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writes:Hi i am a 39yr old women married to a 39yr old man, we have been together 24 years and married 17 together we have 3 children. 5 weeks ago he woke me up to let me know he had met someone else, he met her 2 weeks before they started texting each other, he slept with her on the sat then left me on the mon, he told me he finised with her but by the thurs he was back in her bed. He is know playing daddy to her 17 and 11 yr old kids. He does see his children but only when it suits him, usually if she is working then he will see them.I love this bloke so much it is destroying me I have lost over 2st in weight over the last 5 weeks.I know he doesnt want me, and he has great pleasure in telling me this. But I cant get over him
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): I can relate to your pain. I was with my ex for 20 years when I found out that he had become addicted to crystal meth and had been screwing some crack whore. I thought I would die, I loss ten pounds that I really didn't need to lose. I spent many sleepless nights waiting on his phone call to tell me he wanted to come home. I know how you feel and the hurt you're feeling. The upside of this is it does get better and you get rid of that thoughtless, inconsiderate jerk that wasn't thinking with the head between his shoulders. Keep your head held high and time will heal your heart. It's been almost three years for me and I can talk to him now without the emotional breakdowns I used to have. The irony of it is......I don't even won't him back anymore. I wouldn't have ever trusted him anyways so why take him back. That's something you have to think about too. Good luck and take care of yourself. Again, trust me it gets a lot better with time.
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reader, mortified +, writes (27 May 2010):
I know exactly how you feel,my husband and I had been married to for 21 years came home and told me he didnt love me anymore.He was texting oher women and started seeing a woman 13 years younger than himself. He left e and my 3 children and moved in with his parents.I also lost weight and ended up in hospital because I loved him so much.He also doesnt bothr wiyh his children but spends time with her son.He treats me terrible but please believe me it will get better as time goes on as it has for me.Get on with your life and concentrate on yourself and the children no matter how hard it seems.My husband is going through a midlife crises.Its now been 17 months since he lef and im now feeling a lot happier and stronger and would never consider taking him back.Believe me they do not like the fact that you are able to move on and get on with your life.I hope this helps in some way as it will eventually get better and he honestly isnt worth it if he has done this to you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 What you're feeling is only natural. Your love for a person doesn't automatically end just when the person leaves or hurts you, or both.
Now, his behavior is something I don't think you should put up with. You just can't suffer him to treat you this mean way. I think you owe it to yourself to end the relationship and walk away. It will hurt, and probably for a very long time, but I don't think there is an alternative.
Good luck. Take care.
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reader, Felix Francis  +, writes (27 May 2010):
Dear
Why wait, this is the not the time for your love romance sex, you have to see the fate of your 3 children, get up meet that lady who seems to trouble your family, talk to her make her understand if a need is there warn her that she will be brought open to the society, let this be one side, you have to change your appearance, dressing sense, dishes, bed works i mean sky which suits your husband and be close to him, explain him about the future of the children do hot fight with him, even if he tells about her tell him i do not want to hear about any body let us discuss about our family the future of the children etc, give him the moral torture with hurting him.
felix
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Wow. To be together that long and to do that to you is unbelievable. He's got some serious issues going on in that head of his. Has your relationship been strained at all in the past or has there been any sign of him loosing interest at all? This all seems very fast.
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