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writes:Hi,I'm kind of confused my girlfriend just sms ed me that she's refusing to make love to me any more. I think this is due to the fact that I saw her with a man walking down the street, so I stop gave her a lift to her home.That evening before sleep I tried to ask her who was that guy you were walking with. And where had she been that day?She told me she had been visiting a friend.She got angry with me for doubting her and so she accused me of many things.But we talked but then at the end of she she I am not going to make love to you.She was angry with me. I'm confused. Why did she get so angry that I asked her these questions?I could leave her. I don't need to live with her. But why did she react like that? Reply to this Question
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (22 January 2013):
She used sex as a weapon. If you don't leave her it's your problem. Never EVER let a woman in your life use sex as a weapon, it's one thing if she has her period, has worked a 12 hour shift, or is genuinley angry about something you did wrong for example, but for her to deny you sex because you suspected something? BZZZT wrong! Get rid of her. For those saying oh you don't trust her thats why she is doing it, for one imagine what she would say if you were walking around with a girl. I doubt she would say "yeh i'm cool with that, now let's have sex". She'd be saying "who was that? why were you with her? e.t.c e.t.c" If it was a friend it's one thing, but if it's just some random guy she was walking with I wouldn't suspect she's cheating but I would at least ask objectively "who was that". And even if you suspected something but had your doubts and wanted to find out, that is NEVER an excuse to withold sex. Dump her.
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (3 January 2013):
 People who react so harshly and get so offended that you 'don't trust them' are hiding something. The entire thing is pointless anyway since she has stated there will be no more sex then obviously there will be no more relationship. But to answer your question of why she reacted that way, because she has something to hide. And overreacting throws you off of what she is doing and you focus on something else, liars do it every day. Just dump her, she seems pretty immature and awful.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 January 2013):
 you caught her doing something she didn't want to get caught doing.
to avoid you questioning her and determining she was wrong, she went on the attack.
the fact that you say you could leave her leads me to say "make it so" since it sounds like she's keeping secrets from you.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (3 January 2013):
 Drop her. She's playing you. End of story.
That's not normal behaviour. The fact she uses sex as a weapon is also a BIG RED FLAG here. Can you imagine living or being married to someone like that? You're in for a life of misery.
Just walk away. Don't talk to her, don't message her, don't see her. Tell her you're busy if you must tell her anything.
Go find yourself a good woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): Because you don't trust her. And if you could leave her, why are you even with her?
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