How do I salvage a friendship that I miss so much?

A male age 41-50, *sinmaine writes:

I'll try to make this short and sweet. I've known this women for 4 years...up until a few months ago, we hardly saw each other. Back in may, we went to a concert and had a great time. We had a couple drinks after and had a nice conversation in her vehicle which lead to a small make out session. after that night we became closer friends and began texting and carrying on as friends and would hang out occasionally after work.....fast forward a couple months and things start to get good...we start hanging out more and more and meeting for drinks and dinners after work....then jackpot, I get the invite to have dinner at her house with her and her kids....I'm in heaven, because I am falling in love with this woman that I have had a mini crush on for the last four years. The night was amazing! Delicious dinner, few beers, laughs, music, playing with her kiddos, just a perfect night in my mind.....then two nights later, we have a steamy encounter in my truck where she reveals to me that what we were about to do was "4 years in the making". I'm flying high!!! I'm thinking this is it, my dreams are coming true! She is into me and this is gonna be great!....well since that night, which was a couple months ago, things have been on a steady decline with a few brightspots mixed in. I get sex and all ruins things but this, I felt, was different....yeah we had an encounter but things were sorta getting back to normal with us. We went out a couple times and she let me into her life on a personal level..so I'm thinking we may be back on track for something special....oh I forgot to mention she has a boyfriend! Here's the plot twist....she is with someone that she pays rent to in order to have her own place! Imagine that?! They have been together for 3 years and they don't live together...Anywho back to me.....so since a couple days before Xmas, I offered to help her give her kiddos the Xmas they deserve! She accepted my help and I felt great! I want to help her because that's what nice guys do! U are probably thinking, yeah yeah, he's just trying to buy her love...not the case, I genuinely love and respect this woman and not to be cocky, but ive seen all she has to offer, if u catch my drift, I am madly in love with her....so now we are at a week ago today. I haven't received one call or text from her at all......I am an emotional trainwreck! What in the world happened? What did I do? And what on earth can I do to salvage a friendship that I so badly miss? Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you for taking the time to read this. ;)

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