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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Ex said baby wasn't mine, but it resembles me and I feel guilty

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My ex n i broke up when she was 2 mnths pgnt.She later said that its cz pregnancy wsnt mine. We lost contact, she gave birth, baby is 5mnths. Have only seen baby's pics, we resemble. I feel guilty all the time, i cant move on, I dont know what to do... (55 words)

4 years of dating and I get dumped by a text message

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M) age 30-35 - i have been with my girlfriend for 4 years, and today she dumped me via text. only recently we were all happy and romantic, but suddenly 3 days later she dumps me randomly. i have been working very hard, therefore have not seen her as much as i used to, but this is as a ... (114 words)

He tried to kiss me but I refused, he's apologised but should I see him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4417 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I started to talk to a really nice lad on on fb I no him from around the village, I met up with him at about 2 in the morning with one of my other friends, and he tried to kiss me, however I felt really awkward and refused. He said 'sorry for being a dick' so I think he's ... (86 words)

What kind of behavior is this for a relationship? Is it acceptable?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a friend who's in a bit of a situation with his girlfriend/female friend that wants to date him. I put a slash term there, as neither of them really know if they're dating or not - too many emotional episodes, it would seem. Anyways, uh, at times, the girl will be VER... (140 words)

Whats going on with my life?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi aunt Agony, I use to be really fit and active, hiking, indoor and outdoor sport, working out, but recently stopped because I have major injuries from rhe start of this year. I am outgoing and good looking (I have been told).For a time now I feel I have no motivation to go ... (125 words)

Do men get intimidated by beautiful women?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Do men get intimidated by beautiful women? What are your thoughts on this? I've seen this question elsewhere and thought I'd ask the users here.... (25 words)

Should I ask him if I'm the problem why he can't be satisfied?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been seeing my b/f for about 18 months now. We spend weekends together when we can. We are both in our 40s. We never managed intercourse but always satisfied orally. I can't satisfy him orally now and he won't kiss passionately anymore. I worry that it's because ... (99 words)

How do ask or find out if I'm wasting my time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Well there's this girl I really like. She is rather shy. I have taken her out once and we both had a good time. She's been rather quiet recently but theres been a lot going on in my life and her life. What I would like to do is get some indication on whether I am was... (121 words)

How do I take my relationship further without sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my boyfriend are 15 and we have been going out for almost 10 months and we have done all the snogging and kissing lark. I'm wondering how to take our relationship further without sex. I don't touch his balls at all and he doesn't touch my boobs and we're okay with that. ... (148 words)

B/f on dating site saying he was single, we've been dating for 3 years!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hiya, I'm in a bit of a pickle. My boyfriend and I have started sharing his email account and he left his laptop here for me to use as mines broke. Basically I went to send a email and I found that he had dating matches so I had a look. It said he joined the site last Novemb... (170 words)

She invites her secretly WB friend to all our dos, even the girly ones! It's getting very annoying!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4453 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I am really confused as what to do. My best friend has a FWB, which I don't have a problem with, despite the fact that he doesn't acknowledge the fact that they sleep together to anyone other than those who know about it through the horses mouth as they say. Anyhow, wha... (318 words)

Is my wife losing interest in me what is going on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm married almost a year to my wife , I am 44 and she is 21 . For the past 3 to 4 weeks I am noticing a dramatic change in her and I'm wondering is there something wrong or is she losing interest in me or what.? For the past few weeks she has been sleeping a hell of a lot , ... (272 words)

How can he possibly understand how I feel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so my ex of 16 months and i broke up march 15th 2012, he is already married to a girl he'd been dating a month and they have been together 3 months. 14 days before they had gotten married he had told me that he wasn't over me and that he wouldn't ever be over me or forget ... (490 words)

Don't trust him, I'm ready to GO!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with my bf for five years now, and like most couples we have had to deal with various issues, in our case it is the issue of infidelity and trust, me being the one who doesn't trust him. He has stepped out on me several times, and each time he apologizes, says he ... (372 words)

I think I'm a potential sex addict!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid How do I cope? I think I'm a potential sex addict, just minus the action as I'm choosing to live an independent life for good valid reasons. I carn't stop thinking about sex and endless possiblites. Sexual intercourse is on my mind often and I feel over power... (155 words)

G/f always puts family before me because she needs to feel wanted by her family!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I will try to keep this short... my girlfriend and I have dated for a little over 2 years, and we're in college together. Recently we've started to have some problems. Lately she's been "standing me up" a lot more, canceling plans frequently (more often than not). Her reasons ... (698 words)

Lesbian with a possible straight crush

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this may be silly but I've become attracted to a woman at work. I only see her for minimal periods of time. She's quiet, but I have been noticing she has gone from not saying anything to being excited when she sees me. She says hi, smiles all excited and other times ... (136 words)

