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writes:I've been seeing this guy for about 1yr and even though he is gentle and sweet, he has a dark side that I could detect. I"ve even seen it a couple of times. I recently found out that he is bipolar and he's asked me not to contact him again. I found medicine he was taking in his medicine cabinet. My heart is feeling sorry for him and feels like he doesn't mean it (because he's said it in the past) but I didn't know he was bipolar then. I just thought he was odd and geeky. Should I walk away from him knowing his condition now or should I try to talk to him and let him know its alright and he has my support? I just think it would be cold of me to walk awaying knowing it but then I think that it's probably best. Please help me with a difficult decision.
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reader, mis understood +, writes (4 January 2013):
mis understood is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're correct I probably should leave well enough alone. I guess my heart was in it deeper than I thought.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (3 January 2013):
 In fact, if he's your EX don't do anything. Why do you want to do this for your ex anyway?
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (3 January 2013):
No. That will scare him BIG TIME. You can still tell him you're always here for him and let him know you support/love him but don't tell him you know.
Let him tell you if he wants to.
I've been there with a girl that I suspect had it and I couldn't handle it personally. after a year I had to end it.
Read up on it but for goodness sake do not leave any books/websites around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): BiPolar is a serious mental health condition. It is chronic and life-long. Periods of severe depression and manic highs, which can lead to affairs, financial issues, disconnect in relationships (this is when someone doesn't manage their symptoms). Is he medicated and does he go through periods, which often happen when one is in a manic state that they feel just fine and therefore go off medication. There are many wonderful productive individuals with BiPolar who are diligent about there disease. Is he one of those. Is he open to hearing if he is out of balance. Is he in ongoing therapy. Are you good at your own self-care, setting boundaries, and have your head on straight so that you can ride the waves when the medication may not work or needs to be changed?
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (3 January 2013):
I suggest that you do research on Bipolar and find out as much information as you can .Try and ask him to have a quiet talk about everything and sort the situation out. It may take time as he will e feeling upset that you found out yourself. Be gentle, be there.give it time. best of luck Nora B.
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