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*uggylover
writes:Well.... my boyfriend left me to figure things out with his wife that he was seperated from. I know she harrased me and wanted me away but did not want to be with him. They were seperated for two and a half years. When he left me three months ago they slept together but never got back together. Well its now and he realized that they were only friends, is getting divorced and wants me back... has anyone been in this situation? How does it feel to sleep in a bed they were in. I did love this man an awful lot and still do. We talk a lot right now, have not seen each other yet. We had a good relationship before. There was a time plan id ask him to get divorced. I think he needed to leave to see that his marriage was indeed over ... does anyone have advice. I would like my relationship to work with him...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 September 2012):
 How do you know that it wasn't HER who didn't want him anymore? And that is why he is coming back? You know what I mean?
It's hard position to be in, however, no matter what he isn't over her. Going back to her that fast (even if it was for a "test drive") kind of shows that.
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reader, puggylover +, writes (17 September 2012):
puggylover is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe divorce papers are filed. I know i feel like second choice, but at the same time, he could have continued to wait around for her to be ready like she wanted him to. But he chose to come back. I know she didn't want to be with him, but didn't want anyone else to be either.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 September 2012):
She is not his ex-wife. She is his wife til the day the divorce is final.
Secondly, he left her for you? Then left you to figure out what he really wanted? Slept with his wife to see if SHE was it and when she wasn't it he wanted back with you?
I would not want this guy. You are his second choice, honey. I think he will perpetually be looking for that "greener grass".
He NEEDS to divorce his wife to accept and know that marriage is over. Not "just" leave her.
And remember if you DO get together with this guy... The ex will always be looming in the background as his "friend".
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): Dump him. He went to his ex to see if things have changed. Since they haven't he went back to you. But what if they had? You would have been done for good.
I really detest selfish people like this. Do yourself a favor and find someone who is more considerate and proper. Good luck.
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