If this is friendzone, then hell must be better

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear aunt agony, There's a guy I met last year and I still have a big crush on him. I am friends with his family so I really don't want to make things awkward between us. When we met we became interested in each other and we talked everyday and he actually asked me out a couple... (263 words)

I want my wife and I can't have her...sex problems!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4452 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I had a bad accedent at work and I suffer from it erectional dysfunction but not all the time. Sometimes id be right in the middle of the forplay and wham I go soft. My dr told me its the meds I'm on. Im on alot of morphine and others. I have prescriptions to make ... (482 words)

He has never had children and I can't have any now. I worry that someday he'll want them!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been in a relationship with a man for 2 years. He is 40 and I am 50. We love and care about each other but there is a problem. He is not sure if he wants kids and I am unable to have kids. I have one child from a previous marriage. He told me he feels like he doesn't ... (479 words)

My marriage is failing mabye its because I left my ex for another woman?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Hello everyone, I realized that myareiage is in trouble and she won't talk about it. I know we all have problems in relationships how ever I'm dreaming of my ex and I miss her. My dreams are hurting me because I followed love and it blew up In my face. It seems l... (766 words)

Why does he go out of his way to push my buttons when I'm having my period?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - Around the time of my period, I've noticed myself to be in a pretty bad mood, feeling crappy and being over-emotional. I admit that. What I don't get is why my bf pushes my buttons about it. He will know that I'm on my period, and ANY comment I make that doesn't sound right to ... (210 words)

I have a boyfriend but I have strong feelings for a past love. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi there. I've been with my bf for two years but last year we broke up for around 4 months and I dated another guy while on a trip to the beach. We both lived in the same city but when we went back home nothing ever happened. We stopped talking but every once in a while we ... (409 words)

Fate seems to be getting in the way of me getting a girl

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Is there truly such a thing as free will? I ask this because I seriously think that my life is being 'controlled' I am 18 years old, never had a girlfriend and yes this does get to me quite a lot from time to time. And even if I get close to getting one there always seems to be ... (164 words)

How do I let my wife know I found her vibrators without it looking like I was snooping?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4451 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi Married for 10 yrs, wife and I have great sex, when we have it. Over the last 6 mth or so, we only have sex when she drinks, which is maybe once a month. I heard all the excuses...You smell like choclate, you smell like garlic, you are sweaty, and the grand winner...I... (212 words)

Should I confront my wife about her old pictures which I found?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I was going through some photos with my wife, and came across a couple of her I didn't recognize. I know what year they were taken, and it's the year we broke up for a couple months. During that time she had a fling with an older man. I've been having a hard time dealing with ... (174 words)

My LDR boyfriend seems indifferent lately ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - What do I do if my long distance relationship with my bf has become shaky because he doesn't seem to reply most to my messages.. Also we didn't talk for 4-5 days and when he replied he sad he had been busy.. He seems very indifferent and uncaring these days... What should I do ... (55 words)

How do I break this to her without her thinking it's about her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been in a relationship with a 17 year old for about a month and a half. Its long distance so we only see eachother once a week and for me, its a 5 hour round trip. She is in a big exam year so I feel guilty asking her to come to mine, but the travel is exhausting me. ... (199 words)

Now that we are not together anymore he wants my picture!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I had going through a really tough situation my fwb and I decided to try make a go of having a proper relationship but a few weeks later I founf out he had been sleeping with another woman and he always accused me of seeing someone else when I wasn't I was faithfull ... (129 words)

After years of dating I suddenly find myself questioning his appearance!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all. I've been dating my boyfriend for years and it never bothers me about his height and the looks. Yesterday we both we were watching the mirror so he said' now I see that you are taller than me' we are both 6.2 an I'm maybe 3 inch taller. This thing now bothers me as it ... (105 words)

When I initiate sex my boyfriend rejects me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - me? I’ve been rejected a lot.? Me and my boyfriend are dating for like 2 years now.. and for a year and a half sex was great, but now its different… He always refuses to have sex with me when I initiate it. It gets me really frustrated. His reason was he’s tired and lately he ... (337 words)

First time dildo users. How do I get over the fear of using one?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been married for bout three years we like to try new things in bed. The topic of him using a dildo on me kind of scares me. I do not understand why i have given birth but can not for the life of explain y. How do i get over the fear of using a dildo.... (60 words)

Would it be illegal or considered disgusting for me to date a former teacher?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 18 years old and I'm a college student now. I have a huge crush on my English teacher in secondary school. He's 20 years older than me. However, he's baby-faced and he's a real gentleman. When I was still in secondary school, we used to have prolonged eye contacts all ... (98 words)

