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writes:i need help! i am a married woman who has been faithful to her husband, but the problem is, hes away working for long periods sometimes 2-3 months. its not possible for me to go with him, but i miss him and i get so lonely sometimes, another married man is interested in me, we havent had sex, but sometimes i really want that "sexual healing" i feel so guilty and its driving me crazy what am i going to do?
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reader, goodbutnotgifted  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 It's not worth it to go along with the other guy (especialy because he's married too), you can do this. just ask your husband to explain to his boss and ask for local work, cause it is threatning your marriage, sounds like you just go too long without effection, You'll be ok. But cheating is to destructive to ever be the answer. hope this helps
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reader, eddie +, writes (17 February 2007):
 How do you know another married man is interested in you? How far has this relationship with the married man developed? What do you consider cheating? I imagine you've already crossed the line, either emotionally or physically. Even if it was just a kiss. It sounds like at this point, you've tried to minimize your past actions and justify them. You're trying to fool yourself.
You spent the first few sentences describing your good points and then you flushed them down the toilet by asking what you should do. The fact you even took the time to write the question should tell you. It caused you a moral dilema, gave you pause to think.
Your moral judgment is on the brink. You're considering wrecking your marriage as well as being a key player in the destructionof another marriage. Surely you can't be so selfish. Does your husband have any other employment options? I can't understand how a person can wald down the isle with another person and then, throw it all away for a little sex. It's so shallow.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (17 February 2007):
 You remain faithful to your husband, THAT'S what you're going to do! If you really love your husband then you would never go there, no matter how tempting it sounds. Think of it this way, he's out there making money to give YOU (and him) a better quality of life. How would you feel if he said to you one day "honey, I have missed you so much but you know... I was really lonely without you and had sex with another woman, it was only sex though so don't worry about it, I still love you..." Now how would you feel? Would you feel hurt? Would you feel angry and betrayed?
If your answer to these questions is yes then I strongly advise you not to go there. Okay, so it will give you that sexual healing you want but so would a vibrator! You will also feel so much guilt that you'll find it hard to hide from your husband, it will eat away at you and bring so many problems into your marriage. What if it gets out of hand and the married man squares up to your husband and tells you he wants to be with you? What if his wife finds out and knocks on your door one night? Is a few hours sexual healing really worth putting your marriage on the line for?
Eve
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 February 2007):
You remain faithful to your husband, THAT'S
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reader, kenny +, writes (17 February 2007):
 Don't do it!!!!!
You love you Husband, you made a commitment to him when you married him. He is working away trying no doubt to earn a decent wage so the both of you can have a better life.
Don't repay him by sleeping with someone else behind his back, it is not worth it.
Save up all these sexual feelings you are getting for your Husband when he arrives home.
Good luck x
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