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I enjoy travel and learning new things. Different cultures interest me and what makes them tick. I think there is always a reason for the way certain cultures do things and many times we are too quick to judge things that we find odd.
The more places I go and the more people I meet, the more I see that we are so similar. Everybody is trying to enjoy life but we are all influenced along the way by the stuff that "happens". The trick is to learn from the lessons and carry on. I have a short fuse for infedility and take marriage very seriously. It's not from personal experiences either. I just don't understand why people don't seem to fix the problems in their marriages before they create more. I see lots of questions on this site pertaining to this topic, that's why I added this part. |
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26 September 2007: Why is it that people get involved in love triangles and feel rejected when they don't work out? Why do so many agony aunts treat the third member of the triangle as a victim? I'm tired of hearing people reccommend.... "distance yourself from hi...
Fidelity and marriage
This question has 12 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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8 May 2007: Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
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I have been such an idiot and I love my wife so much but now we're going through a divorce which neither of us really wants, how do I get my wife back?
Q. I cheated on my wife with someone who I would not normally look at( Work colleague), This woman treated me so amaizingly to try to show what I could have!!! She ended up being a nutter and told my wife all about it. My intention at the time was to ...
A. 21 February 2007: This is a life lesson. Of course she's trusting her family, she can't trust her husband !! You sound sincere. That's nice but it doesn't cahnge what you did and she's under no obligation to care about how you feel.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I have split up and I have a daughter to her, how can I get over it?
Q. i was with my ex for 1 month and then found out she was pregnant. i was ok with it until i found out that she had been sleeping with her ex while she was with me. i left her then and she got back with her ex. all the 9 months she was ringing me ...
A. 19 February 2007: She's your daughter so you do what a man would do and make sure you're in her life. It's simple, go the extra mile and just BE THERE. From today on...forever. Shes's your child too. Fight for your rights.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend of 5 years but am very attracted to this other guy. What should I do?
Q. i have a boyfriend of 5 years. i met this guy a couple of weeks ago and i really like him and he likes me. i get feelings for him that i never get with my current boyfriend. he makes me laugh what shall i do or is this just lust? help...
A. 19 February 2007: DON'T have the affair. That would be STUPID. If you have to think about it, you KNOW it's wrong. Do the right thing. Either work on what you've got or leave. Don't take the easy selfish way of cheating. Be mature and respectful and honest. ... (read in full...)
I am an extremely jealous person, how can I change?
Q. I have had this problem for a while, and I think it's time I do something about it. I, am an EXTREMELY jealous person. Now, I am not one for blaming others for my own problems, but I always thought my past had a big part in this. I have only had one ...
A. 19 February 2007: Turned on is a BIG word....He's probably not sitting there with an erection but I'll guarantee he notices god looks. So do you. You said, " even if there was a really hot naked guy on TV" you wouldn't think about anyone else but your man. Well, ... (read in full...)
Am I falling for this guy??
Q. dear cupid, I am a 28 yr old female,married and have a 5 yr old son. One of my coworkers who is an extremly good looking guy started emailing me and i started emailing him back as a joke but didn't realize when things got serious and we actually ...
A. 19 February 2007: OK, so you're like a kid in a candy store. Soem guy who is good looking emails you. BIG DEAL ! You soak up the attention like a sponge and jump into bed. That's lovely. By the way, he's not trreating you like a Queen, it's more like a Joker. ... (read in full...)
Why is he so apathetic towards marriage?
Q. I am having some trouble trying to process or make peace with a differing opinion on marriage between my boyfriend and me. We have been together for about 2.5 years now and the relationship has always been strong, less my self doubt with the ...
A. 19 February 2007: If it's that important to you, I don't understand why he won't do it. If he plans to be with yo for the rest of his life, why not get married. I think you should let hi kow in a strong way what you "NEED". Some people make it sound like some type ... (read in full...)
What exactly did he mean be saying he was "flattered" and do you think he likes me?
Q. i asked a man out and he said he is really flattered, and yes he is sure we will go for a drink when a certain situation is over in a couple of months could you please explain what flattered means and do you think that he likes me that way ? thanks...
