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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Deletes all his texts from girls. Is he hiding something or am I crossing the line?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend deletes all the texts from other girls. Well he knows that I am jealous and I have confronted him for flirting with his colleague and knows that I sometimes go through his phone. (Please don't judge). Now he deletes all the texts with other girls, but the logs are ... (78 words)

Are trust issues the problem? He says if I want to talk about it I have his number

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - The other day when I was talking to my boyfriend, he was texting someone else at the same time. He made a mistake and sent it to me and was telling me that he was texting his nephews son who by the way only in the 4th grade that has his own cell phone, and it was about 8 ... (219 words)

Are my trust issues the key? Can I get past these feelings since I resumed a relationship with my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Some of you know my relationship history with the long distance relationship. Well it has been over since July, and I'm happy to say I don't feel stressed anymore. On another note. I have let my ex husband move back in with me and we are trying to work through everythi... (241 words)

How do I come to terms with celibacy and life as a single person?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4045 days ago

6 October 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - How do I come to terms with celibacy and life as a single person, continuous search just makes me unhappy, and distracts me from leading a fuller life in other ways. I've spent the past twenty years bringing up two girls on my own, they've recently both left home for univers... (166 words)

Do I put up with the pain? See a Dr? Need advice on how to stop sex hurting so much

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello just needed some sexual health advice My ex boyfriend and I have just got back together. Completely in love with him and we have tried sex in the past but never been able to do it properly as it hurts me too much. I really want to do it and I know it's upsetting ... (96 words)

Should I wait or call for an answer? Are we or aren't we broken up?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - After my non-acceptance or being able to make sense of the sexy, lets see where this will lead communication between my boyfriend and his old colleague... he still has not contacted me. NOR has he broken up officially. Is his silence an indication we are over or does he need ... (181 words)

Guy A or guy B? Why do I think of one when I am with the other? What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4060 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello. Two different guys that i both met a month ago, same age, have been checking me out. They both show interest of dating me. I'll call them guy A and B. So thing is guy A is so sweet, sexy, cute and a bit shy. Whereas guy B is physically strong, most guys envy his str... (173 words)

We love each other but we can't be together

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F) age 36-40 - This is my last post. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-want-to-be-single-my-whole.html I still miss my ex like crazy. I sent him a text yesterday and he didn't reply. Then I wrote to him and said I'm sorry for the annoying message. He said he didn't get the text. ... (197 words)

Help with oral sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't like giving blow jobs to my boyfriend. We have been together for some time now and we decides to hold on on sex and sexual favors. Now it's been a year or so we started doing oral. I love my boyfriend with everything I have and we are already talking about the idea of ... (263 words)

I have a good boyfriend now but my ex lover contacted me again and I am confused.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there I am in a pickle at the moment. I am currently with a man whom I love dearly and have pictured having kids with him and also marriage he's a gem! Have had a tough relationship but we've lulled through a lot together, he also has autistic spectrum disorder i might add ... (259 words)

Is it wrong for me to think that I can't be with a cross dresser?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age - I have known my husband for 34 years, we have been together for 13 years, 8 of them married. He recently told me he was interested in wearing women's clothing. At first I didn't know what to say, I was very confused. Then I cried a lot and tried to blame myself in some way. I ... (254 words)

Breast fantasy gone wrong.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (?) age 36-40 - Hello friends, i and my boyfriend had good relationship, he used to fulfill my needs and i also fulfill his needs, our sexual relation was also fine, now i started have milk in my breast, he used to fondle with my breast l**k, s**k, etc. before 10 days when i got up in th... (272 words)

Do you think he noticed what I am not getting in bed?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating this guys since a little while and we have had sex in 2 occasions. The first time i reached climax through some running with his penis since he didn't lick/finger me. I can't cum purely with penetration. Yesterday he licked me for a bit saying this was the ... (112 words)

Do Couples Have to sleep in the same bed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend always complains about the dogs waking him up in the bed (to late to untrain them now) and I always complain about my boyfriend snoring. The real question is there any true importance to a couple sleeping in the same bed or even in the same room? If it w... (97 words)

Should I keep working at the relationship or has it run its course?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive been with my boyfriend, since I was 16. Im now 24. Hes 2 years older. We've had our ups and downs like everyone else but generally get on well and have a good relationship. But for the last six months I feel different. Im under a lot of stress with work and being made ... (174 words)

My friend just became single again but wants to move. What should I do next?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - I have had feelings for a close friend for a number of years and we are both in our late 40's, I have not on my feelings as she was in a relationship with another friend, in May this year the split up after he had an affair, since then we have become even closer and has ... (196 words)

