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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I don't know what to do. I was inappropriately intimate with someone who has a girlfriend and the girlfriend works for me. I never meant for this to happen and still can't believe it. I'm not sure if she knows, but she hasn't returned my messages about work. What can I do? I know it was horrible, even though I feel he's more to blame than me. He kept pursuing this when I was lonely and vulnerable. I don't know if she will still work for me, or if I should tell her either way. What if they worked something out and I shouldn't say anything? She could be just coincidentally blowing me off this week. I feel so bad I can't even tell my best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): Instead of f*cking your employees men next time, have more dignity. Stop blaming him and take account for your actions. For all you know he rated you out to her and made up a story of you coming on to him and he is so remorseful, blah blah blah........So tell her before it gets to her, the sordid details. Men LOVE to talk about their conquests. If you are feeling so guilty tell your employee that you got down and dirty with her bf and then DECIDE to keep your legs closed. That is the open way to alleviate any other potential mishaps from your side. In this way you would not be aboe to blame the man but you will be accountable for your actions. when you were doing it with her man. now you suddenly got a conscious. stop acting so innocnet. you knew what you were doing
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 November 2009):
 Much as "Plexi" advised, silence is golden here, but abstinence from any further involvement may be a good idea. If the issue surfaces, it would not be the first time in history and don't worry about it. Just move on and seek a valuable and worthwhile partner
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (6 November 2009):
 It could be that your guilt over the situation is making you paranoid. What's done is done and you can't change that but you can choose to never do that again and be strong and run the other way next time.
Give her some space, she really could be busy and if you pester her she might start to suspect something. Is there any way you can talk to her bf to tell him you regret it and ask him if she knows? if she doesn't..........spare her the heartache and just act as normal and of course never repeat the actions
if she does know you need to talk to her, be honest and apologetic and ensure her that it will NEVER happen again. you should be prepared that she may quit
Good luck to you
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