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I enjoy travel and learning new things. Different cultures interest me and what makes them tick. I think there is always a reason for the way certain cultures do things and many times we are too quick to judge things that we find odd.
The more places I go and the more people I meet, the more I see that we are so similar. Everybody is trying to enjoy life but we are all influenced along the way by the stuff that "happens". The trick is to learn from the lessons and carry on. I have a short fuse for infedility and take marriage very seriously. It's not from personal experiences either. I just don't understand why people don't seem to fix the problems in their marriages before they create more. I see lots of questions on this site pertaining to this topic, that's why I added this part. |
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Fidelity and marriage
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8 May 2007: Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
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A. 31 December 2006: Does anyone here ever wonder what the other aunt's might sound like? I mean the different accents and words. I pick up on small things like "whilst". That's a word you'd never hear in Canada/USA. It's a crazy thought but there are many different ... (read in full...)
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A. 30 December 2006: My wife has to work from 9pm-5am New Years' Eve. I've been invited to my sister's house for a party but I'm already planning my escape. The bar on the corner is having a party with live music and some people from the neighbourhood. I'd rather be ... (read in full...)
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Do I tell the kid's the 'real truth' about why their Dad and I split up?
Q. Hi, my husband and I have recently split over his porn use.I dont want to have a debate here as I have seen a lot on this site of really good discussion...I am dead against porn and wont be changing my mind but my question is..should I tell my ...
A. 26 December 2006: Well, in that case, he's really sticking his foot/feet in his mouth. He doesn't sound very considerate. As I've said, most men just want to have an enthusiastic partner, afterall, that is probably the number one complaint....before we got married ... (read in full...)
It's a new relationship, so should I dump him for not getting me anything for christmas?
Q. My bf didn't get me anything for christmas. He asked me what size i am and I said small or x small, and then he said i'm not getting u anything!!! so don't think i'm gonna buy u anything. He didn't get me anything for christmas. The relationship is ...
A. 26 December 2006: It sounds like the guy is broke at the moment and he's worried about it. It doesnt mean he's a bad guy but he's not expressing it very well.... (read in full...)
Do I tell the kid's the 'real truth' about why their Dad and I split up?
Q. Hi, my husband and I have recently split over his porn use.I dont want to have a debate here as I have seen a lot on this site of really good discussion...I am dead against porn and wont be changing my mind but my question is..should I tell my ...
A. 26 December 2006: If you can accept that he's not a porn addict, there is a chance you're hyper sensitive to the issue. You've mentioned his ideas of what is attractive have not changed, yet you have. There is a poooability you have some issues here. Is it ... (read in full...)
How can I get the passion back?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a year. It used to be great. We experimented a little bit, and we broke up for a little while. We got back together and we have been for about two months. We only broke up for a few weeks. Now she seems to ...
A. 26 December 2006: Time will tell. The dynamics of the relationship changed. Wait and see. If you push things, you lose control.... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should visit his house this year or not?
Q. My family and I are due to go to my ex’s (we have all been very close family friends for years) for Boxing Day. My ex and I only split up 1 week ago. He seemed very concerned that I did not hate him and he said that he really liked me and started ...
A. 26 December 2006: It sounds like neither of you are sure about what you really want. Sit down and talk to him. Figure this out. IF you want to go to the party, go. You take control though and call the shots. HE happy, friendly and fun. Don't let him treat you ... (read in full...)
We took break so he could find himself and now he's dating someone else! I am hurt -what should I do/
Q. My boyfriend of 7 years recently decided he needed a hiatus from the relationship to "find himself." He says that he needs to experience living on his own and being without a girlfriend for a while because we've basically been together since we've ...
A. 26 December 2006: Tell him look, make up your mind. Tell him you're not sitting around while he sows his wild oats, unless you want to. As long as you are needy, he has the best of both worlds.... (read in full...)
My gf wnats to take the kids and leave. I love her..how do I save this?
