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writes:Im 14 and at this age guys are complete pervs..They are always asking you to go down on them or to let them fingure you.,,and it feels so weird because sometimes you like the guy thats asking you but u dont know how to say yes with out sounding all weird so u say no.And guys at my school are always asking me if i shave or not and i dont no what to say to them? should i tell thim the truth? Guys are so confusing Reply to this Question
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reader, Miss Karma Louise  +, writes (28 October 2009):
oh my goodness.
you dont answer them at all honey.
your a lady and trust me if you go telling those boys about your body and letting them have a fiddle when your not in a reationship with them they will not have respect for you now or in the future they will tell all the year and trust me you will be labelled a slapper or a slut.
in the future when they reach around 16,17,they will be looking for nice decent girl to take home and meet his pearents and mates,guys dont go for slags to have a realtionship with all boys want from them is a quick easy shagg,no matter what they say or no matter how special they make you feel dont give in,theyr usuing you.
if you meet a boy you truley love and certain that they love you back thats the time to maybe let them have a feel or you have a feel of them.
be a lady xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 October 2009):
Tell them no, and tell them it's none of their business and they need to grow up. Unfortunately, teenage guys are quite immature about it all. Basically, they're just walking hormones. I'm afraid you'll have to hear other comments like this for a while, but relaly take no notice., You're aware that you're better than them, and you don't have to take it. Well done for sticking up for yourself. You'll feel better about it in the future.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 October 2009):
 For your own good, please just say no!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): Guys can be very immature. To be honest, things like that are your own business, not theirs. The only person who needs to know if you shave or not is the guy you are close with and going to be intimate with, other than that they don't have the right to ask. Also, as for asking you to go down on them or finger you, etc., that's also not right that they ask that. It's inappropriate, and in many cases would be considered sexual harassment if they don't stop. It also shows that they don't respect you as more than just an object to do stuff with rather than being ACTUALLY interested in you.
So, tell them or don't tell them, it's your choice, but don't do things that you're not comfortable with just because some guy wants you to or asks. It's your body, your decisions, not theirs. I hope this helps some.
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reader, openmind +, writes (28 October 2009):
Dear friend good for you for saying no. It is very good to say no to things of this nature not only to keep a clean rep at school but also because you dont want to be used for your body. Guys are complete pervs at that age and will say almost anyting to fool around. When a guy asks you if you shave simply tell him its none of his business there is nothing more attractive than a girl who has some mystery about her! Even if you really like a guy its good to wait until your absolutely sure you are ready to expereiment your only fourteen so dont rush your self. It is also natural to want to say yes because you are attracted to the particular guy in question but remember the maturity levels of guys that age are practically non existant and you dont want rumors spread about you because you finally gave in to some guy. Keep up the good work girl i admire you for saying no stay strong in your answers to these pervs and youll end up alot better off in the long run!!! Hope this helps!
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