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writes:When I was 16 I had my first relationship ever and it turned out pretty awful, the guy was terrible/abusive and the whole thing left me in a terrible state where I was taking drugs till I tried to kill myself and I failed school, getting an 8 out of 200 for one exam. I used to be great at school, but that was my lowest point in life.A few months later, I decided I wanted to go to school again, so I applied to go to an international school in my home country. I left my parents and friends behind and moved in with my aunt and uncle. So far I'm getting a pretty ok score in the international baccalaureate 36/45 overall, but I know I can do a lot better. I've applied for university to study psychology and after that I might want to apply for the top law schools in London. I want to be back on top, I want to be the best in school again and become successful and happy and normal. Reading this would you say I can do it and would you consider my life being back on track again? I'm a grade behind in school, and my grades are still pretty average, but I know I can do better. I have 5 months till my final exams and I've begun studying like mad. I just want to be on top again, but everyone else in school seems to have had a head start and a very stable foundation for a guaranteed awesome future. What are your opinions? Sorry for my insecurity and long post. Many thanks for reading this, it means a lot to me.
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reader, chipmunk37 +, writes (6 September 2015):
 I think you are very much on the fast rack to getting your life back together. You could have quit after the lowest point in your life but you haven't. You have pulled yourself up by your shoe strings and got back into school and are working so hard that despite the set backs you have encountered you will no doubt succeed. You have a fear of failure, that comes across strongly in what you wrote. My advice would be to use it as your secret weapon. You fear failing so much you would do anything to avoid it and that becomes the driving force that will propel you forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): You are doing a great job and you sound very determined. You should be proud of yourself. Academically you are a very bright girl and this is a challenge you are headstrong about therefore I think you will do wonderfully.
As for your emotions at how you may feel about the past, definitely deal with those feelings with care. Give yourself time and patience to heal. Sometimes you've just got to take baby steps in terms of healing from past traumas. But certainly don't let it deter you from your goal. Keep going full force academically while allowing yourself the time to breathe and heal from any lingering emotions.
You are doing great and will continue to do great. Good luck on your finals!
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reader, cmarieky  +, writes (3 January 2013):
I think as long as u are doing your very best at your highest potential is what counts. I wouldn't consider anyone else and compare them to u. Simply bc ur situation is unique, you've been through a lot and u are on the rebound handling life and not being handled. You've made plans and are following through with your commitments of wanting more for u and going out there to get it. Congratulation for making it thus far. Personally I think after ur scenario ur doing damn good if I may say so. Just one step at a time, and as long as ur doing something that makes u happy that is healthy I'd say go for it. Only don't try to set extreme goals bc if u don't meet them u may have feelings of a failure. You only live once so make sure if u do set extreme goals u are working and making progress to accomplish them. Good luck on everything
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