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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Now I am at University how do I make new friends? And how do I cope with lonliness at being so far from everyone I know?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So today was my first day of University and second night staying in student accommodation. I've had a really tough year and finally got out of my depression in time for Uni but now I feel like I am slowly sinking back there. I have never felt so alone. I honestly have tr... (243 words)

Am I over-reacting? He thinks he may have got a girl pregnant before he me me. I don't think my heart can take.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together going on seven months now I love him and he is the best thing that has happen to me in a long time. He is as good as they come I couldnt ask for a better man. We were expecting our first child together but I miscarried. Here is the issu... (143 words)

I know this is not normal but...

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Had a few drinks but was not drunk - I was performing oral sex on my wife when things got very intense and before I knew i slipped further down. To my surpise my wife moaned in pleasure and asked for me to do it again. I accomodated and before I knew it became just as intense ... (112 words)

I don't know what he wants, any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4256 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, Over the past year my ex has been in contact with me (up until now it's been three years since we were last together - he broke it off with me because his feelings apparently changed), it's been on and off contact. He was always quite flirty and we even tried to meet up... (343 words)

BDSM Fem-Domme advise.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This may seem a little perverse to any vanilla people but I was hopeing to get a bit of advise on how to find my byfriends limits. He always admitted to being a submissive person so I began with the basics, tied him up, teased him, made him pleasure me ect, so on. I've foun... (157 words)

I need her to be in my life and I want her as a lover....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Iam 22 and iam madly in love with a girl ever since i completed my schooling, that zeros into almost 8 years. I never even thought of any other girl as my wife or my girfriend, in short i never had a real life apart from this. I used to go wherever my lady love has gone and i ... (289 words)

Should I be talking to my husband's disrespectful family?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age - I had to set boundary with my husbands family. They convinced my husband that our daughter was not raped when she was. On top of the rape, this was so bad!! They have been verbally abusive to my son. They have yelled at me, threatened me, and have acted completely ... (229 words)

I helped pay for 2 friend's lunches and they haven't paid me back. Are they mooches or an I gullible?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I feel pretty dumb but hear me out. This classmate of mine and I were out to lunch on campus. She forgot her wallet so I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar. It wasn't that expensive but that's not the point. She seemed greatful thanked me and said she ... (199 words)

I gave him my phone number on Saturday but he hasn't called or texted. Is this a bad sign?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I went out on saturday night with some friends and the guy I like and am currently flirting with wasn't there. But just before we left he turned up, saying he was just passing. He gave me a hug and asked what I was doing now. I said a few of us were going to a friend's and he ... (169 words)

He cheated on me in the past but now he is trying to make up for it, even though he is engaged to someone else. I love him so what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - HI all iv posted on here before about an ex that seemed to trying to get back into my life, just wanted a little more advice. We split because within the first year of the relationship he cheated. We have a child together now. Hes showing more interest more so now tha... (580 words)

He seems overly affectionate with his mom... It's a bit weird.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone! Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 yrs and lived together 2 and a half yrs! I love him very much! Im 22 hes 21 His parents live about 1/2 hour away and he sees them most weeks hes quite close to them, however recently ive started to get a bit taken a... (382 words)

I already have trust issues. What do I do with this big lie of omission from my girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I am a middle aged man with trust issues. I have been dating a woman for over a year and the relationship has a lot of promise. When we started dating she told me that her last relationship ended "a couple of months ago" and "it was no big deal". However, from day one she has ... (142 words)

His status on Facebook is listed as single but we have been together for 5 months and he says he loves me.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4256 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been dating this guy for 5 months now and it has been pretty tumultuous but I care for him and he says that he loves me. Does he mean it? That, I don't know. The one thing that is bothering me is that he has single as his status on Facebook, which I find pretty lame ... (100 words)

My husband has been having an affair for 12 of the 14 years we have been married. I don't know if I should end the marriage.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am married for 14 years and has two kids. My husband is cheating on me for 12 years with different women. I got the chance to talk to one of his other women would you believe we just talk and didnt had a fight! They broke up because I have all the proof of their affair. But ... (341 words)

How do I get over my backstabbing boyfriend who cheated on me with my cousin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4249 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My question is, how do I get over the fact that my heart belongs to a lying, cheating, sneaky, manipulator bastard who had sexual intercourses with my younger cousin who is now 21 and pregnant by him supposely? I been knowing this guy for 2yrs now and he just told me last ... (66 words)

I am moving in with my female friend who I have deep feelings for. What can I expect to happen in this arrangement?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys, I just got invited to move in with a good female friend of mine of 4 years (Which I have accepted). The thing is that I have had deep feelings for her a long time but she has said many times that nothing would ever happen between us. I have accepted that and ... (258 words)

My boyfriend enjoys a sexual act that causes me a lot of pain, I ask him not to but he threatens and does it anyway.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a boyfriend who is really into a certain sexual act. I wont divulge too much because of the ages of some on this site. That being said, due to his size, this act is extremely painful and I don't like it. The problem is, he does like it, regularly asks for it, and occa... (163 words)

