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writes: Hi everyone..I promise ill try to keep this short but I just tend to vent a lot and I apologize..But I live in new york and from brooklyn..and had to go to a town two hours away from where I live because I had to attend this modeling thing.. and back at home, I met this guy and we were talking for about a month and a half.. I knew him from school but met him through a friend.. well i told him my situation and told him that i was two house away from brooklyn and that i was coming home soon...its not like im moving here...but i told him i was going to go home on a saturday,,not this saturday but a while ago, and he got excited..but it turned out that thursday afternoon, i wasnt going to be coming home saturday, and that i had no idea when i was going back home..he didnt get upset, but his hopes kinda went down for me, which i cant blame him..I mean i dont wanna be dating somone 2 hours away u know? anyways he told me that he still liked me, and that things will be ok..well a week later, i kinda mentioned to him how he still felt about the situation, and he told me that he lost all feelings for me since his hopes went down..i was really sad..and we just then agreed to be friends..but it just sucks now because we talk less and less now..and I always do the texting and calling..i dont do it a lot but I call or text him maybe every three days not every day..Im tryna be a friend..but at the same time im kinda done upset that im always reaching out first to him..He would sometimes text me first but when he does, it will be just like 5 min long..and then i wouldnt hear from him in about a week later(only if i text or call him) ...I understand that i cant control how much he wants to talk to me as much as i do, so thats why i really dont know what to do..I already told him how i felt about last week,.. and said i wish we kinda talked more and wish things didnt really change..and he just says that he doesnt do it purposely by not talking or texting me a lot..To me, I just kinda think I should not text or call anymore.because I am kinda tiered of reaching out first a lot..he does reply or answer my calls when i text, but still...it seems like im putting more of an effort in the friendship...but do you really think that I should delete his number and forget about it? or is that kinda to much? It just also bothers me because i still like him, and he doesnt at all towards me..and by me texting wont help and get me more emotional...thank you :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 October 2013):
 ok so i'm a bit confused... you are away (2 hours which is really nothing in this day and age) from home and met a guy
he wants to date but you declined due to the distance when you go home is that correct???
so now that you have declined to date him you want to be friends but he's not really interested...
so you are the one who initiates the contact...
and you are mad that he does not.
so stop initiating the contact and forget about him because yes, the friendship will fade with time.
btw my husband and I lived 2 hours apart for the first year of our relationship... then he moved.
some folks I know commute two hours one way each day... in the car...
my girlfriend's husband lives 2 hours away and takes the train to her every weekend...
2 hours for me would not be a deal breaker... i guess for some it is.
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