 October 2006: I might add, when people are accustomed to be let down by others, sometimes they get so used to it that they crave it. It kind of fills their expectations of " nobody wants me..poor me" IT can become an addiction type thing. Don't fall into that ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being needy and clingy? I constantly need reassurances. Any good tips?
Q. How do I stop being needy and clingy? I am easily hurt and easily disappointed and I constantly need reassurance and unconditional love. I know unconditional love is practically non existent but I need it. If I don't get it I start to feel depressed ...
A. 16 October 2006: You have to figure out why you're this way. It's not a characteristic that will serve you wel over the long run. At first it seems like the relationship is bigger than life itself. It actually does seem that way in the beginning. The truth is ... (read in full...)
Fallen for my best buddy's girl! I don't know what to do...any suggestions?
Q. I have just fallen in love with my best friend's girlfriend, they really love each other and dont look like they will ever break up. Shes told me she fancys me 2 and i dont know what to do, what can i do??...
A. 16 October 2006: I agree with Irish49. You do nothing but keep your thoughts to yourself. You would be creating a big mess. It's not worth it and he's supposed to be your friend. Also, if you're young, trust me, another love will come around. Take the high ... (read in full...)
I don't drink because I don't want to and yet my friends and boyfriend won't stop going on about it!
Q. I'm 17 and have recently been feeling a LOT of pressure to drink alcohol lately. This pressure has been coming from many people at my part time work (most of them are over 18- the legal drinking age in australi), one of my close friends and my ...
A. 14 October 2006: I can understand your feelings right now. Nobody likes to feel that kind of pressure. You might be a little bit over concerned about it though.
You sound mature for your age while your friends sound like they're going through a phase that is ... (read in full...)
Would having sex with my married male friend...change things between us? If so, how?
Q. To those people who answered my question about 'how im friends with a married guy', to me its not really a 'sexually thing' as such but i dont know. But i definatly dont call it an affair because im not cheating on anyone, so how can u call it an ...
A. 14 October 2006: C'mon Martini, quit making excuses for bad behaviour. Wrong is wrong and you know that is true. On the simple level of what is morally right and wrong, it's poor judgement.... (read in full...)
Would having sex with my married male friend...change things between us? If so, how?
Q. To those people who answered my question about 'how im friends with a married guy', to me its not really a 'sexually thing' as such but i dont know. But i definatly dont call it an affair because im not cheating on anyone, so how can u call it an ...
A. 14 October 2006: You ARE cheating. Since you're so selfish, maybe this will make sense to you. You're cheating YOURSELF !!
You're getting a penis with a beating heart attached to it.( no brain or morals though ) You're not getting a romance. You're also che... (read in full...)
I have a good male friend who is married and he's been coming on hard and fast! What does this all mean?
Q. I've been good friends with this guy now who's 26 now for about a good month or more now, but the thing is that he's married and we catch up usually 1-2 times sometimes more, a month cos he's so busy with work. But what im trying to figure out, he ...
A. 13 October 2006: I can't believe this is a real question. What do you think he wants? If he wanted you, he'd leave his wife. Do you talk to your "good friends" like this? Let's face it, you enjoy the attention and he enjoys the diversion from his marriage. YOU ... (read in full...)
She has this special bond to her ex bf and I don't like it one bit! What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing my girlfriend now for 8 months but she still has contact with her ex of 9 years they split 4 years ago they had a special bond which she seems to want to keep hold of i have issues with her being in touch with her ex and feel ...
A. 13 October 2006: She is entitled to have male friends. Sending sexy photos to him is over the line. There is no good reason for that except to be flirty. That is disrespectful to your relationship. Calling him EVERY day, that's too much. Her thoughts should be ... (read in full...)
She twiddled while thinking of another man!
Q. My Girlfriend and i have a rather healthy sex drive, we usually have sex 2-3 times a week. But just the other day on the way home from a trip to her moms house she admitted to me that she was not satisfied by that days love making and had ...
A. 13 October 2006: What she did is normal. Telling you as she did was perhaps naive but probably inocent. At least, she was honest. If you don't handle this in the appropriate manner, she might not be so honest in the future about important stuff. Have you never ... (read in full...)
I'm wet so why don't I actually feel that horny???
Q. Sometimes when im having sex with my bf, although im wet down stairs, i dont really feel that horny. Why would i sometimes feel that way? ...
A. 12 October 2006: Women are more lubricated a certain times of the month. It's just that way.... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to trust me again?
Q. My wife thinks i have had an affair, but i havnt. I work from 8.oo to 6.00 and spend weekends together with her and my daughters, nightimes we are also all together, so how can she think this. She says she doesnt trust me anymore ever since i told a ...
A. 12 October 2006: Well it sounds like this might be an excuse on her part for something else, like the straw that broke the camels back. To assume you had an affair, leads me to think she might have some insecurites. It's only one of many posible reasons for your ... (read in full...)
Im always so incecure and think it stems from a guy friend I really like!!
Q. Please help, my insecurities are driving me crazy!!! I have noticed that in the last year or so, I have this tendency to be needed to be told that I am loved every single minute of the day. If that doesn't happen, I get really insecure and down on ...
A. 11 October 2006: Perhaps you were trated badly as a child or younger person and you buried the hurt feelings then. Sometimes we deal with things by hiding them and then they resuface when something happens to stir up old feelings.