A. 19 February 2007: I think you've won. You made your point, he knows you're interested. Now, you have to respect that there is something holding him back at the moment. Perhaps he's ending a relationship. If so, you're lucky. You've met a man with integrity. ... (read in full...)
Why don't I know of this "box address" he has? I've been with him for 3 years yet he's never mentioned this to me! Should I be worried?
Q. hi, the other day i came across a envelope in my bf's desk, i was not snooping i was originally looking for something else, i noticed on this envelope it was addressed to my bf but not to our home address it was to a private box, this seemed strange ...
A. 19 February 2007: I like Malyce Synn72's answer. I could actually picture it in my head. How old are you two? Yes, I think most people in a realtionship would not keep a private postal box secret. Secrets are for one thing, to keep people unaware of something. ... (read in full...)
Can love come back again?
Q. I have been with my husband 8and half years been married 18months. I have fallen out of love with him. Hes absolutley devastated as he hasnt seen it coming ive hidden it very well. Can love come back?...
A. 19 February 2007: Sure it can come back stronger. Don't cheat on him though. Is there someone else? Why didn't you deal with the problem before you dropped the major bomb on him. That wasn't really fair. Remember, communication is VERY important. You can steer ... (read in full...)
Together 32 years, he cheated I left...He doesnt want to be on his own so has'nt left her, but wants me back!!!!
Q. Please can you help me ! My husband is having an affair. We have been together for 32 years. We have had a very good marraige until the last 12 months when we drifted apart. I left him and he felt that i would not come back so he says that he ...
A. 19 February 2007: You say you left him. If you left him, is that really cheating on his part? It sounds like your plan backfired a little. I don't know what the problems were in your marriage but I do know that you left. Did you workon the issues? ... (read in full...)
My wife has been cheating for the last 3 years of our 10yr marriage, I dont know what to do!!!
Q. I have been married 10 years now and have learnt that my wife has been cheating for the last 3 years. I had always been faithful to her all along and she is unable to give me any reply and just say's I don't know how I did it. I have 2 kids and ...
A. 19 February 2007: Well you're in control now. Sit down and don't get up until she talks and explains her deeds. You deseverve nothing less ans so much more. You can't move on this until you have the information.... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with a taken man! What do I do?
Q. I have fallen in love with a taken man. He is definitely flirting back with me, and I am sure he is attracted to me on some level. He kissed me one night when we were both drunk at a pub. I would really like for something to happen between u...
A. 18 February 2007: Well, you should start by looking in the mirror and giving your head a shake. Let me ask you a question. There's a little old blind lady walking down the street. There's a big hole in the sidewalk. Do you tell her or sit back and laugh when she ... (read in full...)
I have a bf but I really like my male housemate! What should I do?
Q. dear cupid, i have a boyfriend and i am at university. however i have recently become attracted to my housemate George, when we're out we dance together and he makes me laugh, i get on with him like i used to do with my boyfriend. others in my house ...
A. 18 February 2007: You're at least honest with yourself. That is a good thing. At your age and in your situation, many things will be coming your way. It is a time for fun and living life. You're not evil for feeling this way but you would be wrong to cheat on ... (read in full...)
Always been a faithful wife but another man is interested and I'm tempted! What should I do?
Q. i need help! i am a married woman who has been faithful to her husband, but the problem is, hes away working for long periods sometimes 2-3 months. its not possible for me to go with him, but i miss him and i get so lonely sometimes, another married ...
A. 17 February 2007: How do you know another married man is interested in you? How far has this relationship with the married man developed? What do you consider cheating? I imagine you've already crossed the line, either emotionally or physically. Even if it was ... (read in full...)
My husband is communicating with an old hihg school girlfriend, how should I handle these emails?
Q. My husband has been emailing his old high school girlfriend who is a single mom. He states that he has looked to her for advice regarding having a teenage daugther. The emails also show that he has been confiding in her with our marriage problems ...
