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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Could it be smegma or semen? Or is it evidence of cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - this is a serious question if a man has a white powdery ring around his foreskin head does that mean he cheated and had sex? is that smegma? He is uncircumsized ....when he pulled back the skin I saw white clumpy stuff under the skin looks like female discharge its not ... (111 words)

He needs time to think about it? What can I do? I am left wondering and waiting if he's planning to break up with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I am hoping that my boyfriend and i eventually make-up. At the moment he is really angry with me because of something i should have not said to him in the heat of an argument. I have sent him 3 apologies, via texting. After i asked him if he wanted to end the relation... (157 words)

An Angry Boyfriend? What to do with him when he is like this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I feel like lately things have escalated way out of control. So the other day he and I decided to see each other for a couple of hours before he starts work. While I was waiting for him to arrive, we spoke on the phone and got into a small disagreement, since whenever I t... (801 words)

I called my girlfriend fat. I was joking but she's upset. How do I make it up to her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I have got a problem which needs your help. I met my girlfriend in Singapore two years ago and living with her in her small apartment there provided to her by school where she teaches. I do odd job there and grateful to her for that. She is an American and right now I'm in ... (142 words)

How do I break up with him? I love him with all of my heart

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone. Well I've been in a relationship with a lovely guy for the last 4 years and I used to think he was the one. In fact I still do in some ways. However the last year or so has been very rocky because I've started to want more from the relationship and he doesn't. ... (503 words)

Should I have sex with my manager if he want to?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 19 and I work part-time as a server. We have this kind of newish manager, he's 31, that started about 5-7 months ago. When he first started working there, I HATED him. I mean seriously disliked the guy. He was arrogant, rude, cocky an demanded respect automatically. What ... (594 words)

Does my boyfriend wish things had worked out with him and his ex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Why would my boyfriend (31m) look at his exes pictures on facebook all the time if he says he hates her because of the way she treated him. Is it really because he dislikes her or because he still has feelings for her - wishes things had worked out? I know he wouldn't want to ... (144 words)

I want to know about him but don't want it to look like I'm hitting on him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4034 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello! I recently met a guy friend and it seems that we get on well and have bonded over a few subjects. However, there are a few minor problems, I think I like him but I can't be sure because we don't see each other very often, and when we do speak its only for a couple of ... (134 words)

I'm confused and I know it will hurt my g/f to find out I'm leading a double life!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Guys I don't know where to start and I'm so confused but I guess I try from the beginning . 6 years ago I met my best friend and my girlfriend and my first love but we are both closet cases but most people have assumed that we are an item. The last two years I've felt so ... (260 words)

Boyfriend gets easily irritated at me regarding how I work and I don't know what to do? I am walking on egg shells anymore

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - We live together. He is divorced with a couple adult children. We talk about getting married. We share the same office. I have a home based business. I have a separate work space from the office in the home. He tells me to be myself around him. "But" when I am, he gets ir... (462 words)

Should I feel this guilty about not being a virgin anymore? I'm 23 and I've slept with one person!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Aunts and Uncles, You all have given me great advice in the past, and I'm hoping you can help me again. I've been struggling with feelings of guilt over not being a virgin anymore. I'm 23 and I slept with my last (and only) boyfriend. In the beginning (I was 21) I thoug... (248 words)

What do I do with a dog a friend has never picked up or looked after?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all, I have found myself in a very difficult situation. I quite like dogs but I'm by no means an experienced dog owner and certainly wouldn't have chosen one as a forever pet but in the summer (June) I heard that a friend-of-a-friend was going through an awful divorce an... (977 words)

Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend? I'm meeting a friend this weekend, who I haven't seen for a few years. I want to talk about everything that has been going on recently, such as when I went on holiday for the weekend to visit my dad, my job, my hobbi... (183 words)

Not all fathers are good fathers, but what do you do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - This isn't a question as such, more to see what other people's opinion on this is. I am all for a dad to have his rights and responsibilities towards his children. But what do people think a mother should do when there was domestic abuse in the relationship? Or the fa... (143 words)

He's a great guy, except for his sex drive

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am frustrated beyond belief and the worst part is, I will NEVER EVER cheat. My boyfriend (who is, admittedly, a very good guy) and I have been together almost 3.5 years. No engagement ring yet and he always claims it's money which I get because I'm in the same boat. We always ... (470 words)

My friend is self-centered, but I live with her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in my last year in college and living with 3 other students. One is a great roommate, the other is a friend from high school and her friend. The only one I have any trouble with is my friend from high school. In high school, we were very close. She was the life of the part... (739 words)

How do I tell my parents about this much older guy in prison?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in love with a man that's 24 years older than me seems to really feel the same about me he is wanting to become a pastor really soon he knows slot about the Bible and he is devoted to God he is 53 I'm 29 he is currently in prison and has only four more months to go out ... (111 words)

