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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): People cheat because they can my husband cheated on me with prostitutes and i did'nt find out till he was addicted to them going on a weekly basis! I should have been checking everything from his phone to bank statements but when you are with someone for a very long time you trust them you think this will never happen to me it only happens to other people but unfortunately life ain't like that cheaters come in all forms most men or women who cheat i feel are discontent with their lives they could be looking for something new exciting the fact that it's their little secret makes it even more exciting! I think you have to sit and talk and talk until you find the reason as to why this person cheated sometimes it is a long road but one you have to go down in order to discover why hope this helps. Take Care.Jean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): To me, it's plainly obvious, the reason is that sexual intercourse boosts a cheater's self-esteem and helps them feel good about themselves. What's also so sad, this is just sex and this is only all about only the 'cheater.' Cheaters are selfish people and they feel entitled to 'great sex' and are meeting a short-term need at a greater cost than perhaps, they will ever, ever fathom or realize. Cheating is one of the most selfish acts any person can commit, because despite the fact that they entered into a committed relationship with another person they choose to act as though they are the only one whose feelings, needs and desires matter. To the 'cheated on' person, I always say..cut this cheater loose, move on and go find a good quality person that understands the importance of trust building, solidarity, givingness, commitment in a relationship and what it means to hold each other up, through tough times.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I think the answer, most often, is simple. We tire of eachother and enjoy being flattered by others. Life becomes mundane, someone comes along, says the right things at the right time and we fall down the slippery slope. People like people who make them feel good.
Many people have baggage too. Reasons to get too much self validation form sex. It empowers them, fills a void. It is a very selfish thing to do. Far too often though, people do things in reverse. Instead of dealing with problems in a relationship, they make them worse by cheating. If you follow these steps, you'll always be able to hold your head high,
get married...deal with problems..if you can't, divorce....THEN it's OK to find another. Not before you've tried to fix the relationship.
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reader, compassionate.tear  +, writes (12 February 2007):
 I guess this question will never be answered, we will always wonder WHY. just like (agony_uncle_r) said, plz tell me if you ever find out why, maybe it will ease some past wounds i still have.
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reader, agony_uncle_r  +, writes (12 February 2007):
i dont know really, but if you ever find out please tell me, it would answer a few past scars of my own :(
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reader, kenny +, writes (12 February 2007):
 As Dazzerg say there are many different answers to this question. I do think its wrong to tar everyone with the same brush, adittedly there are cheater's out there, but equally there are just as many who would not cheat.
Why Does someone cheat? Well maybe the relationship has turned sour, an argument which involved one person walking out, neglection, temptation. and the list goes on.
Personally i think you should finish a relationship before you go with someone else.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (12 February 2007):
 I think there are loads of different answers to this one but I would guess that the most common is that they feel there is something missing in their current relationship or else they love the person but they are not truly happy. Other reasons would be excitement, insecurity, feeling trapped, etc etc.
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