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writes:So i have a crush on this boy at my school, he's in the same year as i am, but I've never talked to him, not like a real conversation. I'm very shy, and also his friends are like not the same group of people as my friends. I'm afraid that if i talk to him he'll tell his friends and make fun of me, i believe that saying just 'hi' it's kinda creepy. Should i talk to him, or just let it go with the summer? And if so, how do i talk to him?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 May 2017):
 Well if he is the sort off guy to make fun off you then really you probably wouldn't want to have anything to do with him. I think you are letting fear stop you though. It is okay to start a conversation with someone, it will also help with your shyness. You know him and I don't so think off a topic he would be interested in and ask him a question about it. So for example say he has saw a movie recently at the cinema that you know he is interested in then casually ask him has he saw that film as you where looking to go and you are not sure would it be worth it. Speaking for the first time will be the hardest but it does get easier.
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reader, birdwriter +, writes (10 May 2017):
 Well, back when I was in school, before we had technology and Facebook Messenger, we would use paper and pencils to write and pass notes between each other. We were probably the last year of students who had to hand-write our reports, so paper was plentiful. Late high school, I did it more than my fair share of passing notes than I could keep up with. I mean, it's a simple, and solid strategy, and even I as a shy guy would pass notes between me and my crush at the timing. So, you can go either more direct by passing him a note with your phone number on it and have it say "Text Me" or just talk back and forth over a single piece of paper and build up a friendship from there that may blossom into something more. Regardless of what you chose, the worst that could happen is he throws away your note. DO NOT FRET, because if he's truly a GOOD guy, he WILL respond back to you, and if he is not, then he's not worth your time (which you maybe hurt for a little while, but you will grow stronger from it). I mean, I did follow through and eventually I did get to go out to prom with her.It's a passive, but very effective method. I mean, one final option if you really are too shy (but probably WILL NOT WORK) is have one of your friends pass a note on your behalf. Bravery is tricky, and it's something even to today, I struggle with.Ultimately, the worst thing you can do is NOT trying. You will regret later in life the things you didn't try versus the things you did.Goodluck to you.
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