After 5 years he tells me he never loved me and was just using me for sex

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age - after 5yrs the guy i was seeing told me he had meet someone else. Now discover that he never loved me and he only kept seeing me for sex. I feel so used and cheap. Im finding it hard to deal with as i loved this guy. how do i move on? jo ... (57 words)

My boyfriend's adult son is driving me to despair!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - My boyfriend is in his 45 and we have been very hapoy for 12 months. We had plans to rent our places and to buy a place together. Then his 20 year son moved back in with him. Everything has changed. My 24 year old son has moved out and is very happy and working hard and his ... (208 words)

I've become extremely needy and emotional, since I'm used to have her around my finger.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey, I recently dumped my girlfriend of 4 years. I did it because I haven't lived my life and I was feeling that I wanted to meet other people. My girlfriend was wonderful but we wasn't on the same level, she was very responsible and grown up while I couldn't appreci... (305 words)

No experience with players. How do you know if a guy is one?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I need advice on dating. So, I haven't gone on dates for over 12 years. My ex-fiance and I were together 11 years and we did not even dated we were collage buddies. We have been separated for over a year now. I recently signed up for online dating and after e-mailing back ... (364 words)

The last convo we had he said I was acting like a psycho and wants me to leave him alone. How do I fix all this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating this guy for aboyt 2 months. He has his own business and works crazy hours and gets stressed about it. In the beginning we spent a lot of time together. We went out and did enjoyable things together. Then he started a really huge project and has been slammed ... (215 words)

I want to tell him to stop contacting me because I feel like he is playing with my heart, does he miss me or is he just saying hi?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - A guy I met broke up with me and said he doesn't know what he wants. he said he is lost. I asked to help him and he said no. I decided to accept it and now after almost two week no contact he texted me out of the blue and said "hope everything good with you" I am confuse about ... (152 words)

Should I just let him go? He doesn't like me as I like him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4038 days ago

30 October 2013 (?) age 26-29 - Hi everyone.. I promise ill try to keep this short but I just tend to vent a lot and I apologize..But I live in new york and from brooklyn..and had to go to a town two hours away from where I live because I had to attend this modeling thing.. and back at home, I met this... (500 words)

My ex won't let go and is telling people how he misses me and sending me things in the mail

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Can any of u lovely people help me.... I've posted here before. I was with a man a few years older than me for 2 years. In those 2 years he cheated for 15 months (I was the mistress it turned out) I tried to stay and forgive him. It just didn't work out, I was silly to think It ... (426 words)

My husband said he was only on the dating site to look at the pictures

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I found out my husband had been going on hookup/dating sites. He claimed he was using photos for masturbation vs going to porn sites. At first he lied and denied it at all. He said he didn't know how those sites got on his phone. (And I found them by accident, if you must ... (198 words)

How do I stop thinking about a lying cheating ex boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I started seeing a guy about six month ago, a few months into 'seeing him' he tells me he has a girlfriend. Gave me the whole as soon as he met me he planned to end it with her but couldn't bring himself to do it but he couldn't lie to me any longer. Anyway I was pretty torn up ... (315 words)

My online boyfriend just used me for money!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I meet my bf online 4 months back. Initially he was very sweet. And always told me he loves me very much. We never meet face to face. He is financially a broke. I helped him pay half of his house rent once. He also didn't have money to eat food I also helped him with that. I ... (296 words)

I feel like I'm being disrespected, used, and attacked by my boyfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 13 months now, and I have never loved someone so much before. I recently started my first year of college, and my first job. My motivation was him, it was for our future. He on the other hand wont do anything! he wont go to ... (417 words)

Will the Way He Treats Me Be Enough For this to Work?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Me and my bf have been together a couple of months. WE moved in together already. People think it was to fast but we are happy and in love. We work together sometimes too so we spend most of our time together. I met my bf when he first came back to the city after spending t... (282 words)

Can I stop him sleeping with a new woman, Just this weekend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I hope you guys can give me some advice? Here's the story... Sorry it's so complicated. i came to this city to build a career and get over a bad break up.. i built my life up, had a fantastic high paid job i was very good at and got on brilliantly with my colleague... (1559 words)

If I don't call her or ignore she is sad, so does she love me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I've being friend with a girl for quite a while. We do talk a lot whenever we're together. She gets amused to every of my jokes. She likes complimenting my physical features like am cute all the time i do prepare for an occassion. She compliments all of my pictures. Truly i do ... (590 words)

Are my standards too high when it comes to dating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

30 October 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Now I don’t mean for this to sound shallow at all , but I am really buggered with girls for the past 3 years , I don’t know if I my standards are too high , it just seems the girls I am interested in give me some interested but don’t actually bother meeting me and so that ... (416 words)