Q. hi I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now, we have had some problems in the past, so last night we got into a argument and she told me she wanted to end the relationship. We have 2 kids 1 her and 1 both. I really don't want to end the ...
A. 26 December 2006: Find out what's wrong. Work on the problems and get some therapy as a couple. Just because she wants to take the kids away doesn't mean she has the right to do that either. I imagine you have some rights too.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a girl at work! How do I get together with her without embarrassing myself?
Q. Hi there. I have fallen for a girl at my work. I really wish I could stop thinking about her. At our annual Christams party, she invited me home with her, but I was in no shape to be going anywhere. I am really afraid that she has found someon...
A. 26 December 2006: If she invited you back to her house, then maybe she is that type of girl ?? Why do you think she's suddenly interested in someone else while you're gone? ASk her on a date. Why would anyone get hurt feelings of look foolish?... (read in full...)
It's a new relationship, so should I dump him for not getting me anything for christmas?
Q. My bf didn't get me anything for christmas. He asked me what size i am and I said small or x small, and then he said i'm not getting u anything!!! so don't think i'm gonna buy u anything. He didn't get me anything for christmas. The relationship is ...
A. 26 December 2006: That sounds like a strange game. Maybe the words came out wrong. What did you get him?... (read in full...)
Do I tell the kid's the 'real truth' about why their Dad and I split up?
Q. Hi, my husband and I have recently split over his porn use.I dont want to have a debate here as I have seen a lot on this site of really good discussion...I am dead against porn and wont be changing my mind but my question is..should I tell my ...
A. 26 December 2006: There is no good purpose in telling them why you're breaking up. You hate porn. That's your point of view. Your husbands use of porn might be in the range of normal, by some people's standards. Not yours though, and that's what important to you. ... (read in full...)
One night together and now he hasn't been in touch! Is he scared or does he think I'm a slut?
Q. Do you think this is strange behaviour? This guy I met couple of nights ago liked me a few years ago. Anyway he asked me to dinner and I didn't want to seem to keen. Anyway at the end of the night, he said that I was going home with him, I refu...
A. 25 December 2006: You should take your time here. By your own admission, you went from not wanting to seem too "keen" about a dinner invitation and ended up sleeping with the guy. think about this, the guy told you that you were "going home with him" That takes ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my son's father or pursue this guy from church?
Q. do u think that the relationship that i am in with my son's father will last? should i pursue the relationship with the guy at church? do the guy at church feel the same way that i do?...
A. 25 December 2006: There is not nearly enough information here to give you even a hint. Since you're at church, ask the minister for soe guidance. That's what they do. What's wrong with your relatonship? One thing you should be taking away fro church is a good ... (read in full...)
His female roomate yells at my bf and bosses him around a lot and I am fed up! What should I do?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about two months. He seems to be an almost perfect match for me... we have a similar sense of humor, enjoy hanging out alone and in social situations, have a lot to talk about, and care for eachother well. However, ...
A. 25 December 2006: Well it sounds a little strange. How does he know they don't get along sexually? Why has he told you they don't even kiss. This should be a given if they're just room mates. I can see why this would annoy you but remember, you're hyper sensitive ... (read in full...)
I left my wife but I love her still. She's hard to live with so what should I do?
Q. i am in a dilema because i have been married for 24 years,we dont have a lot in common anymore,we used to share a religious belief but ayear ago i left.i have lost my friends and her family through this,although i still have love for her im finding ...
A. 24 December 2006: You must lat your cards on the table. Did you lose contact with these people because you changed religion. If so, it's no loss. Any religion that would not associate with someone because he chooses to participate is very narrow minded.
1. Yo... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding me because he thinks I may end this 10-year affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 10 years. We have split up during that period but after about 6 months or so we have resumed the affair. He has 3 grown up kids and he doesn't work--retired with a pension. His wife works as a uma...
A. 24 December 2006: To the question asker.....if you truly want to feel freeand fulfilled, find a guy that can give 100% of his love, openly and honestly. You will never have to look back. Tha is the only way to reclaim your self. It's worth it. ... (read in full...)