A. 17 February 2007:
AskEve is right on the money. IT sounds like a midlife crisis to me. He's been thinking about the old days, youthful..... whatever. He's sharing too much information and she's stroking his ego and playing the poor baby motherly role. He's almo... (read in full...)
What are a realistic set of duties in a male/female relationship? I don't want to get overbearing.
Q. I read through one other post that you get nervous when get a sense of duty towards someone but don't know exactly what you should be doing, especially in male-female relationship. I believe this is exactly what is getting on to my nerves right now ...
A. 16 February 2007: Why does this worry you already? Is it something that is already an issue? Talk to your partner and ask what she thinks makes a good relationship. Talk about her hopes,dreams and expectations. Does she want to work, raise kids, etc. Try to get ... (read in full...)
I am happily married, but my guy on the side drives me wild! I don't want to hurt my husband, though. Help!
Q. Im very happily married and met someone on a works night out - i have really fallen for him (have only kissed him so far but he drives me wild)i have very strong feelings for him, but love my husband and dont want to hurt anyone. Please help...
A. 16 February 2007: You've listed many of your traits and described your life. You forgot to mention that you're very cunning, a liar, disrespectful and grat at fooling yourself. If you're sooooo happy with your man, why are you rolling the dice with lover boy? ... (read in full...)
If it is wrong to view women as sex objects then why is there things like pornography and prostitution?
Q. If it is wrong to view women as sex objects then why is there things like pornography and prostitution? It’s seems kind off contradictory doesn’t it? I mean how are people suppose to learn that viewing women as sex objects is wrong when things like ...
A. 16 February 2007: I don't think it a great way to make a living and it probably has long term consequences for "most" people. I also agree with Martini though. There are many types of people who do things for different reasons. I don't think it's common for most ... (read in full...)
How do I tell hubby I didn't have an affair! Will he believe me?
Q. I've been happily married for almost 3 years now but the end of last year we went through a very bad patch and I found myself attrcted to someone at work who was always very nice to me and paid me alot of attention, which was great because I felt ...
A. 14 February 2007: This is going to be a difficult situation for you. The truth is you did cheat on your husband, emotionally. You even got close enough to try and kiss. In other words, to some degree, you did kiss. You were in a physically compromising position ... (read in full...)
Are there really principled men out there?
Q. I'm a married lady; been married for nearly 10 years now. I'm mostly happy with my husband, and don't want to leave the marriage. Last year i met a great guy i had chemistry with. At the time, we were both honest about our feelings. But as i tol...
A. 14 February 2007: Of course there are men out there with integrity. Hopefully some will rub off on you. For a man with integrity, you're not a worthy partner.... (read in full...)
I flirted with someone, felt him and he rubbed my breasts, is this classed as cheating?
Q. Hi I need your help, I love my boyfriend to bits, I would do anything for him. Last year I flirted with a guy I knew, my boyfriend is ok with me flirting, but I let him touch my breasts and I rubbed him. I NEVER kissed him or had sexual intercour...
A. 14 February 2007: I'm absolutely stunned at some of the answers to your question. You are in a relationship? I know it's not an open relationship or else you wouldn't be asking this question. So I'll answer as if it's a traditional type relationship....
Your ... (read in full...)
What can I do to love my husband again and at the same time not lose my dear friend?
Q. Hi. It will be hard, but I will try to make it short: I am married for 4 years (total relationship 9 years), 7 months pregnant and for more then 1 year crazy in love with a 4 year younger guy from work. We never even kissed, but I know we had a sp...
A. 14 February 2007: One of the things you might reconsider is this. You can not worry about future feelings for the other guy. You ARE fooling yourself. Your desire to know, wonder or be concerned about him are based on your attraction to him. You must admit that ... (read in full...)
Want to ask my wife's sister out for supper...how do I go about this?
Q. Dear Cupid, My sister in law is currently living with me and my wife, well over 5.5 years. I am 34, the SIL is 45, and the wife is 42. My sister in law is very sweet. Soon, my wife is taking a trip to London the last Tuesday of next month,...