My husband is lazy and I no longer feel compatible. How do I get him to understand it's over?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I have been married for 14 years. We have three children (age 13, 11 and 10). Our 10 year-old is a special needs child with autism. Before my husband and I got married we talked about a future in which I would work and he would take care of the kids. This has ... (560 words)

I want to make my marriage work but we are completely lacking a sexual bond and intimacy.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband and I met when I was just 20. At the time, he was essentially a rebound as I had just broken up with my first "true love". I picked him on the basis of rational thought; he was reliable, very intelligent, caring, trustworthy, and capable. I knew straight away he was ... (808 words)

I want to avoid getting involved with the wrong guy again. How do I know early on if it's right?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, I'm almost 28 and really would like to have confidence that the next boyfriend I choose will be right. How do I find out early on when dating, if a guy is right for me. I want to be able to make sound judgements early in, before I get in deep and fall in love. Do you ... (935 words)

Sex issues with my virgin girlfriend, any help would be much obliged!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi all again. So me and my gal have been going together over a year now and she has gotten much more comfortable with me fooling around with her. She still is really shy when it comes to reciprocating. I have two questions, one that pertains to her and one that pertains to ... (342 words)

Sex doesn't scare me, but foreplay does!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like i'm being stupid here, most people for their first time worry about the sex part. Where as that doesn't scare me or make me feel nervous, I don't know why... but it's the part before that, the foreplay. I just don't know what I would do with the guy, like I know... (159 words)

Should I wait for him to move back to my country, or move on with other guys?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hy. I met an awesome guy on the net. He s 5years older than i am. We have been exchanging texts for a year now. His parents currently live in my country but he moved to another country(continent) with his god parents because of education etc(well that s what he told me). Anyway ... (155 words)

Should I tell my parents I'm gay together, or individually?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Quick question. Should I come out to my parents together or one at a time? What are the pros/cons? Thanks.... (23 words)

I cant stay over with the guy I'm seeing because I'm scared of him seeing me without make up! Help!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - so i've been seeing this guy and I can't stay the night with him because i'm worried about the morning after. I'm not naturally pretty, he always goes on about how beautiful and gorgeous I am... which just makes me insecure about wearing no to little make up with him! I should ... (135 words)

Is she playing hard to get, or is she not interested? Should I ask her out again anyway?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I met a girl (a friend of a friend) on a night out the other day. We got talking and things got intimate pretty quickly. To cut a long story short we spent the whole night together and it was probably one of the best nights I've ever had. I don't exactly find it difficult ... (420 words)

I like a girl but she ignores me completely!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I met this girl while attending 2 weeks program,and i really liked her.We used to talk sometimes in class.She asked me to draw her a portrait when she came to know i draw good.Then i asked i wanted something in return like going out for cafe or something and she said she is ... (334 words)

How do I get my boyfriend to take responsibility for what he did?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago because he got violent and went for me repeatadly. now hes claiming that i attacked him....i was sober as a judge and remember everything, he was drunk and admits it though says if i fight like a man he will treat me like a ... (195 words)

Is he right about the meaning of my tattoo?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4258 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a yin and yang symbol on my wrist, a tattoo. But when the guy i'm seeing noticed it he said he didn't like it because it meant I believe in satan and it's quite emo? I said no, it means balance that everything has an equal an opposite reaction. We got into a bit of a ... (196 words)

Will masturbating several times every day for nearly a decade affect your fertility?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - If you're a guy and you masturbate between 3-5 times a day ever since you found the joy of self-pleasuring, will it eventually effect your sperm count or even fertility? The reason I ask is because when me and my boyfriend are together and I pleasure him, when he finishes... (237 words)

Would you date a woman who is unemployed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Okay basically, I was living in another country with my fiance but that ended in disaster so I have to come back to England to restart my life from scratch. I am moving between towns and either staying with my parents or staying with friends, depending on where I can find... (244 words)

Does a cheater deserves a scond chance?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4244 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Just a little of insight please. I have just foud out that my hub of 3 years have cheated on me for 4 months.We have 2 sons, the youngest was only 1 month old whne he started sleeping with the other woman. He works deployed 4 months on, 2 months off. Last vacations I got ... (543 words)

The proposal - Advice please ladies!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi all, I have been in a loving relationship with my girlfriend for a number of years now and wish to make a marriage proposal.. I just wish to make this as special for her as possible, because she deserves it! I intend on proposing to her when we are on holiday in a coup... (312 words)

Dating 2 guys but I want to stop, how do I choose which one to keep dating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a complete idiot and that girl I didn't want to be. I know guys and girls do this and maybe to some it's no problem, but i'm treading very thin ice now. I met two guys who I went on a date with, only because I liked them both. That and my friends said I can't make a dec... (352 words)

Should I tell my friend how I feel about him? If so, how do I do it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, I am 16 years old, I havnt had a boyfriend in a LONG time! I dot know why either, I hate being single and just want that special someone to love who I am. I have a friend at school who's such a sweet guy, super funny and always there for me when I need advice, I ... (223 words)

