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female
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36-40,
*hana ace
writes:i always enjoyed hav sex but now am married with really old guy an we dont have sex for a year now and i also dont want to cheat on him,we love each other very much,we enjoy each others company but i really want to have sex any advice
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reader, hannahgolightly  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Hello,
in my experience the ingredients necessary in a healthy hot sexual relationship are these: Attraction, Communication, Trust and Love. I suggest it might be the attraction that is waining here, since you seem close and happy in every other way. You both have to be honest with yourselves about what turns you both on. I suggest that instead, you both look for opportunities to feel sexy. Start by looking at the ways you can give your husband the opportunity to be a man. Delegate things to him that you can do for yourself to allow him to feel like he has something to offer you- the more 'manly' these tasks are the more confident he will feel as a man in front of you. You too must look for ways to be a woman in front of him. Confidence is the most sexy quality anyone can have. It may do you both some good to find things outside of your relationship to excel in, which will feed the relationship with new energy. These activities should be done seperately so you both have something new to bring to the realtionship.
To turn this around, you will both have to commit to changing the situation. Flirt with your husband! If there is anything that you both used to do while you had an active sex life, no matter how irrelevent it may seem to sex, consider doing that again and the spark should take care of itself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): my husband is 69 years old an i didnt marry him for money,he was divorced from his first an we met each first we were friends an i enjoyed his company he's really nice person i learnt alot from him,we are together for 5years now,he has prostate cancer,diag 9years ago,doctors finished his testes so thats where am now an i dont want to leave him,so i guess i have to live with it or do you guys have better answer it would be a help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): thank you i think i will go with the toy
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): whats the prob?if he cant get it up,there's a pill, if he can eat,there's oral, if he has no interest,there's a toy
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (26 October 2009):
 You do not say how much older your husband is, but unless he is something like 80- 90-years-old, his age should not be much of an issue. Men up to 70-80 years can certainly have plenty sex with a younger wife in most circumstances, unless there are serious medical issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): You should never marry an older man for money or security for that very reason. Find someone your own age or get some sex toys. People should not go for years not having sex if they are married its a big part of the whole thing. Get a divorce or get a lover or get a toy what else can you do?
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