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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why do people hold such views?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am lesbian. Been with my girlfriend for nearly 6 months now. Most of my friends are fine with it, however a handful of my friends don't seem to understand and realise my sexuality. They say that lesbian sex isn't 'real' sex as there is no male to penetrate. They don't se... (160 words)

Is he in grief or is he mucking me about? I want to support him as he's lost a loved one, but....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - HI, I need advice please as I am a bit lost. I've started dating a really lovely man who treats me wonderfully but, just as things were starting to get serious between us, his mother unexpectedly died. He had to cancel a date at short notice - of course I completely ... (396 words)

Debate: Can a guy and girl really be just friends? All responses welcome guys and girls!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Simple question. Its something I've pondered for a while now. Can a guy and girl really be just friends? So many times you hear about friends getting together after a long time. I have a particular guy friend, who in my mind I'm just friends with. After all we've be... (254 words)

Should I tell him I'm a virgin? I want the first time to be special.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone I am 23 years old and I am a virgin..I have never really had any serious real relationship,I have just french kissed 2 men that's it..I was just waiting for the right man..now i'm finally in a real relationship but my boyfriend doesn't know I'm virgin,actually all ... (140 words)

My fiance feels diminished because I'm working and he is not

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4482 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help, my boyfriend whom is my husband to be on the 23rd of February this year, is not working @ the moment, he graduated his degree in Motor Mechanics, this means I know that soon he shall be working,I am working already and have a good job, this makes him feel small in ... (110 words)

I've never initiated a break-up before, but I think it's time ...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have never been the heart breaker but the heart breakee. I don't know how to iniate a break up. I am sure this is what I want but somewhat feel guilt because I feel all of my reasons are selfish ones. We have been together for so long have a child together, built a life. To ... (311 words)

Can she really be faithful to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am currently living with my girlfriend whom I've been dating for nearly a year now and she is pregnant with our first child. We fell in love while she was married to another man. I've always been slightly worried if she cheated on him she is capable of cheating on me (in her ... (145 words)

Why is my girlfriend lying about watching porn?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I recently found out my girlfriend is downloading porn. This wouldn't concern me except for the fact that she has said she has no interest in porn and scoffed at the idea when we talked about it recently. She has expressed numerous times that I am her soulmate and she wants to ... (132 words)

How do I stop gay guys from hitting on me? I'm straight!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4479 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I don't know whether I should address it at other guys, gals, or perhaps gay men. The problem is that I keep getting hit by gay men. The thing is that I am in no way undecided, I am into women, point. And I'm not exactly the warm, romantic type who brings flowers, I like ... (211 words)

I don't know if he likes me or not

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4482 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi I'm really unsure whether this guy in my class likes me or not. We went on one date last year but ended up being friends instead. So just before summer we had an argument an I ended up saying lots of offensive things to him (they were a little harsh and I apologised ... (277 words)

My fiance isn't telling people that we're getting married. Is something up?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Back in August, my boyfriend and I decided that we will get married this October. We're both have been divorced in the past (no kids), so we're keeping it small and simple (family only). I'm not the type that fusses over engagement rings, big parties, and such either. Since we ... (138 words)

My boyfriend was touching himself during foreplay. Does this mean he wasn't turned on by me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, Hope you can help. I am in a new relationship with a guy. I am not very sexually experienced, so was nervous when we slept together for the first time. During our second time together in bed, we had lots of foreplay as I told him I did not want to have full sex right ... (153 words)

I'm sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend. I want a bit more but not a relationship, I don't know how to tell him without scaring him off. What do I do?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I just got out an 8 year relationship about 6 months ago and I cant separate my feelings from sex. Ive always considered myself to have a high sex drive, but majority of the time I was in relationships, so I didnt have to have casual sex but I have had a few one night stands, ... (306 words)

I'm 16 and my 25 year old friend hints that he wants to date me. Is there anything wrong with this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4482 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hy. I dont know if this is a bad idea or not. Lately ive been friends with an awesome, kind ,funny an intelligent guy for 8 months. I like him so much. He s been telling me the past whole week that one day 'when the time is right' he would appreciate me being his and making me ... (170 words)

