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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, I am 16 years old, I havnt had a boyfriend in a LONG time! I dot know why either, I hate being single and just want that special someone to love who I am. I have a friend at school who's such a sweet guy, super funny and always there for me when I need advice, I don't know what to do, I think that I may really like him, he has just recently married me on Facebook as a joke, but he said to me "you looked beautiful at prom" comments like that make me really like him, he has always been there when I needed him. He would lists to me when I was sad and always hug me. I don't know if it's because I haven't had a boyfriend in a long time that I am feeling this way about him, but he gives me a weird feeling when I see him, everyone at school always says "we think he really likes you" or "you'd be cute couple together"...I just don't know how I'd tell him I like him, but Im scared it'll ruin our friendship and we won't be the same if he doesn't feel the same way back...what do I do. And how do I do it?!:( Thanks.
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reader, Invincible  +, writes (17 September 2012):
Hmmm .... So what's wrong if he treats u ryt and take care of u wen u want him to do that ?
I think you should try to talk to him little more to know about his wxact feelings ... And if u are scared of what will happened if u ask him first ??
Here is the answer
A question you never ask will never be answered!!!!
I started out my own relationship like this n i think ryt now that i have done ryt to myself :)
Sray happy
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 September 2012):
 Is it urgent ? Do you have to decide today ? :)
Otherwise you can wait some more , a month or so, and see what happens, how things and feelings evolve, and in the meantime you think it over.
Because , as you honestly admit, part of the fascination with this boy can come from you feeling lonely, and not having had a bf in a while, and wanting the gratification of feeling liked and wanted- ego, in short, even if a very natural and forgivable form of ego ,at your age.
You feel something is sorely missing from your life ( I won't debate if you are right or wrong ) and you think this guy could give you what's missing- because he's close and approachable, but not because you particularly love HIM. Probably another , or any other, cute guy would fit the bill.
So you have to avoid impulsivity . You should be sure of what you want. If you tell him you like him and he says no,- you are right, it will be rather awkward between you, things won't be the same. And if he says yes... I've got the feeling that it may end badly for him, poor guy, because I've got the feeling ( and more or less you say so ) that you miss kisses and attentions and feeling loved... but not particularly by him, -just in general. You are anxious of being loved- perhaps not as anxious of loving HIM. That would not be fair to him - and as soon you've got your fill of reassurance , ego boost etc., in lack of real, serious feelings you'd probably dump him at once.
In short : make sure you are not going to use this boy,even involuntarily.
Why don't you wait some more and let him do his part in the meantime. Yeah I know , don't tell me- it's not that the boys have to do all the chasing, girls can be proactive too. There 's nothing wrong if a girl says " I like you " first.
Sure- but there's nothing wrong either if a boy says " I like you " first, right ? It's not against the law. Don't jump the gun, let him come to you ( he seems well disposed ). If he is dramatically shy he may need a little push - but see first what he accomplishes on his own. If he escalates his attentions and compliments, or not. That will give you a clearer insight of his feelings , and of yours too.
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