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writes:We were in love for 4-5 years before getting married and we use to have sex everyday,sometimes 2-3 times a day. Even if i did'ent want to,i would do it to satisfy him. But since we got married it just reduced and fell apart. He just does'ent want to have sex. I had to force him to make love to get our first child. Now my son is 2 years old and we r 4 years old in married life,but a complete full stop to sex. I cant understand why,what went wrong and whats the matter??? I asked him so many times but he just ignores me. What should i do????? Please help me.How should i get him to make love once again atleast once a week...... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): I think your husband is very emotionally unavailable because of a psychological problem and you both need counseling. He probably doesnt feel like a man anymore for reasons that you dont understand or that may not be your fault. Only a professional or a miracle could salvage this mess and miracles are hard to come by. I was married to a man like this and I would ask him and myself why why why. He didnt want to get professional help or counseling with me. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him dring. This seems like the only logical thing you ca do that would produce results but it2s up to him to want to change. Good luck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): Only two things come to mind. Well my first instinct is that he may be depressed. Maybe going through with the marriage took a big emotional toll on him. To a man, it is the end of an era, a very significant one: the non marital/single hood period. Maybe he feels his manhood has been taken away from him and he's since spiraled into a depression. If this is the case he should see a counselor.
My next intuition is that maybe he has a paramour he's keeping somewhere, unbeknownst to you. Does he act suspicious? Late night calls/dinners/meetings?
Something's going on and you need to get to the bottom of it. Do some snooping. Rule out an affair and any other illicit possibilities and chances are he is depressed in which case you should have him see a therapist.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (3 January 2013):
 "I had to force him to make love to get our first child"
Ouch! And you didn't think there was going to be any problems further down the line? I would've ran a mile away If I were him or you for that matter.
"How should i get him to make love once again atleast once a week"
You can't get him to make love to you. He has to want to. Your guess is as good as mine I'm afraid. You'll have to think about what has changed between you two after you got married.
Do you still go out with him like before you were married? Do you two still have fun?
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (3 January 2013):
First of all its not a good idea to try and force your husband to have sex with you.it will probably have the opposite effect and you will feel more rejected.I think it might be a good idea for you to alone and talk to a marraige counsellor.He/she will be able to advise you the best way to deal with this situation because at this stage you cannot deal with this problem alone Best of luck for the future. Nora B.
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