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*emi12
writes:Hello everyone i really need some advice!! I caught my boyfriend with girls on a night out and dancing with one of them and was really drunk and lashed out! we were fine afterwards and the next day he dropped me home and i phone him within an hour later and he said he didnt want to be with me said he had a think about me lashing out and said he didnt want nothing to do with me. I tried phoning him and phoning him after he said this but he did not answer. The next day i tried again but there was no answer so i then went to stay with my mum in london. I did not tell him this. We had planned to go out to go out for new year for adges but we werent together so i found out he had gone to the same place were i seen him with the girls and he was with girls again! now my ex boyfriend is trying to turn it to me like everthings my fault because i didnt tell him i didnt go to london. is this just an excuse for him to blame me? i still want to be with my ex boyfriend but he doesnt want to be with me! what do i do to get him back?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 January 2013):
 Well if you went off like a crazy women maybe that was too much drama for him. However... He won't stop doing whatever he wants and act single - so why do you so desperately want to be with this guy?
Stop calling him, stop chasing him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 January 2013):
 There is a "breakup" going on here. You are one of those in that breakup (your boyfriend is dumping you!)....
Figure out how to handle THAT.....
Good luck....
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reader, CMMP +, writes (3 January 2013):
In order to get someone back you need to have a good reason, not just because you're heart broken.
And, believe it or not, the best way to get someone back is not to beg and pester them, it's to tell them how you feel in a mature way then walk away confidently and wait for them to contact you.
If he wants you but is playing games this will make him feel like he could actually lose you when he was used to you nipping at his heels like a puppy.
The truth is he was probably looking for an excuse to break up with you and you gave him one when you understandably freaked out on him. If he respected your relationship he wouldn't have been partying with other girls.
Make sure you think sincerely about whether or not you guys belong together. Rejection is a very powerful psychological trigger that can make you think he's perfect for you, but if you use your head you can probably see that the two of you should part ways.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (3 January 2013):
 Yep, sounds like he has trouble taking responsibility for his own actions. He needs to find something to blame on you, so he can justify what he's doing.
This doesn't sound like a stable relationship. Look at this break up as a blessing in disguise, because I bet you can find someone much better to be with.
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