Were you ridiculed as a child, l... (read in full...)
Is my wife having a mid life crisis or has she met someone else!?
Q. About 6 months ago my wife moved out of our suburban home, stating that she was confused about her feelings for me after 12 years of marriage and said she wasn't sure she was atracted to me anymore. She comes home for brief visits, usually to ...
A. 9 October 2006: It sounds as if she might be a little down on herself and has not worked on these problems over the years. Sometimes a person finally throws their arms up n the air and makes a drastic move. Did you two never talk about these issues? It sounds ... (read in full...)
Is this a wake up call to make our relationship work, or should I move on ??
Q. I am 25 and have been with my Girlfriend for about 5 years now, we have a house together and a couple of dogs. We have got on great but I get the feeling that she is staring to go off us being a couple! She has started to become close to a collea...
A. 9 October 2006: First of all, you have cheated. You kissed a girl at a party and you've exchanged numbers with another who you have feelings for. Did you tell your girlfriend about the "non cheating kiss" or the girl you're contacting. Of course not because you ... (read in full...)
How do I regain the spark in our relationship?
Q. I have lost the spark in my relationship with my partner, How do get it back? how do i feel the passion and love for him i once had?...
A. 9 October 2006: You don't asy how long you've been together. The only way to regain the spark is through effort. MAny things change along the way in a relationship. Sometimes you have to adjust your efforts to reflect the present situation. Sometimes you just ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems to deliberately make me jealous. Why is she like this?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together now over 10 and a half months and while we do trust each other I not sure whether sometimes she tends too make me jelous. She started a part-time job over a week ago and since then she has just talked endl...
A. 9 October 2006: It sounds like you're the jealous one here. She's talking openly and freely. You're not. It sounds as if you're keeping score of what whe is saying and responding in ways that you hope will entice her to give you more amunition.
If she is babbl... (read in full...)
How do I get the spark back in our sex life
Q. ive been with my bf for over 2years now we have regular sex atleast 5times a week but it just doesnt have the spark it used to. sex is never spontanious we could be laying in bed and one would say to the other u fancy sex? den there would be a dis...
A. 13 June 2006: 5 times a week is probably on the high end of normal. Nothing wrong with that but that's probably the truth. What about 2 or 3 times a week. That way he has something tolook forward to as opposed to something that might have become a chore. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a snob, but will our different social levels be a problem?
Q. Dear All, I wonder if anyone can give me some dating advice? I'm a 32 year old single woman who has had quite a lot of bad relationships in the past, to the point I now find it difficult to trust any man. I am currently going through a period...
A. 11 June 2006: My sister in law has had a few relationships with guys that she thought were great. She has kids by two of them. Another guy she dated has always wanted her and has remained in contact with her during all of this. HE MUST really like her. I ... (read in full...)
Stay with husband or pursue new relationship?
Q. Am i doing right thing? I've been married for 8 years, together for 12 years and the spark has gone. I feel I love my husband like a brother. He does not pay me attention unless I come on to him. I feel we only have the children in common. I have ...
A. 11 June 2006: Irish49 is correct. Always take the high road. It's too late now but you can cut your losses and end the marriage before your husband finds out. Or never tell him and work on the marriage. Your husband suffers and the kids too. Eventually ... (read in full...)
I moved to be with my partner but I am homesick
Q. i moved to a diferent country to be with my partner. We knew eachother for 6months before we decided to move in together. In the beginning everything was great and we were really happy. We have been together just over a year now, but I am very ...
A. 10 June 2006: I left my country once too. Unless you come from some deperate country, you'll always have fond memories and be a little homesick. Like anything it diminishes with time. MAny people run from their homelands because necessity. They're happy to be ... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 9 June 2006: I'd like to apologize to those who think I'm uncaring. Or to those I've offended. I'm on the woman's side here. When I first replied, I didn't see the final sentence about sceaming and crying. Before any of you judge me though you have to think ... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 9 June 2006: Dr.Pete, what shocks you? I said the guy is wrong,he's a brute and should be reported. That is the obvious part. These things get cloudy though. My point is, at what point does it become rape? Obvioulsy in the end when someone is having hair ... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 9 June 2006: Carebear...I didn't say anal is normal for everybody. It is however normal for some people. If you think that some people are not into anal sex, you're misinformed. I'm not saying it's good or bad, I'll be the first to say I haven't done it but ... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 9 June 2006: To the guy who says I'm a jacka$$, read my reply again. I'm assuming you can read. I said the guy is a jerk, brute etc. You're missing the point. If this woman is disgusted now but didn't resist when it was happening, it's not rape. In order ... (read in full...)
I'm not quite sure if I'm reading too much into going out with him since he has a girlfriend...
Q. I have a slight issue-arranged to go out with this guy (as friends!) next week. The other day I was out with my friends and spotted him from a far and sent him a message telling him I was also there, he sent me one back saying he couldnt meet me ...
A. 8 June 2006: I know you already understand what's going on here. Perhaps you don't want to see the truth because you're enjoying the attention. Really, what do you think he wants? If you're such good friends, why didn't you approach him whe you saw him? What ... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 8 June 2006: First of all, this guy is a jerk, to say the least. How long did you know him and is this the first time youhad sex. Don't take tis the wong way but I have to ask you some questions. Did you willingly get into bed with him? You say you couldn't ... (read in full...)
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