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writes:Ok, so I am going a little crazy here, please help. I am from the mid west and live far from most of my family, I've only ever known my dads side and my mothers immediate family. I recently moved to the deep south with my mom, where most of my mothers family lives. I met my 4th cousin who is a woman my moms age a few months ago, and recently met her youngest son who is 2 years older than I am. He is my fifth cousin, and since his mom has been asking us over often I have been around him much more and have developed feelings for him. In my mind, 5th cousins don't even exist, like after 2nd cousins I don't count them family, but here in the deep south, they think of 5th cousins as family. I have been hanging out at his house so much and he is so nice, I can't help but like him. He is gone for 3 months now, he just left the other day, so I have time to deal with this situation. So my side is that I don't really consider us related, but he might, and his mother definitely does. We never met growing up, we are both adults when we first met. I don't know what to do or think. I just have chemistry with him you know? and I am not positive that these feelings are returned, as we haven't spent enough time alone together to know, but I feel they could be, or might be. Though I have tried I can't stop having feelings for him, what should I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 January 2013):
 I don't even know who my 3rd cousins are much less 5th.
In the USA anything below 1st cousins is fair game for dating and marrying legally.
If you have feelings for him, i think you should let him know in case he returns them... then you guys can go from there.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 January 2013):
 If you are 5th cousins, that means the ancestor you have in common is this guy's great-great-great- grandfather !
You are " related " in the 9th grade, that's not even related according to the law - if you ( touch wood ) should die and he was your only surviving relative, he could not inherit , your property would go to the State.
I have no idea if he likes you back or not, but, if what is holding you back is only or mostly your kinship- oh please, that's absurd, if we go back just a little more, two or three generations, you are probably related to half of the populations of the USA.
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