I found my boyfriend has been masturbating on webcam to four other girls

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone. So, I've been dating this guy for 6 months - but I found out he had been masturbating on webcam to four other girls, including two girls who I know personally, one of whom used to be one of my best friends a few years back. He also had photos of them on his comp... (252 words)

I am having a serious clash with my boyfriend and I'm looking for some advice please.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4482 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am having a serious clash with my boyfriend and I'm looking for some advice please. I was raped about 7 years ago. It was very brutal (the guy was on a lot of drugs and had a knife) and it took me a long time to get myself back on track and feeling something like my old self ... (351 words)

If he acts one way towards me and makes me feel exclusive just during work, does he see me as just a work fling?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone! I would be grateful if you could put some light into my love life... Ive recently started to develop some feelings for this guy I work with, we'll call him Hunter, we both work part time and we both work on the same days. We have known each other for about a year ... (1125 words)

I want him to be my first, but I don't want to be too pushy about it. Any suggestions?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so I've been spending the night with this guy for almost a month now, but we've never had sex. Everything was a very slow process (other than starting to spend the night, which was done just for innocent cuddling). I hadn't even given him head until August! It all started ... (206 words)

Do I accept that she doesn't want a reconciliation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi Guys, My ex girlfriend recently told me she wanted me back, but she's not ready for a relationship, we kissed and cuddled. We have been out a few times, but her attitude to me is always very blunt in messages and phone calls, I get zero affection on texts, no kisses, a... (150 words)

Why is it that a guy can have a girlfriend but when his female friend starts dating, he suddenly becomes jealous and possessive?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hey all. Tell me, why is it that a guy can have a girlfriend but when his female friend starts dating, he suddenly becomes jealous and possessive? I see this happen all the time! I told my male friend I liked him more than friends. He told me I'm gorgeous, funny, th... (281 words)

I can't help feeling he's playing games with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I used to be friends with this girl and her boyfriend. He seemed really nice. Then she broke up with him very cold heartedly and I refuse to speak to her. He started talking to me on facebook message basically crying over his relationship. Then I discovered I have feelings for ... (249 words)

How do I take on a company protected by the Government?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Hello all, I'm writting about how the world lets law breakers break the law. I was hurt in a bad work accident were a law was changed on crane operations. I had 3000 lbs of pure hard concrete fall on me and ruined my life and made my life a living hell. I could no... (358 words)

Is this relationship love or just plain old good lovemaking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Morning all um I have been with a guy on and off for some years now .We both went our own way, but now we want to come back to each other we have certain things in common we even have a child together.When I look in to this man's eyes I see love,marriage,and I really want to ... (113 words)

Why do guys always read into things too much?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 4164 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have got some guy friends.I see most of them in a strict platonic way.I'm always friendly to them but NOT flirty.We talk,hang out and laugh together. However,when I start talking to them more often(especially if we're good friends/close friends),they start to think I like ... (351 words)

Should I tell my friend that his girlfriend cheated on him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi.. I recently found out that my friends girlfriend cheated on him with one of our mutual friends about 6 months a go. My friend told me about a month a go that he had slept with her. Apparently it happended once when they were drunk, after a bad row she had with her ... (173 words)

We keep bumping into each other and having one night stands, should we keep it this way or should I ask him to meet up and talk?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, So when I was 20 I had a one night stand with a guy I met at my flight actually,he was sitting next to me we spoke we had a stop at a place for 5 hours and we had sex..and that was it.. When I turned 22 my girlfriends took me to cabo and I meet this guy at the ... (256 words)

The guy who used to bully me has changed and now he's asked me out, should I go for it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4459 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm a 15 year old bi guy. There's this guy I have a crush on and he has a crush on me too. I'm just not sure whether to go for it or not. He's slightly older, really smart and a Rugby player as well as really good looking. When he was at school with me he used to be a bit... (259 words)

I deliberately cheated, but now regret it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I recently made the biggest mistake of my life. A girl I've known since forever (seriously, our mothers are best friends and our grandmothers knew each other). Pretty much by default, it was expected we would eventually get together. Well, we did. Got together at age 19 after ... (334 words)

