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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Do some things come with time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been seeing my current boyfriend for nearly a month. We've both never had a serious relationship before. I have always chosen men who are abusive, and this made me very afraid of committing. But, my current bf is the most amazingly intelligent, caring, talented and sweet ... (381 words)

My boyfriend of 2 years lied to me about having children, and who the mother is!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 2 years lied to me about having children, and who the mother is I'm so confused I love him so very much and he has been through everything with me and is the kindest person I know, but at the same time I don't really know how much of what he has told me is true.... (224 words)

Can you get over a lack of physical attraction if the person is great enough?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - How do you get over not having a physical attraction to someone? I met the most amazing guy. Which is not something I say easily or throw around, I have been married and never talked that way about my ex husband. We have been talking for a few weeks now. Anyway, he is fu... (294 words)

I have crushes on 2 friends!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

1 October 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - OK, I have 2 really big crushes. Lets call them Rachel and Sarah. I’m back in college after over 10 years and find myself fallen for 2 of my classmates both in separate classes. Today as I’m in the cafeteria I find them both sitting together and they’re great friends. I ... (182 words)

I told him I liked him. He said nothing

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I told this guy that I had a crush on him. Before I was about to tell him I think he sensed what I was about to say. After I told him he just asked me how long I liked him and I said I don't know. I could not think straight my head was all over the place so I can't remember ... (432 words)

He is controlling but I love him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - i have been with my boyfriend for a year and i do love him but i feel like he is trying to control me he hates it when i talk to other boys (which are just friends) he hates it when i dont go where he goes he always wants to do what he wants he hates it when i use faceboo... (86 words)

Married man got caught. Would he lie to me about this?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4043 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Are there any reasons why a married man would lie to his mistress about getting caught by his wife? NO judgements please........ He was caught over the weekend and told me they were having a major fight and that he would get in touch with me. I don't think he would lie abou... (70 words)

My selfish husband doesn't turn me on

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my husband have been married for 3 years together for 5 and we have a 3 month old baby together. I'm finding I'm just into my hubby as sexually anymore I still find him very attractive but when we get down to sex it's so boring! I don't get aroused anymore and we have ... (375 words)

Why does my boyfriend watch chubby porn even though he says he's not attracted to larger women?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi Ok my my boyfriend (30yrs) and I have been together for a year. He watches porn, which I'm ok with - most of the time! He told me a couple of months ago that he sometimes watches chubby (or BBW) porn. He said it makes it seem more real like they would be the type of women... (278 words)

Should I wait or tell my crush?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (?) age 26-29 - I don't know if I should wait for my crush to breakup with his girlfriend that he's having issues with or if I should tell him that I like him now. I know he'll just reject me again because he's in a relationship but waiting for them to split is making me so depressed I feel ... (143 words)

Was I wrong for giving my b/f grief about answering her text?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi!! A few days ago my bf asked a girl something about class over twitter, they talked about that for a few posts and then a guy that studies with them said a joke involving both the girl and my bf. The girl answered saying that she loves them, the other guy didn't answered... (251 words)

Are we using each other somehow?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Well, if any of you checked my other questions, i was pretty in love with someone who didn't really loved me anymore, and we did broke up. I did helped my friend and him to get together, and i am happy for them. I have no feelings for him anymore. He is seriously a nice fri... (448 words)

Should I worry that she wants to get herself off after sex?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

1 October 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm 36, I've been married to my wife for 3 years and we never had any big sex-related problem or issue. Since a few months ago I started noticing that she was not satisfied anymore after we were done in bed. Not that she would tell me before, but she would say she was pleased ... (151 words)

He said sex was "alright". what does that mean?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - New guy asked me what I think about the sex we had I said it was good/great. His response how he feels was " it's. Alright". What's that suppose to mean? He is the dominate sex partner if it's not good enough he should do more to make it good. I do feel we both hold back a ... (97 words)

Its been 4 years and I don't think I'm over my ex. We go to the same functions. Should I not go?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Last night I bumped into my ex at a function. I am likely to have to see him fairly regularly at these events and I want to go because it's the only place I see a lot of acquaintances but it was difficult. I was dating this guy for two and a half months which I know is an inc... (439 words)