For the guys: Why does a perfectly nice guy stop talking to you suddenly for no reason?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey, this is more one for the guys, as I would love to know why a perfectly (or what seems a perfectly) nice guy can just stop talking to a woman suddenly and that will be it! So the short of the suturation- met a lovely guy, in a bar about 3 weeks ago. Spent 7 hours ta... (554 words)

Does my boyfriend still have feelings for his ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am asking this question on here because I am not sure what to think at the moment and need an outsiders perspective. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 1 1/2 yrs now. About 8 months ago we had a break up because I found text messages he sent to his babymama that lead ... (490 words)

I cant stop feeling insecure about my boyfriend's ex's and I keep throwing it in his face, how do I stop myself from ruining our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - How do I stop throwing my bf's past exes in his face? I found some pics of his exes a while ago, he has deleted them, but now I can't stop feeling insecure about the exes. I had too much to drink last night and we got into an argument about them again! I know this is my fault ... (106 words)

I want to leave but have no money, and my husband says if I ever leave he will take the kids as he has the money to give them a good life. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my husband have been married for 4 years. We have 2 boys, 5 years and 1 year. The last year have been crazy, we fight ALL the time and his verbally abusive. I think it's time to get out but I have no money and no place to go. I've been a housewife for just over 4 years. ... (108 words)

I cheated on him 4 times when we were first together, we are now in love and wanting to get married....should I come clean?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Everyone..I need urgent help regarding this question...I broke up with a guy after being in a relationship for six years..This changed my life.. i became very careless regarding love and lusted for every single guy i knew..I started dating a guy who was very loyal to ... (182 words)

I like two best friends and they like me, I don't want to come between them but they keep chasing me! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so i have a very big problem. Im a virgin so this brings my problems down a notch but I really really like 2 guys whom are best friends. Its very complicated on how it managed to get as far as me actually liking two best friends. basically they both like me but i would never ... (130 words)

I want a relationship with this guy, but should I settle for a FWB for now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Well, I have asked for advice about a guy I have been absolutely in love with for 2 years a few times now. How I didn't think I even existed to him and then he messages me on facebook on a drunk night and wants me to head over, then says he doesnt remember the conversation but ... (640 words)

How can I tell my parents that when I finish university I want to take up the guitar professionally? They will have to pay $40,000 a year for me to do so.....

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, this isn't a relationship question but I'd really like some outside opinions on this problem. I am currently attending university, studying criminology and going into my 3rd year. However back when I started 1st year I had started to play my guitar a lot more in order to... (366 words)

I hate to admit it but my ex scares the crap out of me, how do I stop her from ruining my life?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My head has been completely screwed with by my ex. She told so many lies. She even said that she was pregnant and then strangely miscarried when i asked to see proof of pregnancy and asked her to go to dr. During our 2year relationship she pulled me away fro m all of my ... (172 words)

She filed for divorce claiming I verbally abuse her, how do I save this marriage?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - So, here goes nothing. I have never posted anything like this before but an looking for unbiased opinions. I am married to someone that I truly care deeply for and we have been in a relationship for over two years. She recently filed for divorce and I am doing everything I can ... (231 words)

He left me to figure things out with his ex wife, slept with her then realised they are just friends. Now he wants me back....any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Well.... my boyfriend left me to figure things out with his wife that he was seperated from. I know she harrased me and wanted me away but did not want to be with him. They were seperated for two and a half years. When he left me three months ago they slept together but never ... (163 words)

Why am I still single?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I really need some help on this one. This torments me to no end and I can’t for the life of me figure this out. For some reason I get no interest from women. I’m 26 and I’ve still yet to have a romantic relationship. Women are either content with just knowing who I am, or ... (380 words)

He broke it off, but wants to see me again, what is this guy's motive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F) age 30-35 - a guy i was seeing 2 months ago has got back in contact, he broke it off. reason being he did not have enough time for me. when we started seeing eachother 6 months ago i was not wanting anything serious, i am not ready for a relationship. then this guy after a month of seein... (448 words)

What does he mean by sending me this message after he broke up with me over a month ago?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex-boyfriend has not initiated sending me a personal message in the month since he decided his feelings for me were "complicated" and sent me a breakup e-mail (referenced in the link to my previous post below). He has forwarded me a few humorous/political e-mails. And ... (298 words)

How can I handle this awkward situation? met on X-box. She's 22 with a baby. I'm 16

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

17 September 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Hell. Ok so here is my story, i met this great person on a game on xbox live, a few months ago. we talked for a little while and added each other on facebook and have talked on there. By the way im a 16 year old guy and she is 22 (not sure if this matters but she has a 1 year... (242 words)

The fighting is consuming us. But I love him and so I really don't know what to do. What can you suggest?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - i love him so much and ive never felt this way about anyone I'm not the type to take chances with long relationships, actually it's my first real relationship. He's truly my best friend he knows everything about me and i know everything about him. We've been with each other fo... (241 words)

How long is too long to go without sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4260 days ago

17 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid, I a still a young woman but I stop having sex a longtime ago it's not that I don't want sex in my life it's who the sex is coming from I make bad choices when it comes down to men.So I chose to let love find me.I will be 41next month and my flesh is bothering badly ... (101 words)