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*ccasper
writes:i have a boyfriend of 5 years. i met this guy a couple of weeks ago and i really like him and he likes me. i get feelings for him that i never get with my current boyfriend. he makes me laugh what shall i do or is this just lust? help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): I am in pretty much exactly the same situation as you. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and lived together for 2. Over the past few months, things have become stagnant and I've felt that our relationship is more out of comfort and security than being in love. And then I met someone else a couple of weeks ago and have honestly never ever fallen for someone so quickly or intensely. Nothing has happened between us physically, and won't happen if I stay with my boyfriend. And its as simple as that. If you had negative feelings about your current relationship before you met this other person then maybe its time to end it. If not, maybe its just lust...
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 February 2007):
 DON'T have the affair. That would be STUPID. If you have to think about it, you KNOW it's wrong. Do the right thing. Either work on what you've got or leave. Don't take the easy selfish way of cheating. Be mature and respectful and honest. Why do you feel like hurting your boyfriend???
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reader, AskEve +, writes (19 February 2007):
 If you're starting to have feelings for another man then what you have with your boyfriend isn't love but habit! You really need to re-evaluate your feelings and what you have with your current boyfriend. Things seem to be a bit stale, stagnant and boring there and if this IS the case then I think it's time for you to move on and see if the grass is greener.
Eve
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reader, pccasper +, writes (19 February 2007):
pccasper is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just don't know I really dont think that it is lust or indeed love. I have never felt this feeling before even when I first met my partner! I am thinkning about having an affair to see if I really do like them!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (19 February 2007):
 It could just be that you've got so comfortable with your boyfriend that you've forgotten what the spark when you're first with someone feels like, meaning that this is just about feelings of lust and nothing more. Or maybe you've felt yourself gradually falling out of love with your boyfriend for a while but haven't had it in you to do anything about it. It might be lust or it might be that your current relationship isn't as strong as you thought it was. I can't tell you which though.
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