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Is he avoiding me because he thinks I may end this 10-year affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 10 years. We have split up during that period but after about 6 months or so we have resumed the affair. He has 3 grown up kids and he doesn't work--retired with a pension. His wife works as a uma...
A. 24 December 2006: Everything that has been said here is possible. What is true is this, we never get both sides of the story. Perhaps this woman seduced him 10 years ago. Perhaps she wanted him. Just because she wrote the question doesn't give her any edge on ... (read in full...)
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I love my GF, but Im really bothered about her past sexaul partners, how can I get past this ??
Q. I have been with my girl or almost a year. Im in love with her so much, but it really bothers me about the guys she has slept with beore me and she is my 1st girl riend. What should i do to get over this?...
A. 23 December 2006: Everybody has a past. That's good. It prepares us for the future. IT prepared her to be with you. She doens't have to justify anything to you. You have to accept that. Don't dwell on it or continue to ask about it. I guarantee it's not a ... (read in full...)
He's unhappy in marriage but I don't want him to use as an excuse to leave. What should I do?
Q. i have met a man through work. he has taken an instant liking to me, and whilst i thought he was a nice guy, i never thought anything more than that. on our second meeting, i realised he was very attracted to me, and we ended up in bed together. i ...
A. 23 December 2006: Of course you should cut the relationship !! The fact that you're even asking is a CLEAR sign that your conscience is speaking to you...loudly. At what point did you find out about his family, before or after the romp? If you found out before, ... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding me because he thinks I may end this 10-year affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 10 years. We have split up during that period but after about 6 months or so we have resumed the affair. He has 3 grown up kids and he doesn't work--retired with a pension. His wife works as a uma...
A. 23 December 2006: to anonymous...you don't know the definition of a martyre. Just because you're unhappy, doesn't make whatever you do OK. It might explain it btu not justify it.... (read in full...)
Told him I am leaving to him sort out his marriage problems-would this be a good idea?
Q. hello ..I started chatting with this bloke on line he never hide the fact he was married althou we chatted he made comments on just think my rings not we had good mental sitminuation at first and I knew it wasnt going 2 long before it could turn 2 ...
A. 23 December 2006: You're looking for trouble........ (read in full...)
I am wondering wh he takes his cell phone to the bathroom with him? Other females? Am I over-reacting?
Q. Am i being paranoid? My bf's friend was calling to see if we wanted to go eat. The the friend said he would call back. A few minutes later my b/f says i am going to the bathroom and i am taking my cell phone...i said why would you tell me that? He...
A. 23 December 2006: Yes. If he said he was expecting a call.....he might have been...expectng a call!! Why do you care if he brings the phone in the bathroom? What he said, makes sense. Could he be contacting another woman...sure. He could also do it at work, ... (read in full...)
Found out she instigated a kiss with a guy from work! Should I stay or go?
Q. i have recently found out that my girlfriend of five years kissed another man at her work.For the first four years of our relationship we were blissfully happy and got engaged.This past year i became controlling and emotionally bullied her, ...
A. 22 December 2006: You've listed all your bad points that possibly lead up to the kiss. Accept it for what it was. If what you've said about yourself is true, she wasn't happy with you at that moment. Maybe you are responsible for that feeling. I thik it's your ... (read in full...)
Is he coming on strong or is he just wanting to be friendly?
Q. I have been married for four years and have made friends with my husband friends which are also married. Now over the past few years every time we meet up or go to dinner the guy in question finds a way to sit next to me, this in it self is not a ...
A. 22 December 2006: Your husband deserves to know. You don't sound threatened so make light of it. In a jovial manner, tell your husband that " you think #$#$ has the hots for you" Make a bit of a joke of it with your husband and make a deal that you'll both keep ... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding me because he thinks I may end this 10-year affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 10 years. We have split up during that period but after about 6 months or so we have resumed the affair. He has 3 grown up kids and he doesn't work--retired with a pension. His wife works as a uma...