Sometimes my friend is sweet, sometimes he hurts my feelings. I don't know where we stand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I don't understand my status with a guy I often hang out with. Honestly, I have started to notice him since late last year. We usually talk over the phone reqarding work matters, but we always lingersa on and chat a bit longer about nothing. And whenever I was a... (230 words)

He doesn't know about our future together. Is it worth staying with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and a half. We get along great, we havn't really had a fight as we seem to be able to take conflict and talk it out, we enjoy spending time together and doing things together and we respect eachother. My only problems are that ... (146 words)

Former FWB situation--am I just too available for him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4003 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age - I am love with my best friend. I lived with him for a year and helped him through some tough health issues including cancer. We were friends with benefits and had a great time, playing, laughing, teasing. Then a girl came back from his past and was going to move in with him.. ... (174 words)

I opened my mouth and got into a situation I don't know how to make right?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (M)

age - I'm planning a trip abroad to celebrate a significant birthday. It's something I've wanted to do for most of my life. I am paying for my partner and two sons who are both in their mid twenties. In a rash moment I said that my sons could bring their girlfriends if they paid for ... (170 words)

Why are dumpers allowed to gloat and be vindictive?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4053 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I got dumped by a complete jerk over a year ago. He dumped me by text because he "wanted to be single". I never cheated or anything. He treated me bad so I was glad. I never contacted him ever again and deleted his number. Months and months later he begged to meet me, kept cha... (152 words)

My gf of two years wont do anything sexual with me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi! I have a problem and I really need some answers. I have been with my gf for two years. I love her to bits, I think she really is the one for me. However, she wont let me do anything sexual. We only kiss when we're together and that's it. Being without any sort of sexual ... (206 words)

My crush rejected me but now seems worried about me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - This time last year I finally came clean and told my crush of 5 years that I liked him. I mentioned a few times we hung out that were special to me. I also told him the reason why I waited - he was dating someone or it never felt right.. after my 30 seconds of courage and ... (161 words)

Work place problem- how to handle ignoring game?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I have an issue at work place. One of my coworker who is a guy plays all kinds of mind games. He pretended has a crush on me for some time (We are both in long term relationships) After pushing him back as much as possible for quite some time and avoiding him, we... (395 words)

Have I buried my future?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4058 days ago

1 October 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm 23 years old. I'm in love with one girl. We met 3 years ago in collage. She proposed me in the last semester. After 4-5 months of our relationship her parents got divorced. Now she is staying with her father. It was shocking news for me. I had taken 1 year gap to study ... (340 words)

I was going to end my affair then his wife found out and he told me not to contact him. What should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I am married and in love with a married man. It's the same old story as so many of the other stories on this site. Over the weekend, his wife broke into his phone and found out about me. i texted him yesterday morning not knowing this had happened and he told me he would ... (391 words)

Why does my married ex still want to talk to me but won't go to lunch with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age - Hi, me and my ex broke up years ago. He is now married. We recently starting talking on the phone, often. We laugh and have good conversations. One day I asked if he would like to go to lunch? He said,"I don't want any trouble." But still wants to keep talking to me. Why is he ... (60 words)

Am I second best for my boyfriend? I get the feeling he's still like to be with his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone hope you can help me. This is really long but please bare with me. My boyfriend was in a two and a half year relationship with a girl who ended up cheating on him and leaving him for the other guy. She was his first true love, his first serious girlfriend, they... (520 words)

I don't really know what she might feel for me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

1 October 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - About 5 years ago I had a relationship with a married woman. I thought I was falling in love and probably was, but then her husband died unexpectedly and I ran. I couldn't be there for her when she needed me but I think it was just too much at that time. I felt horrible and ... (224 words)

I want to move on but the ex won't let go

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hiya :) I have split up with my boyfriend beginning of August. He is a nice bloke, but he took me for granted too much and I was the one working at our future. I have summed it up now, he has never been independent, always had mother and me taking care of his every need..... (157 words)

Is it normal to have such serious conversations?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

1 October 2013 (F)

age 22-25 - I have posted once before, and I found the replies very helpful. I'd like to know if it's normal for my boyfriend and I to have serious talks about the future, such as marriage? We've been together for just over a month, but the conversations don't seem awkward or anything. ... (97 words)