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*iss williamz
writes:Hey people i need your advice. I dont understand myself. Its been awhile since i broke up with my ex boyfriend but i do find it so hard to start dating again. So many men have approached me but idont know whats holding me to do so. Am confused cause am over my ex boyfriend and after all our relationship was long distance for those 3yearz we were together. And still am far away from him and we havent met for like a year now. I dont think about him. I think he is out of my thoughts. Now i dont know why this guys hiting on me dont ignite the spark for me to love again. I dont even know why or what is keeping me. Help me enlighten me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): 2 things, the fact that you're still talking about your ex means you are not over him. 2nd, that love feeling takes more time. you need to learn to let your guard down again before you can start feeling close. believe me you keep your guard up to try and stop getting hurt again. you've heard people say it but you've got to take the plunge before you can feeling anything as strong as what you had. i took me nearly a year to start feeling something for my new g/f but now it's much stronger than anything ive ever felt before. don't give up just because you got hurt.
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (16 May 2010):
Don't force yourself to date someone just coz you need to feel like you are able to date again. Just take it easy. Try to keep telling yourself that it is about time you date someone you like. And there are many guys out there and that you will like someone or the other. "Don't stop believing" that there is love and compassion out there.Keep an open mind and heart.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 I think I could speculate a lot and still wouldn't know the answer. But we all have been there. I do know that at some point you need to convince yourself that there's love out there and you could have it if you allowed yourself to.
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