Older guy for younger women?!?!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi I'm a 41 year old, good looking single guy who only really gets on with girls aged between 18 - mid 20's. I just find them more fun and I seem to have so much more in common with them than women my own age. Do you think this is normal?? Please comment. ... (57 words)

Just broke up and feeling like travelling by myself. Any ideas?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

6 October 2013 (F) age 41-50 - My ex broke up with me 6 months ago. I found it so difficult to move on. I dont talk to my friends a lot about how i feel because i dont want them to hear me whine all the time. I dont want to tell my family about it either. Im always an independant daughter. Sometimes i feel ... (159 words)

How can I tell my mother information I gave her about being abused by my boyfriend was false, without losing her trust?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm going to make this as short and simple as I can. When I was between the ages of 4 and 11 I was molested by a step grandfather. I told my parents about this when I was 17 and naturally it's been hell ever since. this ties in with the question I have although this is... (498 words)

I worry he'll fall for some-one else like he fell for me when with his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I met my boyfriend a yr ago when he was still with his ex girlfriend. We were friends through his work - and nothing happened between us until after he broke up with his ex. He had said their relationship wasn't going well at the time and they were more like friends. We got ... (262 words)

I feel bad that he earns and spends more than I do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello! I am currently a twenty year old college student. Up until recently, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and I usually focused on other things, like relationships and family.It's only now that I've focused on schooling/work. Anyways. So I've been see... (310 words)

Should I leave my boyfriend? I think I deserve better?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Should I leave my boyfriend? I think I deserve better? Well here is our story so you can understand my situation. I met him three years ago. Since day one I knew he had a daughter but he was not with the mother. At the beginning we only talked as friends but then we st... (344 words)

Does my landlord torment me because I'm a lesbian? She's driving me insane!!!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - hi. i hope someone can help me. i'm a lesbian and my landlord is a divorcee for approximately 18 years. to my knowledge she's straight although i've never seen her with a man, she has 4 grown kids and she's kind of dominant acting. she is very controlling and all the tenants ... (750 words)

Is it normal or healthy in a love relationship for your girl or guy to frequently mention some other guy or girl's name?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

6 October 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - is it normal or healthy in a love relationship for your girl or guy to frequently mention some other guy or girl's name? my girl seems to mention this one guy's name every time we conversate. i once asked her and she said he was just a collegue and became some what defensive. ... (100 words)

I am beginning to think that my boyfriend either wants out of this relationship or is trying to emotionally abuse me as a form of control

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello Aunties/Uncles! Okay this may seem like an unusual problem, my boyfriend of 3 years has started to nit pick and in my opinion pick at problems that are simply not there. For example the current problem is, he accused me of being "too happy and upbeat" that something... (299 words)

I told him I wanted to hear from him at least once a day while he was travelling -- is it reasonable to be angry when he doesn't contact me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello so my boyfriend left a week ago to visit his family for his brothers wedding in india and I made it clear I wanted to hear from him at least once a day even if it was something like "I am going to bed goodnight" he is 10:30 min ahead of me. And last time he talked he ... (245 words)

It almost sounded like he was trying to convince himself when he said ILY

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - This may sound silly but: My boy friend of one year usually says "love ya" or "love u" either to me or in response to "I love you" from me. He said it first after six months by the way. However, tonight I kinda jumped on the bed, straddled him all smiley, happy and childish... (118 words)

I liked what he did but didn't want to seem easy.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - So I'm 15 and my boyfriend is too. We're practically best friends and he's perfect really. He's helped me through a lot. But today he put his hand under NY my shirt, I mean I didn't stop him, nor did I want to. It felt nice,.we were just kissing and he just slowly put his hand ... (167 words)

Reliable and no passion, or risky and passionate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm currently very confused. I was dating a guy for nearly 10 months but we broke up when I went to uni because it didn't feel the same. We still talk and its almost as if we are still together. But there's also another guy from back home who I talk to nearly every day and I ... (169 words)

Is my boyfriend's behavior a reflection of his love for me or does it speak more about his impulsiveness or lack of responsibility?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I want to tell you the story of my relationship/love affair and am hoping that someone could give me their thoughts on the situation. I have been in a long distance relationship with a man for about 3 months. Our relationship started off as somewhat of a love affair. He ... (575 words)

How long afer meeting should I text? Or should I at all?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

6 October 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a gay female, in needs of friends, of course id like to eet somene but new friends are important I've met someone recently from an online dating/friendship site, we have been messageing online for a few weeks, they are just looking for friends, and to meet new ppl,and... (431 words)