A. 22 December 2006: I feel that people are being too hard on the cheating husband here. There is plenty of blame to go around to both sides. He's no angel, that's for sure. But, neither is the mistress.
Yes, she should find out what makes her settle for seco... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding me because he thinks I may end this 10-year affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 10 years. We have split up during that period but after about 6 months or so we have resumed the affair. He has 3 grown up kids and he doesn't work--retired with a pension. His wife works as a uma...
A. 22 December 2006: I have something to add to my previous post. We all arrive at our positions in life based on choices and experiences we've had. Sometimes we hurt others along the way. Correction, we always hurt others along the way. We're never perfect. We ... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding me because he thinks I may end this 10-year affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 10 years. We have split up during that period but after about 6 months or so we have resumed the affair. He has 3 grown up kids and he doesn't work--retired with a pension. His wife works as a uma...
A. 22 December 2006: What do you expect here? Now you're being treated like his wife. Maybe he's cheating on you too. Imagine that !! The cheater, cheats on his wife with his mistress and cheats on his original mistress with his new and exciting mistress. Why not, ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to call our new marriage quits because he masterbates...
Q. How can I deal with husband masterbating instead of being with me? I am young and attractive, I have a very high sex drive and my huband who is 12 years older than me doesn't. I've caught him materbating numerious times and it disgusts me because of ...
A. 21 December 2006: You may be scorned but that doesn't make you correct. Just because he put up with your hang ups doesn't change anything. As you said, they're your hang ups. Not his. Keep getting help. You sound very bitter.... (read in full...)
He's asked me to move in... but he doesn't know that I've had some "fun" with his housemate!
Q. my bf recently asked me to move in with him what I need to know is should I?? im 19 yrs old and my bf 25.we were together 3 months broke up 4 a month and got back together 5 weeks ago. What he doesnt know is that when we had broken up me and his...
A. 21 December 2006: I'm curious, of all the people you could have had a romp with, why your ex's housemate? IT just sounds like a messy choice. You need to really understand what you need and feel. You were under no obligations while apart from him but your choice ... (read in full...)
My wife had an affair. She still sees the guy regularly, but claims she doesn't love him. I'm so confused.
Q. My wife and I have just split up after 8 years of marriage and 18 years of the relationship with 2 children. I recently found out that she has been having an affair. Although when I found out she told me it had only been going on for 2 weeks. She ...
A. 21 December 2006:
It sounds like your wife became bored but forgot to tell you about it. Instead of working on the situation, she strayed. She loves you because of all the times you spent together. She loves yo because of the kids and because youre probably a go... (read in full...)
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A. 21 December 2006: HoHoho Merry Christmaas !! eddie... (read in full...)
I'm flying from the US to England to meet my bf's family - but they detest Americans! I'm so nervous!!
Q. Hi, I'm in an LDR with an English guy (I'm in New York) and over the Christmas holiday I'm flying over there to spend time with him. During that time I'm meeting his family. I'm really nervous. In addition to normal nerves when meeting a boy...
A. 20 December 2006: To the original question asker, contact me by my mail box, I can tell you some funny stories.
As for the other anonymous reply, Ft. Erie is a city. Wow, you've got a jaded view of Europeans. They're quite up on the holocaust too, our countrie... (read in full...)
I'm flying from the US to England to meet my bf's family - but they detest Americans! I'm so nervous!!
Q. Hi, I'm in an LDR with an English guy (I'm in New York) and over the Christmas holiday I'm flying over there to spend time with him. During that time I'm meeting his family. I'm really nervous. In addition to normal nerves when meeting a boy...
A. 20 December 2006: Contact me by my mail box, I can tell you some funny stories. ... (read in full...)
Last year at xmas, my married boss and i got together. Part of me wants it to happen again, but I know it's wrong! Help!
Q. Hi there... I posted nearly 12 months ago... last year xmas time, me and one of my bosses were getting on really well, flirting and everything, we both didnt think it would go any further as he is 13 years older than me and married. Anyh...
