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writes:I recently entered my second trimester in my pregnancy. My husband and I are both very excited about having a baby. He recently sent a mass email to his co-workers and our friends announcing our pregnancy, but he didn't include me on the email. I feel a bit left out. He told me he didn't include me because he didn't want me to be bothered with all the responses, but I thought it would be exciting to see everyone's response. Why did he do this?
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reader, Abella +, writes (3 January 2013):
 hi
Thank you for the update.
Here's a thought - ask him for a chance to read all the responses in his account.. Forward any that you like to your email and then respond on your email.
Do you think this might help ?
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Abella
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your response. I am over-reacting and being hormonal, but I've also been feeling at odds with him lately. He hasn't been to any of the ultrasounds or doctor's visits, so on the other spectrum, he hasn't been as participatory in the pregnancy so far. He also didn't tell me that he was sending an email out to everyone when he did. That aspect doesn't bother me, and I'm happy that he's showing enthusiasm (finally), but everyone's talking to him about it, and I haven't been hearing much from anyone first-hand, so I've been feeling a bit separated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): @Serpico as a Colombian woman with an American fiancee here on the US I agree with your fiancee! I have exxplained this to him as well!
Don't make it more complicated then it has to be, he just seems to be looking out for you and trying to represent you as your man. I would be worried he did not want to tell the world!! He sounds excited, but maybe you can turn things around and sweetly ask him if you can see the responses with him over a romantic dinner or a nice ice cream or something :) Use this as a bonding moment! :D
Don't stress over the small stuff at the end of the day its hardly worth it!
Congrtulations on your baby btw.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 January 2013):
 He just told you why! He thought it would bother you to deal with all the responses. If that was incorrect, all you should do is tell him it is no bother and you would like to see the responses. Your man can not read your mind, and he just did not think too far.
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reader, jtfletcher +, writes (3 January 2013):
Sounds like pregnancy hormones to me. Do try to tone it down on the drama. I'm sure your husband will appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): You needed to see an email to know that you're pregnant? Seriously, enough with the drama.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (3 January 2013):
My South American fiancee says there is a phrase in Colombia that they often use to describe many American woman - its "complicated." When I first heard it, I asked her what it exactly meant. She said - if you are complicated, that means you can find drama in almost everything. Every event is something that requires an hour of discussion. Everything is overanalyzed and nit-picked until the cows come home. After she explained this, I admitted it described many American woman to the T.
My advice to you - dont be so complicated.....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 January 2013):
 MAYBE he didn't "e-mail" you because he goes to bed at night.... and his pillow is right next to your's..... and so all he has to do is WHISPER to you the contents of that email message.....
Geeeesh, get OVER it!!!!
Good luck......
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 January 2013):
 He was thinking not to bother you... he didn't mean any harm by it.
My husband can't grasp why someone would send an email to the spouse and BCC all the friends to make an announcement and to me that seems silly. It's just how folks think.
Your hormones are reacting here. I mean how can you feel out... without YOU there is no pregnancy...
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (3 January 2013):
 I wouldn't worry. Probably just excited as the other two replies suggested. Don't read to much into it. I'd be worried if he didn't tell anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): Tell him what you have told us here. Say that you want to read the responses. Otherwise, he will never know.
Just have him forward the e-mail to you.
In the rush to tell everyone, he didn't factor in that maybe you would actually like to read the responses but assumed otherwise.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 January 2013):
 He probably was just really excited and thinking "Yay!! I want everyone to know! Now who doesn't know yet?" I don't think you need to worry at all. Just ask him to forward you the responses.
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reader, Abella +, writes (3 January 2013):
Sometimes when people are excited they just don't think. knowing he is about to become a father is a HUGE thing for a man.
His logic was a bit twisted, especially if he did not ask first. Nor consult you in any way.
But I think it is just AlphaMale behavior because he is so excited
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