How far should we go without being in a proper relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been seeing a guy for about three weeks, however we have known each other this whole year. We have seen each other about 6 times in the past three weeks, including three times this past week. We have made out and the other day we went a bit further, and I dont want to go ... (142 words)

My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with leukemia. Does anyone have any advice on how to be there for a cancer patient?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with leukemia. We have been together for a year. I love her a lot and want to stay with her despite tough times ahead. Does anyone have any advice on how to be there for a cancer patient? I want her to feel as safe and happy as possibl... (194 words)

Would you consider this as stalker-like behaviour?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all, I am just wanting an opinion on a situation that has arisen on Facebook. I have a "friend" who I met through a mutual interest site. We spoke for a long time, and eventually added each other. I figured this would be fine, since he is nearly on the other si... (307 words)

I laugh whenever my boyfriend gets mad at me, why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - For some odd reason, I tend to laugh whenever my boyfriend gets mad at me. I don't do it intentionally, it just happens and it's uncontrollable. While I'm laughing he gets even more mad, and I really have to try hard to stop laughing by smirking but in the end he just ends up ... (133 words)

Can I make this work? He lives half an hour away.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay, so I met this guy at a camp this summer...he is so amazing, seems like everything I'm looking for. He lives about half an hour from me, so seeing him wouldn't be impossible, but I haven't seen him yet since we got home after camp was over. We text occasionally but he's... (224 words)

How do you all feel about "the other woman" when it comes to a relationship or marriage?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - How do you all (ladies AND gentlemen) feel about "the other woman" when it comes to a relationship or marriage. SERIOUS REPLIES ONLY. I'm not talking about "the other woman" who has no idea that the guy has a wife/girlfriend. I'm talking about the ladies on the side who i... (348 words)

My ex has a new girlfriend barely a month after we broke up, and he's going all out to profess his love for her!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex broke up with me like 4 weeks ago. It was such a hurtful break up that I kept questioning myself what went wrong in our 5 year relationship. The love, the mental, physical, and emotional aspects were there too but maybe they were to me and not to him. Anyways he fou... (298 words)

I'm falling for my best friend but he is not a suitable boyfriend. How should I handle things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My best friend and I like one another. He has teased me about liking him a few times but I have always said no. And we laugh and then talk about other things. We've always been close friends who joke about everything but can confide in one another about everything. But we've ... (183 words)

Is my boyfriend flirting on line? How is the best way to deal with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So, a friend of mine is mutual friends with a girl on facebook with my boyfriend. We were hanging out yesterday and she told me she noticed he liked a lot of this girls statuses and when she posted about looking for work he said this "you should work at a restaraunt over by me ... (92 words)

What can I do? Does she start these arguments to hide that it's SHE who is cheating, not me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - OK, so I have never tried anything like this before. I just don't know what to do. I have been with my gf for 12 years. Living together for 11. I would have asked her to get married. but she was married previous to our relationship, and reminded me throughout that she had ... (494 words)

Am I justified in feeling very upset at his refusal to apply the topical medical the Dr ordered to stop me getting more Urinary Tract infections?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently got a urinary tract infection (UTI) and was in terrible discomfort and pain for several days. I was treated with a dose of anti-biotics and was told that my partner would also have to apply a topical medicine on his penis so that there wouldn't be a relapse later. I... (156 words)

I proposed to her a month ago and she says she's still thinking about it. What should I do? Does she not love me as much I love her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4452 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I proposed to my girl and she told me that she will think about my requests now it's almost one month full she still tells me that she is still thinking about it. I love have her so much but now i'm running out of patience. What must i do? Should i wait until she has made up ... (84 words)

Does she want a relationship, with me? It's been 6 months. So why is she so cautious about a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so i keep asking this question but as yet the advice does not seem to help the situation. okay so i meet this girl online from europe and we have been talking for about 6 months and she came here to the United states to work for a while and we met and it went great an... (358 words)

I think she's the perfect girl for me. But does she really care?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - We've been together for six months, then I moved away and a month later she broke up with me because of she didn't want the long-distance. We kept in touch and at first it was awkward and now two months later we're back to talking 24/7, it's like we're together but without the ... (255 words)

Why is my supervisor acting all weird in front of me? She is confusing me. Not sure how to act when she acts up

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4452 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So what does this girl want? I have a superviser at work who is like how to put it... Bipolar one mintue then she is really nice the next She's screaming and shouting at me. Anyway shes normally like this with everyone but recently when she's in a good mood she'll come up ... (453 words)

My parents allow my younger sister more freedom than I ever had. Makes things very difficult. What changes should I instigate to help me cope with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This doesn't really have anything to do with relationships, but I need some advice. I hate hate hate being the oldest sibling. I have one younger sister, 15 years old, and I love her to bits but she is driving me insane right now. Ever since she was in 8th grade, she has b... (566 words)