A. 20 December 2006: Be a respectful person and mind your own business. Take the high road and keep your pants on. What's the point of all this anyway? If you just want sex, have it with someone else who's not taken.... (read in full...)
Question for guys. Why are some men afraid of marriage even when the relationship is great and you are meant to be together?
Q. question for guys. why are some men afraid of marriage even when the relationship is great and ur meant to be together and he even says so. why will men reap the benifets of a wife without making the women a wife?...
A. 20 December 2006: This question is particular to you. Only you have all the details about your relationship. Many women are the same way. Why do some women lose interest in sex, to some extent, after they ring is on the finger? Your guy only reaps the benefits ... (read in full...)
What are the pros/cons of circumcision? We're trying to decide what's best for our baby.
Q. Hi, I have a question for the uncircumcised men here. I'm American so I am most used to circumcised men, but I moved to the UK and have a British husband. We're expecting our first child (boy), and so this topic has come up. My husband doesn't ...
A. 20 December 2006: Well, since most people are circumcised at birth, not many people can actually remember the difference. I didn't realize I was cut until I was about 12. We were watching All In The Family and Archie Bunker made some comment about his grandchild. ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to call our new marriage quits because he masterbates...
Q. How can I deal with husband masterbating instead of being with me? I am young and attractive, I have a very high sex drive and my huband who is 12 years older than me doesn't. I've caught him materbating numerious times and it disgusts me because of ...
A. 20 December 2006: Is he ever with you sexually? How often? Masterbation is quite normal. You say it disgusts you because of what happened to you in the past. Have you ever thought you might have some issues to deal with?
Here's my suggestion about how to deal ... (read in full...)
I'm flying from the US to England to meet my bf's family - but they detest Americans! I'm so nervous!!
Q. Hi, I'm in an LDR with an English guy (I'm in New York) and over the Christmas holiday I'm flying over there to spend time with him. During that time I'm meeting his family. I'm really nervous. In addition to normal nerves when meeting a boy...
A. 20 December 2006: OK, lets see if I can help. I'm Canadian, married to an American and I also live on the border. I've lived in the US too. The big question...How can you prove your future in-laws (or out-laws) they're wrong? This is going to be a little deep but ... (read in full...)
I'm flying from the US to England to meet my bf's family - but they detest Americans! I'm so nervous!!
Q. Hi, I'm in an LDR with an English guy (I'm in New York) and over the Christmas holiday I'm flying over there to spend time with him. During that time I'm meeting his family. I'm really nervous. In addition to normal nerves when meeting a boy...
A. 20 December 2006: OK, lets see if I can help. I'm Canadian, married to an American and I also live on the border. I've lived in the US too. The big question...How can you prove your future in-laws (or out-laws) they're wrong? This is going to be a little deep but ... (read in full...)
I'm flying from the US to England to meet my bf's family - but they detest Americans! I'm so nervous!!
Q. Hi, I'm in an LDR with an English guy (I'm in New York) and over the Christmas holiday I'm flying over there to spend time with him. During that time I'm meeting his family. I'm really nervous. In addition to normal nerves when meeting a boy...
A. 20 December 2006: OK, lets see if I can help. I'm Canadian, married to an American and I also live on the border. I've lived in the US too. The big question...How can you prove your future in-laws (or out-laws) they're wrong? This is going to be a little deep but ... (read in full...)
I Checked up on her conversations with this other guy, Im now worried thats she gonna leave me!
Q. What Should I Do? Iv been with my girlfriend now for a year and a month, i love her to bits - she is amazin in everyway. However one or two problems have risen and in iv done some things im not proud of. To start with im 21 and shes 17, we ra...
A. 20 December 2006: OK, you read her stuff. You found the evidence. You're in this deep, break up with her. You saw what you feared, she's not telling the truth and she's messing around on you.
This is where I think snooping is OK. You saw the signs. Your sto... (read in full...)
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