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writes:This is kinda annoying... It's not that I don't love him, I do, I really do but I like to do my own stuff and what I'll say may seem kinda superficial but it's kinda annoying...My boyfriend does everything with me... I know how girls complain like "oh he doesn't give me too much attention" and "he does everything withOUT me..." well I'm the opposite...I smoke, and he is this huge hypocrite that says that he doesn't like when I smoke, he hates it... But he smokes when he's in a bad mood...And then I like going to tumblr, I draw clothes and there are plenty of images there that inspire me... Everytime I say "look I'm going to tumblr" or when he ask what am I doing and I say "I'm goint to tumblr" he always says "Oh I'm going too." If say "well later I might go there" he says "yeahh I might as well go there!"When he asks me "are you going to tumblr?" and he doesn't want me too and I say yes he says "damn! I didn't want us to go!" ... Us? I'm like "Us? But you don't need to go..." and then he freaks out... I mean... He's always doing that... and it's kinda annoying... because not only he only goes when I go, he's always asking why did I put that pic or why don't I tell him that I love him there and stuff like that... And then, the smoking. He's always asking me if I smoked and when I do tell him that I will or something and starts acting all childish and saying no no no, because he can't do the same... And it's impossible to do and tell him I don't because he's always, ALWAYS, with me... Why does he do that? what can I do? In a sweet and not hurtful way... I don't want to push him away but I want to do things on my own sometimes... :(
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reader, Girl with a ladybug tattoo  +, writes (8 January 2014):
 Hi there. My boyfriend kinda does the same thing. He wants to do everything with me and it drives me crazy. I have hobbies...his hobby is me. I think it stems from a bad relationship he had in the past. His girlfriend just up and left one day without so much as a "how do you do". I think our guys are insecure to a certain extent. I love my boyfriend, he's THE best boyfriend in the world, but I tell him I don't want to do everything with him and he says he doesn't either and just wants to spend time with me. I find myself reading more to avoid him. It's such an odd feeling to be wanted so much.
I don't have any advice, sorry. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone for I'm in the same boat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2013): he's either being really clingy, or really controlling like wanting to keep tabs on every single thing you do. maybe his past girlfriends broke up with him because he didn't do enough stuff with them, so now he's going overboard being the exact opposite??
the next time he does this - and you probably don't ahve to wait very long for there to be another next time! - when he says "damn! I didn't want us to go!" then you say "but you don't have to just because I am!"
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (4 January 2013):
 Do you live together? If not, then having some alone time should be easy. Do either of you have jobs, families, or other friends that you spend time with? Surely the two of you aren't together twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week?
Tumblr is an online website, it isn't a place that you physically take your body to - so why do you need to announce to him every time you go there?
Some of what you've said leads me to believe that this might be an online relationship. Why would he need to ask you what you're doing or if you've smoked? If you're physically in the same room, then he would already know the answerer to these questions.
If this IS an online relationship, then you don't have to report your every move to him - and you can certainly turn off your computer and spend a little alone time.
If it isn't an online relationship, then tell him you love him but you need a little "you" time. He could probably use a little "him" time as well. Everyone needs their own space every once in a while. Take a day or two, here and there, and don't plan to do anything together.
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