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writes:I have a yin and yang symbol on my wrist, a tattoo. But when the guy i'm seeing noticed it he said he didn't like it because it meant I believe in satan and it's quite emo?I said no, it means balance that everything has an equal an opposite reaction. We got into a bit of a debate, my reason for getting this tattoo was to show that life works on balance and that when there's too much good in my life it makes me aware that there is always a small part of bad working it's way in, but also that when everything is bad, there is always some good in my life also. Basically my life works in harmony, just like most things.But he said it makes me seem cynical because then I will never be fully happy because I always will think there is some bad in my life that will distract me from my bliss. Is he right? My friends said he was being stupid and that it doesn't make sense, but now i'm regretting the tattoo after hearing that side of the argument?
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (20 September 2012):
 The bad in your life is coming from him though, not from your tattoo. It symbolizes balance, not conflict.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (18 September 2012):
What an idiot. I wholeheartedly agree with Stacy and Yos' descriptions of the symbol. I also don't get why this guy goes out of his way to trash talk something he obviously knows absolutely nothing about. Your tattoo is beautiful in look and symbolism. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise, especially when it's a moron like this guy.
I would cut it off with him, to be honest. That kind of ignorance and close-mindedness are bad traits to have as a boyfriend. You can do so much better; for starters with someone who can appreciate the work of art you have on your body.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (18 September 2012):
 Don't regret the tattoo. If he cares about you he'll get over his narrow minded version of what it means. And since when do we always have to be the one to regrets and apologizes for everything a man doesn't like? There's nothing wrong with your tattoo and I see no way it symbolizes satan. The only thing I can possibly think of, is the fact that most Asian influence tend to worship Budha, which is clearly not connected to Jesus Christ, and possibly seems like a false religion to him. Now did he get all of that out of the yin-yang tattoo on your wrist? I have no idea. Maybe he really doesn't like tattoos in general. I suspect he is going to amount to "not being your type" in general and you should not waste too much time feeling bad about your tattoo. I love tattoos, especially when they aren't over-done. Wear it proudly. He'll get over it, or move on.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (17 September 2012):
 The concept of yin and yang means shadow and light and describes how polar opposites are interconnected and interdependent in the natural world and how they give rise to each other in turn in relation to another. They are not opposing forces but complementary forces that interact to form a greater whole. Light cannot be understood if darkness did not exist and shadow cannot exist without light. It's a Chinese philosophy and he is wrong. Furthermore he is a dick for saying a tattoo YOU have is stupid. It's permanently on your body and he is insulting you.
Regardless of whether the way he views the symbol is right, it isn't, it doesn't matter. A tattoo is a personal meaning to the person who got it. It isn't right or wrong. You see your symbol the way you see it and what it means to you. My tattoo is a cherry blossom and it symbolizes to me the first time I was ever impulsive since I'm a huge planner and I did it without a ton of thought. No one can tell me my thoughts are wrong and I'd be damned if someone told me it was stupid looking. He was very mean and I'd expect an apology at the very least. Don't let someone's small mindedness make you second guess yourself.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 September 2012):
 He's a jerk honey...
it's art.. .not a lifestyle...
you got a tatt that has meaning for you (a perfectly great reason to get one).... (and i love your reasonsing)
do not regret it... he's not worth the effort...
only advice.. never get a tattoo that represents a person... I did... (not a name thinking that would protect me from the karma of the relationship ending) and i just had to have a coverup... it's been nearly 2 weeks and the cover up still hurts...
it sounds like a lovely tatt.... and all you need is someone that appreciates the art.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (17 September 2012):
 He's being childish: he just doesn't like the tattoo at a gut level and is making up nonsense reasons for it. Sometimes you don't need a reason, and the more he tries to invent them the more ridiculous he'll sound.
The yin yang symbol has deep spiritual meaning, is very positive and is certainly not satanic or cynical. Quite the opposite: the chinese philosophy behind it is very uplifting, insightful and deep.
Don't regret the tattoo because some guy is negative about it. You chose to get one: it's going to be with you a long time, so stand behind your decision. There's always going to be people who criticise you in life, don't let them get to you.
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