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Can you have a serious relationship with a man 7-8 years younger than yourself?

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Question - (29 October 2013) 6 Answers - (Newest, 31 October 2013)
A female India age 36-40, *appy lucky writes:

What if a man is younger by 7-8 years than the woman , can they give each other a secure relationship? Specially if they purpose it to marry not just time pass . How do a woman know he is really serious to marry inspite of age gap and not taking her or a ride

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2013):

8 year at your age is very big, but not later in years. If he is in his 20s tas not likely

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (30 October 2013):

YouWish agony auntOne of my best friends is about to celebrate her 30th wedding anniversary, and she's 9 years older than he is. He was 25 and she was 34 when they married, and they had two kids who are both in college now.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (29 October 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntMy G/F (She's eleven years my senior) sez: "Yes...."

Good luck...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2013):

Hi

I agree with Aunty "So Very Confused" when she says that it depends on how old the guy is rather than the age difference itself. If he's under 21 then he may still be an adolescent in terms of his behaviour and outlook on life even if he appears outwardly mature. A lot of learning goes on in the early 20's.

Men under 21 often lack independent living skills as well, especially if they are still living in the family home. Sure, they may be good at helping with housework and contribute to living expenses at home but there's still a lot that they won't have responsibility for and may well forget or struggle to do if they were living on their own (such as buying toilet paper, paying house insurance, getting leaky pipies fixed etc.) If you date a much younger guy you might find yourself being a bit of a life coach as well as a girlfriend.

If the guy is also still in education, you don't know how well he will achieve and how well he will do in the job market. A guy like this may well need a lot of financial support as well in the beginning.

It may also depend on your disposition and outlook on life. If you're already yearning for a family and a steady home life then you may have to be prepared to wait for some time before you fulfill this dream. If you have a much younger, carefree outlook on life then you might have a lot of fun reliving your own youth.

I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue a relationship with a much younger guy. As time goes on an 8 year age gap will seem like nothing. Just giving you some things to think about....

All the best

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (29 October 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIt will depend on the age. My husband is 13 years younger than I am. OF course if I was 33 and he was 20 I doubt it would have worked as 33 is way more settled than 20.

Only time will tell if you and your younger man (which btw a gap of 7-8 years becomes NOTHING as time passes) can work it out.

good luck.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States +, writes (29 October 2013):

Fatherly Advice agony auntHappy Lucky,

The simple answer to your question is that at your age you are much more likely to find a secure long term relationship with a guy 3 years older than you. That is just statistics. There may be in your life a guy 7 years younger than you who is capable and ready to make that kind of commitment, but he would be the exception and not the rule.

The best way to know how serious he is is by seeing how willing he is to wait for sex. If he asks on the first date he is looking for a ride.

FA

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