A. 14 February 2007: Superfly, your question is hard to read/understand and it seems like you motives are off the wall. Buy yourself a TV dinner and stay home. What are you trying to accomplish with your sister-in-law? That is the big question. Your replies have ... (read in full...)
Should I go my overseas trip even although I've been issued an ultimatum from my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months and all has been going perfectly. The problem is, I have been planning an overseas trip for 5 weeks at the end of the year. He is having major issues with this and says he doesn't see the point ...
A. 14 February 2007: What are you crazy about, as far as he's concened? He's basically told you he doesn't trust you, thinks you'll cheat and he doesn't want you to enjoy a trip you've been planning for a long time. That doesn't sound too nice.
I can understa... (read in full...)
Why do people cheat on one another?
Q. Why do people cheat, why do they cheat when they know that they love or maybe think they love the person there cheating on ?...
A. 13 February 2007: I think the answer, most often, is simple. We tire of eachother and enjoy being flattered by others. Life becomes mundane, someone comes along, says the right things at the right time and we fall down the slippery slope. People like people who ... (read in full...)
I am seeing a married man, is there really any hope that he'll want to leave his wife to be with me?
Q. Hi i have been seeing a married guy now for about 7 months, when i first met him he told me he was married so when he offered me his number i declined but we bumped into each other a few more times and i still refused to get into a relation...
A. 13 February 2007: Yes you are very selfish. Here is the proof. Answer this question and you'll be very clear as to what I mean. When he offered you his number the first time, why did you decline it?
Can you answer that honestly? Let me know.... (read in full...)
I'm married, but have a crush on my best friend - should I tell her to stay honest w/ her, or let it go?
Q. Hi, I'll try and keep a long story as short as possible! I'm 33 and have been married 8 years. My best mate is a girl I work with and have known for 4 years. Although I have a pretty big crush on her, the last thing I want to do is wreck our ...
A. 13 February 2007: You know why you're acting the way you are. You also want her to notice. It's a game people play when they bait themselves so they can get caught in a trap they pretend they don't want to be in. In fact they do. They convince themselves they are ... (read in full...)
Want to ask my wife's sister out for supper...how do I go about this?
Q. Dear Cupid, My sister in law is currently living with me and my wife, well over 5.5 years. I am 34, the SIL is 45, and the wife is 42. My sister in law is very sweet. Soon, my wife is taking a trip to London the last Tuesday of next month,...
A. 13 February 2007:
If this is your sister in law and you have a normal relationship, then just ask her if she wants to go out. The fact you're concerned about this makes me wonder why. It's not a date. She's family and you're hanging out. If this is not true... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of my jealousy?
Q. how can i stop being so jealous?...
A. 13 February 2007: This question is too vague.... (read in full...)
Why doI crush after this other guy when I love my bf sooo much?
Q. Hi..I've been with my bf for one and a half years and we are sooooooooo very much in love!! Things are going great, could not be better and he's become even more loving than usual of late, we're so crazy about each other, it's sooooo obvious to ...
A. 13 February 2007: This is normal. The good thing is you recognize it and now that you do, file it away as a guilty little pleasure. Why shouldn't you be attracted to him? Because you're in a relationship? This will happen again in your life. Relationships are a ... (read in full...)
What can I do to love my husband again and at the same time not lose my dear friend?
Q. Hi. It will be hard, but I will try to make it short: I am married for 4 years (total relationship 9 years), 7 months pregnant and for more then 1 year crazy in love with a 4 year younger guy from work. We never even kissed, but I know we had a sp...
A. 9 February 2007:
I advise you to get this "friend" out of your circle of people you see on a daily basis. He is NOT someone you can go to for advice. If you think back, I'll bet you used to confide things with him, concerning your marriage. Sometimes we let ... (read in full...)
Or is it just me... ?
Q. Do all girls always think about male's sex organ?...
A. 9 February 2007: I think most men would be devistated if they knew how little women ever think about a man's penis.... (read in full...)
Are inter-racial relationships a bad thing?
Q. I am white and i have a black boyfriend is there ANYTHING wrong with that? ...
A. 8 February 2007: Only if you're racist.... (read in full...)
My guy is choosing his son over me - now I'm thinking I won't attend his family get together!
