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writes:I obsess over him too much. I have a terrible form of dating anxiety and even though I do look good, I never dated before because of fear. A few months ago I met a guy and dated him for a short period of time. He was my first everything. We parted ways and I was the one who proposed to do this. But now I cannot get him out of my mind. I didnt like him that much when we were together but now I see him as a GOD!Everyday is getting worse. We bumped into each other a few days ago and it was ok, we talked for a while and now I am devastated. I feel lonely and I am afraid I will never find someone like him again. No one is like him( altough he was a player and a jerk sometimes). Every guy I meet, I compare to him
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reader, birdwriter  +, writes (13 May 2017):
 Lovely, you've created yourself an anchor and it's getting really heavy in your lifeboat (and heavier by the minute). No one else is there to help you cut the anchor so you're going to have to cut it yourself before you sink into the abyss of your emotion.
In short, you're not ready for another relationship quite yet and until you clear your head, you won't be. Take the other aunts advice here. Go find a hobby or a group to hang out with. Hang out with your friends. That will help to take your mind off things.
Sooner you cut your own anchor, the better you will feel. You'll find a way to do it somehow... :)
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reader, N91 +, writes (13 May 2017):
 If you broke up with him, why would you want someone else like him? If he was as great as you say he is you would still be together.
If you break up with someone, in the grand scheme of things, they are simply not the right person for you.
Keep searching
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 May 2017):
 You compare every guy to him because you are still not over him. Believe me we all go through these feelings when we end a relationship, so don't feel that you are alone in how you feel. You just need to give yourself time to get over him. As you said yourself he was a jerk, and he is far from god. You just remember the good times because you are alone at the moment and you miss him. It is okay to admit you miss him. But you will get better and things will get easier. Just be single for a while, enjoy spending time with friends and family, concentrate on you and your happiness. When you feel ready then you may begin dating again.
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