Will my boyfriend lose interest when his son (to another woman) is born?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend is having a baby with his ex and is due very soon, I'm worried once the babys born me and my boyfriend will grow apart as he will be looking after his son and being there for his son, I don't want that to happen me and him are very close we see eachother everyday, ... (74 words)

Will taking this break help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiance and I are on a break to give us time to think and figure things out. He didnt want to take time out but I forced it because we constantly kept fighting and he constantly broke his promise never to get angry at me over small things. And this has had a big effect on our ... (185 words)

What should I do about a guy I met online? He didn't reply to a text but had time to log in to dating site.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4029 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Please need some advice! I have been going out with a guy I met online. He told me he only had one other girl friend in his life ( hes 37). He was quiet and seemed lovely. Well it's been 4 dates. As we have great chemistry he has spent the night at my place but we hav... (234 words)

What am I doing wrong in my friendships?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Need advice about friendships.. I'm going to try not to sound too much like a victim here, just bear in mind i've fallen in a heap and am feeling a bit sorry for myself.. For as long as i can remember i've had difficulties with friendships and being treated ba... (666 words)

I messed with her emotions and crushed her heart. Do I deserve her friendship again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi. I'm bisexual and some time ago I was seeing a woman during a rough point in my life. I was going through a divorce and simultaneously trying to detach from an emotional affair I was having with my male boss. The woman I was seeing had no idea I was still married nor did she ... (387 words)

My boyfriend said "I love you" so quickly! How long does it take for them to know they're in love?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 18 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He told me he loved me for the first time very early in our relationship (2 weeks) and it kinda freaked me out how early he said that. For a while I just wouldn't say it back until I truly felt I was in love ... (314 words)

can you love, or have strong feelings for someone you have never met?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

30 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm going to sound like an absolute idiot for asking this but, can you love, or have strong feelings for someone you have never met? I'll tell the story. We started talking a good five months ago, he lives in the same town as me but i had never actually met him. I've seen pic... (323 words)

Do some women like being someones bit on the side?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4030 days ago

29 October 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Do some women like being a man's bit on the side? the reason why I ask this is because I have noticed this girl at work in this situation. She is single but she has started seeing this guy whose in a long term relationship living with his girl friend.Its none of my business and ... (331 words)

My child's father suddenly wants to play a bigger role in her life

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

29 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a child with my ex, she is 3, and I have raised her completely on my own with a little help from my family and her father's sister. I never asked her father to stick around me, but I practical begged him to play a part in his daughter's life, but apart from birthday's ... (333 words)

Co worker goes from friend to just a co worker?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

29 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi. I work at a school and it pays ok for now. Well I am engaged and there is a male coworker who is married with a baby. We hit it off and became friends at work, so I thought. We both talked a lot during work and texts about games work etc not once ever flirting. To be honest ... (263 words)

Does this man's mother feel I am competition?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

29 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I am with a man 16 yrs my senior. His mother is in her 80s and is so jealous of our relationship. She gets mad at how much time we spend together. She tells him alot of negative things about me and says he ignores her. I have never heard of this kind of thing before where the ... (105 words)

My jealousy and insecurities are ruining my relationship

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

29 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I create drama in my relationship because I'm insecure and jealous. And I'm on the last leg with my boyfriend because he hates being treated like he's done something wrong just because I feel insecure and paranoid. Any advice on how I can get past this? I was humiliated and ... (83 words)

So broken after a fight....Is there hope?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

29 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 6 months and I got into a huge fight last night. Yesterday I came back from work and school feeling pretty overwhelmed the whole day. I came over to his place thinking that he was really excited to see me because he texted me "come over tonight!!!". When I got ... (431 words)

I need help to get back to where we're happy with one another

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

29 October 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - This is a bit of a complicated question to ask... There's a man and a woman, and they went to high-school with one another. After they both graduated, the man decides to ask this woman on a date, etc. they start dating and become a solid relationship. About 2 months into th... (1323 words)

It seems like my wife is supportive only when times are good

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

29 October 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - recently I have been in a lot of stress because of work, and I'm kind of depressed, I don't know how long its been like this, and now this is affecting my marriage we fight a lot and sometimes I feel that she is my friend only when everything is ok, now she blames me and says I ... (142 words)

Is this marriage bad enough to justify my leaving?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

29 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Long story, but here goes. I am a 21 year old Indian woman who had an arranged marriage to the (34-y/o)man of my dreams. Or so I thought. To give some background,I am an attractive woman who was very used to getting lots of male attention. Sometimes, it was very vali... (1394 words)

Can you have a serious relationship with a man 7-8 years younger than yourself?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

29 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - What if a man is younger by 7-8 years than the woman , can they give each other a secure relationship? Specially if they purpose it to marry not just time pass . How do a woman know he is really serious to marry inspite of age gap and not taking her or a ride ... (55 words)