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writes:How do I stop throwing my bf's past exes in his face? I found some pics of his exes a while ago, he has deleted them, but now I can't stop feeling insecure about the exes. I had too much to drink last night and we got into an argument about them again! I know this is my fault he has done nothing wrong. I have said sorry which he seems to have accepted but he has said he is still angry with me. I now feel sick with worry that I have ruined our relationship. How do I get it back on track? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): It's not easy to stop but there is some exceptional advice on this article.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retrograde-jealousy.html
OP it can be done, and it sounds like yours is borne from comparison and insecurity, things which can be improved by doing things to improve your confidence. Getting fit and healthy if you have body issues, making more of an effort to be out and socializing to feel you have others in your life and are not solely reliant on him, rediscovering old hobbies to fill your time with things you enjoy, taking up new things such as volunteering your time to help other. OP people with good lives, that are happy and confident don't tend to stress things as much or worry and to be honest OP if he can't look past a drunken argument then he's probably not the right guy but you have to deal with this issue in a positive way, so first things first you need to stop beating yourself up about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): if your insecure, that shows somehow on some level you dont trust him.
When theres no trust in a relationship it wont work.
If you want to fix this you could try talking to him about your insecurities (sober) and be reasonable to what he has to say, he probably feels you dont trust him.
If drink is the route cause of the problem, then dont drink, to save on arguments.
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