Q. hi everyone... My boyfriend and I have been together over a year and next week end we are attending a family get together (his family) and we're all meeting up in a hotel for a few days which is great! The thing is he's bringing his son with him...
A. 7 February 2007: I don't know why you have to make your own way there and back or can't go to the theme park. That doesn't make sense. The part about having a separate room does make sense. You're not married and he's trying to set an example. You, as a woman ... (read in full...)
Do I acceptmy marriage has failed and go to this other man, I have been seeing?
Q. I am in an impossible situation, not knowing which way to turn. I really need some advice but those closest to me are reluctant to tell me what I should do. I am struggling to choose between 2 men. The first is my husband. We have been together ...
A. 5 February 2007: Think about what you're saying. You sound very reasonable. You begin with laying a foundation that points to all your husbands weak points. Then you say...So I started an affair. Your reasons for not being happy are understandable. You can't ... (read in full...)
Should I continue my affair??
Q. I have been maried 15 years. Over the last 5 years my wifes sex drive has been in decline whilst mine has increased. We now have sex very rarely . I practiclly have to beg for sex but she wont give in. I recently made contact with an old friend a...
A. 4 February 2007: You should feel guilty. And you can't just be friends with this person. The way this is supposd to unfold, ideally is to work on the problem in the relationship to figure out what went wrong. Your wife should not dismiss your needs so easily. ... (read in full...)
Caught my wife giving a BJ to an older guy at a party... !
Q. I have been married for 6 years and my life is pretty good, I am 29 and my wife is 26, we have an 18-month little girl. We got married when she was still at University and I run my own company, which is more than profitable, so no financial worries. ...
A. 3 February 2007: If this is a real question, it sounds way too casual to me, he has every right to ask as many questions as he likes. Too bad for her if the questions bothered her. He found his wife on her knees with a man's penis in her mouth!! That deserves a ... (read in full...)
My husband is a good guy, but I feel the wrong one for me. I hate the thought of staying with him AND leaving him!
Q. I have been married for ten years. I married the wrong guy; my husband is a good person, he just isn't the one for me. I am a people person, and he is a 'person' person. He only seems to need me, and isn't interested in making friends or having ...
A. 31 January 2007:
I think you've already beun to cheat, emotionally. If you've been discussing your feelings for another man, with the other man, and he's told you how he feels, that's cheating. You've obviously put way to much information on the table and you'... (read in full...)
I'm 25, male and I've fallen for a 15 year old female online! Do I go for it?
Q. Hey there i'm not regular to this site but hope someone might like to give me advice. . . . . . I'm a 25 year old man, i do not have a job as I quit a few months back and I'm a writer. . . I drink most nights a week and live with my parents....
A. 30 January 2007:
You answered this question yourself when you described yourself. You're a 25 year old MAN !!!!! That is the end of the debate. Stay away from children!! Nothing you say makes any difference. It's wrong and if she was my daughter, you'd have... (read in full...)
He accused me of flirting online when I did no such thing! Is he trying to find an excuse to bail?
Q. i am very confused about my current relationship. my partner of 3 years has become very distant and more secretive over the last few months,today he asked me if i still wanted him, i was pretty shocked by this as i havent given him any reason to ...
A. 30 January 2007: Nobody really knows what he's thinking. These questions need to be looked at from both sides. Sit down and talk with him. Find out what's wrong and why he has his doubts. You have to be willing to look in the mirror too. Don't let anybody tell ... (read in full...)
Is a piece of very expensive clothing, a much too personal to give someone else's husband?
Q. I am married to a very handsome and successful man. A neighbor, newly single, gave us gifts at Christmas that were larger than I expected. They gifts for me were items for the house (the price stickers were highlighted so I suspect that they were ...
A. 30 January 2007: You might be reading too much into it. Maybe she is just a nice person. Leaving the price tags on the gift is a little strange. I know sometimes, at least in Canada, when something is reduced in price, they stroke through or circle the original ... (read in full...)
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