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writes:I have been with my husband 8and half years been married 18months. I have fallen out of love with him. Hes absolutley devastated as he hasnt seen it coming ive hidden it very well. Can love come back? Reply to this Question
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reader, lelyvs2131  +, writes (23 February 2007):
All I wanted to say is that I hope it worksout. I'm in the same shoes and I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant - 6 years married. I feel devastated, but I've also said to myself that I'm better than that. We will go to counseling on Wed. for the first time and see if it helps, if not I cannot force him to love me. You both have to give a try if she is willing (be absolutely honest with each other, even if it hurts). It's the only way you can rebuild - do not hide anything. Everyday I have the thought of leaving and the thought of staying come to my head. But I think it could come back...Communicate-be honest, try to win her love back...Good luck, hopefully she won't realize that's she's done wrong too late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): Love can always come back as long as you want it too and are both willing to work at it. Try and think of all the wonderful things that made you fall inlove with him in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): hiI tnink love can come back but only if you both work at it. i split up from my husband last year because i fell out of love, we talked about it and i decided to try again. i was fine for about a month but over this month i am starting to lose it again, i love him but are not in love, i to get on with him as good friends but lose it when it goes further,please have a good think , write things down, things that are ok and not ok, if you cant get it back be honest, dont put yourself back where you started like what i've done. now im back at square one.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 February 2007):
 Sure it can come back stronger. Don't cheat on him though. Is there someone else? Why didn't you deal with the problem before you dropped the major bomb on him. That wasn't really fair. Remember, communication is VERY important. You can steer things back on track before it's too late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2007): Have you considered having counselling? Relate councillors can possibly help with steering your marriage back on the right track. I don't think feelings are ever absolute, where there is a will there is a way :)
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reader, luvme247 +, writes (19 February 2007):
 Yes, but you have to work on it. Marriage counceling helps alot to figure out where the problem is & how to work through it. You just have to decide how important that your marriage is to you. These days divorce is so common that the meaning of marriage doesn't mean that much to alot of people. Marriage is tough & sometimes we need help. Good Luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2007): I hope so, my ex recently broke up with me for the same reason. It has absolutely destroyed me, i think that thinks need to be talked through to eshtablish what base there is, if both of you are willing, as long as a base exists, which it should have done for the relationship to start, there should be no reason to be able to build what you once had, back even better that you once had.
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