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writes:I am in a very confused state of mind right now. I have a boyfriend from 4 months. I recently discovered that he was a great flirt before we came in contact.He claims that he is "changed" now and won't leave me or betray me. He also spoke to his mother about this relationship but at the same time I find him flirting with other girls on social networking sites. He says that he loves me truly and he is serious about me. He is always ready with an answer which is made up whenever I inquire him about the girls. He says that he is not the one who is flirting but the girls are but the reverse is the truth.I am really not secured in this relationship so I decided to break up. But he is now threatening me to take suicidal attempts as he is damn serious about me. Frankly speaking, I'm a little scared about his activities.I told about him to my elder brother who is very supportive. He spoke to his parents about his suicidal attempts. This didn't work. He still contacts me. His body language irritates me. He is a sex-obsessed guy but on the other hand I am quite a reserved person. He always asks me to go into a physical relationship, and its denial makes him furious. I have tired so many times to break up but he threats me.He is a freak.What should I do? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much everyone. Everyone is with a thoughtful and mind blowing suggestion. Each and every advice helped me to a great extent. Thank you so much again.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 January 2013):
 Do not let him blackmail you into staying.
What you say to him is "we are done, what you choose to do when I am gone is your issue and not my problem" then you go NO CONTACT.
block his phone
block his email
block all social media
get on with your life.
"I'll kill myself if you leave me" is BS and it will not happen it's designed to guilt you into staying with an unstable person. The proper response to "I'll kill myself if you leave me" is "NOT MY PROBLEM"
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 January 2013):
 Whatever he might do after you dump his sorry keister is NOTE OF YOUR BUSINESS... I suggest that you NOT fall for this B/S.... which you so accurately described as "blackmail".....
Good luck....
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe  +, writes (4 January 2013):
 You have to be strong, walk away. This guy is not good for you. He is using his threats to control you. The chances of him following through are minimal. In regard to the girls, I simply dont believe his story - everything about this post screams to me this man is a manipulative lier who will do anything to get what he wants and throws a tantrum when he does not, ie when you refuse to have sex with him.
Your a decent, caring person that is why your confused, of course you would not wish harm on this guy BUT he is taking advantage of that, dont let him. He does not care about you - he cares about controlling you and his suicide threats are just another strategy to try and gain that control over you.
His body language irritates you? I think it is more than that - you can see this guy is bad news and something deep within your mind is flashing a giant warning sign to that effect. Walk away with a clean conscience. You have to do this or else if you let him get his claws in now, you will be stuck with him probably for a very long time. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2013): IN this case you have to be hard. Dont be afraid to tell the truth like say this if he threatens to kill himself, "No you wont, you've said that many times." now if he is stupid enough to take his own life thats him. NOw to me he is never going to change, if he is flirting with other girls then he needs to get to steping on their way. You deserve more and I know he just isnt it. Now if I were you, I would like to get papers filed against him just to be safe. YOu never know he might decide to come after you.
I hope this has helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): I've had this happen.
I told him, well darling you might as well go ahead an do it. And ignored him completely.
He wont do it, dont be scared it what he wants you to be
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