Do opposites really attract? How do we stop arguing so much?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay I will make this shorrt. Me and my long term boyfriend are arguing way too much. Yes I know everyone argues but its over very small things! And ofcourse we both love each other and we also live together. We are total opposites but we I wonder do opposites really attract? ... (66 words)

Why can my boyfriend only go about 2" inside of me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I had sex the second time last week. We have done it before but he has never penetrated my vagina. Well last week we tried it for the first time. First time he went in about 2 inches but it hurt me really badly like there was something blocking him from going ... (99 words)

Has anyone got herpes and how do you tel people and how do they react do you get rejected often?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - a few days ago a guy that i had been dating about a year ago contacted me and informed me during the time i was with him he had herpes. this was very upsetting for me because he said he knew he had it and didnt want to tell me.even when i asked him when we were dating if he had ... (307 words)

Have we fallen out of love with each other? Is this the end?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend persuaded me to leave my hostel and move in with him (for a few months, since I'm leaving the city after that) so that we can spend more time together and he can "take care of me". I insisted on paying him for letting me stay so I'm not exploiting him financially. ... (596 words)

I feel angry that I have been left with my ex's debt and now he's expecting a child!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - i will try to keep this as short as possible I've known my ex since we was 13 we was best friends for years and finally got together when I was 21, we both worked hard , bought a house and had a baby during our 5yr relationship, the relationship broke down before our baby ... (334 words)

My boyfriend is hanging out with his ex tomorrow and I know he still has feelings for her

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Today my boyfriend picked me up from work and he seen his friend driving around they also dated in the past but agreed to be friends. That is fine with me, the problem I have is when they pulled over to talk I was going to sign my time out sheet at work and as soon as I walked ... (176 words)

S this type of attraction possible? Or have I lost my mind entirely?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, I am currently struggling with a bizarre situation, and I would like to know if I am the only one who has experienced this. First, a little background: I identify as bisexual and have been sexually attracted to both males and females. I have been... (238 words)

Is a declining sex life inevitable in marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

- Is it true that marriage is a sure way to kill the sexual chemistry of a couple? Obviously I am concerned. This is my second marriage, the first when I was 19 and within 3 years did not feel sexually attracted to my spouse. I struggled for the next 15 years and finally we ... (182 words)

I'm worried about my friend with her much older, possessive boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - The situation is this. I am friends with a work colleague, and lately we have gotten a bit closer, so she has started to confide in me about her relationship. I've heard gossip before about her partner, people have mentioned that he is a great deal older than her and very pos... (282 words)

What would you think of an otherwise decent woman having a one night stand in the distant past?

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4459 days ago

11 September 2012 (F) age 36-40 - If you were dating a woman of good standing, moral fibre and integrity.... what would you think of her if you found out she made one big mistake several years ago in the form of a one night stand found from the internet? Would who she is today be less because of what was? She ... (83 words)

Should I trust him to make the right decisions?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Thank you for taking the time and reading this... I have been with my bf for 3 years now and we have had our ups and downs. When we first started dating I didn't put effort into the relationship due to finding out my mother was diagnosed with cancer. He stuck by me, through t... (239 words)

How can I let her down gently?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4475 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - There is this girl my cousin wanted me to be in a relationship with her.She's cute and nice with me but i am just not into her or have strong emotions for her but i don't want to act like a heartless bastard. What should I do?... (48 words)

How can I make myself more approachable to women?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, there everyone. I recently asked a question a couple of weeks saying that I was 22 years old and a virgin. to be honest I worry about attracting girls and how to be approachable. when I'm in college, there are so many nice girls who I would to talk to when I'm out in c... (107 words)

My boyfriend is clingy, obsessive and he's driving me mad

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

11 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Iv'e been going out with a guy i met at uni since april now and weve been on holiday together,hes met my parents and stayed with us and ive stayed with his parents. im 21 and hes 20 but sometimes i feel like we are soo different in how we view things. He tells me permenantly ... (367 words)

She says she needs time but what for?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

11 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - What does it mean when you start dating a girl and you suddenly ask her to be your girlfriend, and she replies that she needs time because she doesn't know you that well and that she is not ready for a relationship right now? She still continues to talk and flirt but she says... (216 words)