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writes:i love him so much and ive never felt this way about anyoneI'm not the type to take chances with long relationships, actually it's my first real relationship.He's truly my best friend he knows everything about me and i know everything about him. We've been with each other for basically 2 years. I mean we were off and on for a while but this time it was different he showed me how much he loved me sometimes i thought he liked me more then i liked him. i feel like we are constantly fighting and cant stand each other but still love each other at the same time. i know im so young and im probably not going to marry him but i just dont see it ever ending for good everytime i try i'm miserable, and then we both miss each other and put all of our fighting beside. i think we both want to be done but we know that we love each other and tell each other everything that we couldnt tell our friends AND he's always been here for me and ive always been here for him ive held him while he's cried in my arms but the fighting is just consuming us so i dont know what to doo..... p.s we have all the same friends or else this would be a little easier
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 September 2012):
 Here's the key phrase in your submittal:
"...i feel like we are constantly fighting and cant stand each other but still love each other at the same time..."
THAT (statement) is paradoxic (can't be completely true because one half of it contradicts the other)...
Soooo, you need to determine which of the phrases is true and correct.... and adjust your (and your B/F's) behaviour to match it....
Good luck...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 September 2012):
 If you are fighting all the time, and on and off all the time, you are not mutually compatible and you should not be together .
Yeah I know, you " love " each other and now it all feels so passionate and intense and exciting, right ? Even the fights, probably make for great " make up " sex and tender moments of teary reconciliation with plenty of endearing sweet nothings whispered into your ear ...
You'll get tired of that, mark my words. Or he'll get tired, or you both will get tired. Sick and tired. And pretty soon. Let's give it, maybe one more year , give or take a few months.
What you call love is passion, magnetism, and raw, unchecked emotions. But love, in the long run, is ALSO ( perhaps mostly ! )made of something very simple : getting along. Understanding each other, knowing that you've got each other's back not only in emergencies but in normal daily life, feeling safe, confident and relaxed when you are in each other's company. So that you don't have to feel defensive, or watch what you say or do , knowing that it may trigger a row any moment.
Of course , even the best suited partners can't avoid having arguments at times. But seldom, and about relevant issues.They pick their battles, they don't wage a constant war .
You can try muster the guts for ending it now so you are free for someone more compatible. Or you can let it go on to the point of natural exhaustion. Both will be somewhat painful, I won't deny it- it's only up to you to choose which will hurt less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): You need to identify the reason/s why you both fight so much, and try to resolve the issue/s whatever it may be that's causing the fights. I understand that is hard when you love someone to know where to draw the line, but it needs to end one way or another. Love alone can't keep a relationship together no matter how much you want to make it last.
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